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That said,
Dumped
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That said,
Not really. I'd be willing to bet almost anything that the religion excuse was just that, an excuse. A way of letting him down easy with one of those, "I really like you, but I'm just super busy right now" sorta things. Religion is really important to both of them, so she went that route. That he was willing to dump some of his belief system to accomodate her was probably a bit of a suprise, but it's beside the issue, and just further shows that it was an excuse, not THE REASON. Otherwise they could have talked it out and figured out the plan without breaking up first.
The elephant in the room would appear to be still distance from each other, and uncertainty on her part as to whether to commit long-term to a relationship under those conditions, whether it would be better/easier to be single and/or find someone closer rather than continue a long-distance relationship. Since Apostle still seems pretty testy on this part, I'd say it hasn't really been dealt with. Probably why he hasn't proposed as well, as he's afraid of pushing the real issue to the front again, forcing her to choose. Hoping that if they can just maintain the status quo until she gets back, having him in proximity 24/7 will help the other issues.
I don't blame him on that part, but if the relationship is in that kind of condition, work needs to be done, else even a slight strain will break it for good.
Should probably watch the STFU comments, Apostle. As I haven't said anything trolling, flaming, or even anything out of the ordinary, it might end up getting you warned. You invited the discussion of your personal life, and since no one here has stepped out of line, those sorts of things aren't appropriate...
That said,
OK, is that dead horse being beaten with a whip or a light sabre? Poor carcass! -- RR
That said,
OK, is that dead horse being beaten with a whip or a light sabre? Poor carcass! -- RR
Umm -- you've never heard of a club?
-- RR
That said,
OK, is that dead horse being beaten with a whip or a light sabre? Poor carcass! -- RR
Umm -- you've never heard of a club?
It looks like a corndog.
I just wanted to say that I'm very happy for you, Apostle. I wish you and your girlfriend all the best.
Y'know, after what she did to Aidan, I cheered for that guy.
'course it didn't help that I liked Northern Exposure a lot.
That said, I got dumped once by email. That bit....it was the only time I've ever been dumped. The hardest thing was the sheer number of mutual friends we had....she wound up marrying my roommate.
Are either of you leaving the church? If not, I don't really see why this would be an issue. Does she expect you to agree on absolutely everyting?
As for your situtation, I feel for you, I really do. I've been there--the blubbering mass of self-pity, the "why me", all of that which we do that doesn't do us any good, but we have to do it anyway.
Do you go to the same church? Have you sat down with a pastor or elder to discuss the issue?
Are you certain this is her real issue, or is it possible she's just using it as an excuse?
Oddly, it seems that way, yes
Did you just read the OP, or browse any of the following 27 pages of this thread? They are back together, but Apostle doesn't seem to want to address any questions regarding the rest of that question. Seems pretty obvious to the rest of us that it was an excuse (with the real reason being more likely to be distance, seperation, and uncertainty over whether the relationship is "the one". The religion bit was the "you're a nice guy, but" part of her speach, not the reason)
Here's a wacky thought: Don't click on Threads you don't want to read.
Wow . . . that beats my e-mail breakup story all hollow! But you're better off, Hoser, I'm sure! -- RR
Let's hope you don't have to stone and/or burn her at the stake one day for spouting blasphemous heresies.
Zombie Thread!! Kill it with fire!!
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Anyway...congrats. Though don't be surprised if a lot of us are counting down to the next "she dump me"
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Anyway...congrats. Though don't be surprised if a lot of us are counting down to the next "she dump me"
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