The comfort is though that you'll be wiser once this is behind you.
That's not a guarantee. It's entirely possible for people to keep repeating the same mistakes.
Apostle, at least his online personality, seems remarkably resistant to learning, adapting, or changing. He seems pretty set in his ways. He'll often state something, assume it's true, and never checks facts or listens to counter arguments. I'm guessing that this played into the demise of the relationship. However, I do hope that he learns from this. It is a great learning opportunity.
Mr Awe