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^ :rolleyes: Yeah, like you're in any position to know. What you write says more about you than anything else. It's called projection.
 
I'm just blown away with the fact that I can be talking about something non-related to this and I then just start... weeping. Like a baby.
 
Ouch...dude sounds like she's already slotted you firmly into the "Ex - Not a chance in hell, but be nice to them anyway" cubbie.

I disagree. I would lean to how Apostle read the situation.

My senior year of high school, my best friend and I (we had been friends for ten years at this point) quit hanging out. Although at the time she and I could both provide a laundry list of reasons why, looking back, it basically boiled down to "We knew we'd be 5 hours apart in a few months, easier on the other person if we ended it gradually".

She was my other (better) half. We had the same sense of humor, most of the same interests, and wanted the same things out of life. You saw me, you saw she, and vice versa. There was nothing we didn't do together (except sex) or talk about. I loved her (and she me) in every way but romantically (and there were even bursts of a crush or two, at least from my end, over the years). There's brother and sister love, and then there was Hurst and Lucy love. The point is, we both did something that hurt us deeply to benefit the other.

It's very possible she did this with you, apostle. She let you go because she worried that she'd become an anchor.

However, you shouldn't get hung up on that. Look at the things that made her pay attention - all things you began doing to improve your own life. Nothing that you did "to win her back". Continue on this path, sending her the occasional update on the dog, if that's what she wants. If you're ever going to be in town, ask her out for coffee, or something (nothing that can be seen as 'a date'). If you call and she doesn't answer, wait for her to call you back. If she doesn't - well, there's a signal. DON'T slip "I miss you" into conversations. Play it cool, but not cold.

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be - but if it's not, there's nothing you'll regret more than if you pine away for a while, and end up having wasted all that time.
 
Ouch...dude sounds like she's already slotted you firmly into the "Ex - Not a chance in hell, but be nice to them anyway" cubbie.

I disagree. I would lean to how Apostle read the situation.

My senior year of high school, my best friend and I (we had been friends for ten years at this point) quit hanging out. Although at the time she and I could both provide a laundry list of reasons why, looking back, it basically boiled down to "We knew we'd be 5 hours apart in a few months, easier on the other person if we ended it gradually".

She was my other (better) half. We had the same sense of humor, most of the same interests, and wanted the same things out of life. You saw me, you saw she, and vice versa. There was nothing we didn't do together (except sex) or talk about. I loved her (and she me) in every way but romantically (and there were even bursts of a crush or two, at least from my end, over the years). There's brother and sister love, and then there was Hurst and Lucy love. The point is, we both did something that hurt us deeply to benefit the other.

It's very possible she did this with you, apostle. She let you go because she worried that she'd become an anchor.

However, you shouldn't get hung up on that. Look at the things that made her pay attention - all things you began doing to improve your own life. Nothing that you did "to win her back". Continue on this path, sending her the occasional update on the dog, if that's what she wants. If you're ever going to be in town, ask her out for coffee, or something (nothing that can be seen as 'a date'). If you call and she doesn't answer, wait for her to call you back. If she doesn't - well, there's a signal. DON'T slip "I miss you" into conversations. Play it cool, but not cold.

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be - but if it's not, there's nothing you'll regret more than if you pine away for a while, and end up having wasted all that time.
I appreciate the time that post took and what it contained. Thank you.
 
Apostle, I know you're hurting right now. I think what you need to do is let yourself relax. Don't torture yourself.
 
Ouch...dude sounds like she's already slotted you firmly into the "Ex - Not a chance in hell, but be nice to them anyway" cubbie.

I disagree. I would lean to how Apostle read the situation.

My senior year of high school, my best friend and I (we had been friends for ten years at this point) quit hanging out. Although at the time she and I could both provide a laundry list of reasons why, looking back, it basically boiled down to "We knew we'd be 5 hours apart in a few months, easier on the other person if we ended it gradually".

She was my other (better) half. We had the same sense of humor, most of the same interests, and wanted the same things out of life. You saw me, you saw she, and vice versa. There was nothing we didn't do together (except sex) or talk about. I loved her (and she me) in every way but romantically (and there were even bursts of a crush or two, at least from my end, over the years). There's brother and sister love, and then there was Hurst and Lucy love. The point is, we both did something that hurt us deeply to benefit the other.

It's very possible she did this with you, apostle. She let you go because she worried that she'd become an anchor.

However, you shouldn't get hung up on that. Look at the things that made her pay attention - all things you began doing to improve your own life. Nothing that you did "to win her back". Continue on this path, sending her the occasional update on the dog, if that's what she wants. If you're ever going to be in town, ask her out for coffee, or something (nothing that can be seen as 'a date'). If you call and she doesn't answer, wait for her to call you back. If she doesn't - well, there's a signal. DON'T slip "I miss you" into conversations. Play it cool, but not cold.

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be - but if it's not, there's nothing you'll regret more than if you pine away for a while, and end up having wasted all that time.
That was a really good post. Who are you?
 
Well, this is difficult. I want to get back together with her, but contacting her, reasoning with her, etc., would just push her away.

She is my Isaac. I have to lay what is left of the relationship and my feelings on the altar. I can't trick her, I can't trick God. It's over. If anything happens, it won't be because of me.
 
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