Do you have a "best friend"?

[RoJoHen]

I definitely do, and I only know he's my best friend because he's the only one of my friend that I miss when I don't see him for a while. (a while, in some cases, is no more than a day or two).

Our friendship continues to be a work in progress. We've had some rough patches where I had almost given up on him, but he always comes through in the clutch. The hard times were learning experiences, and I think they've only made us closer.

 

[Tim]

I don't have a best single friend. Rather, the guys I knew in college are en masse my closest friends. We can talk about anything, act like a bunch of children, etc.; there's no need to hide anything from each other. I feel really fortunate to have friends like that, even moreso after one them was diagnosed with leukemia (he's doing well now).

 

[Hermiod]

I don't have any friends to choose a best one from.

 

[ThankQ]

I don't have any friends to choose a best one from.

Why not?

 

[Miss Chicken]

I have known my best friend, Dianne, for about 22 years. At one stage, many years ago, we were neighbours and we continued our friendship after she moved. Our kids grew up together. I am closer to her than I am to my own sisters. We have shared good times and bad times together and she has always been there for me and me for her. I see her at least once a week and we talk on the phone several times a week. I am also friends with her sister. They are the only close friends that I have got.

I have only ever had one friend who meant more to me than Dianne does and that was Christine who died 20 years ago aged 37. I nursed her through her illness, for the last 18 months she was confined to a wheelchair. Before she got sick Christine was very popular and had numerous friends but only four of us stuck by her until the end. Christine told me that her illness taught her who her true friends were and during those last couple of years of her life we became extremely close as I was the only friend she could talk to about her fear of dying.

I regret not being with her when she died - he death came earlier than we thought it would.

 

[Amaris]

I have many close friends, but one best friend.
We come from two totally different worlds when it comes to how we were raised and the events surrounding that, but we've been friends since middle school (14 years ago). I remember in high school, we were both dirt poor, so everyday one of us would buy lunch and we'd share it. Either one of us usually had enough money to buy a soft pretzel (which came with a small cup of cheese), and two cans of lemonade, and that's what we shared almost every day for a year.

Today, I can call on him anytime (and he likewise with me) to help in any way, and he'll be there, no matter what he's doing or where he is. I prayed for him every night while he was in Iraq, and when he finally came home I was overjoyed to see him safe and sound. He is my best friend, and I would put my life on the line to save his and I know he'd do the same for me.

J.

 

[Hermiod]

I don't have any friends to choose a best one from.

Why not?

Because I find it hard to talk to people and most of the time I want to be left alone.

 

[Locutus of Bored]

My best friend Tony and I have known each other since 1993. We used to hang out almost every day, though he's since moved to Texas for his job so that's no longer possible. But we still stay in contact a couple times a week and visit each other whenever possible. I'm the godfather of his kids and was the best man at his wedding, so we're pretty close.

Yes, I know it's ironic being a godfather with me being an atheist, but he's not a strict Christian, so my duties mainly come down to setting a good example for and taking an interest in the activities and upbringing of the kids, bumping off their enemies, and so forth.

 

[John Clark]

I'd say I have several close friends and have been friends with all of them for close on 30 years

 

[JoeZhang]

I've a couple of "best" friends - the sort who'd cover for you if you'd spent the night with some hookers and the wife wanted to know why you didn't come home.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I don't really have many real life friends I can consider being "close" to, judging by the definitions of this as described above. Part of this reason is the nature of my work, moving around the country during certain periods, picking up new acquaintances and losing others, and of course the busy working hours. I hardly keep in contact with my old school friends (again I was moving around the country to firmly keep hold of several of them) but I did have about two or three university friends with whom I was very close, and who could cover for me in a crisis or whom I could talk to about things, share a drink, pop round to the house, etc.

However, at the moment I do have one or two (maybe three? ) people I have met online whom I consider very close friends - people with whom I can talk my thoughts and feelings through in complete ease and confidence. I think they know who they are. (And if they don't... hello there. )

 

[Michael Chris]

Not anymore.

 

[Holdfast]

I do, yes. Despite a pretty wide circle of people I generally call friends, they're actually just acquiantances/colleagues. I have a very limited circle of proper friends since to really trust someone enough to be a real friend you need to really get to know them, and that takes time/effort I rarely expend. My best friend, I know much better than anyone else and know very clearly and precisely what I can and can't trust him with (and I can trust him with a hell of a lot) & we're very comfortable in each other's presence. It's just an easy situation.

 

[trekkiebaggio]

Yep I do, we spend a lot of time together and have the same interests, and even though we annoy the fuck out of each other sometimes it's never serious. I mean we came to America together to work at Disneyworld and we're rooming together, I can't think of many other people I'd do that with.

 

[RandyS]

My best friend has been my best friend for 28 of our 39 years (we'll, I'll be 39 this year, he'll be 40).

Does that count?

 

[Emher]

I don't really. I have some very good friends, but not one I consider my "best" friend. I think it's because I did have one a few years ago, the girl who is also now my ex, and she betrayed in such a deep way that I think it will take a while before I trust someone else like that.

 

[Lindley]

I haven't had a best friend for about a decade now. The girl next door was my best friend when I was little. I haven't done as good a job keeping up with her as I should have.....

 

[trekkiedane]

And if you do, what makes them your best friend and not just an ordinary friend?

What's your criteria for defining a best friend?

Apart from immediate family I have only one friend.

She's definitely worthy of the "best friend"-title though: She even accepted me being a total arse while she (and my sister, who's my only other friend) had to call the cops in order to get into my home and start cleaning up my act.

Those two -only because they were my friends- actually called the police (whom in turn had to call the local psychiatric evaluator (actually just the MD on call) in order to come into my home and clean up the place (and my "act" if you will).

Those two, my sister and Taia, are matter-of-factly the best of friends one could ever ask for! I owe it to them that I today have some kind of sanity of mind left!



I used to have this guy though, that called himself a best friend, yet never acted like one: He'd say I was his best (while I knew for a fact that I was his 'only') friend -and then ask for retribution) but then he would forge my signature and give me grief from 'third parties'

Friends are the kinds of people that not only accept but respect you even at your lowest! A "Best Friend" is the one person you just don't marry! (for whatever reason) and therefore call your 'spouse'…

 

[judge alba]

my best friend would have to be my girlfriends sister, there's things i can ask/tell her that i wouldn't dare tell anyone else not even family, she's always there when i drop a bollock and she'll tell me straight if i'm being a ass wether i want to hear it or not and vice versa. my girlfiend knows about it and is cool about it

 

[RJDiogenes]

The last time I had a "best friend" was when I was in my 20s. He lived down in Hartford and I spent a lot of time down there, or we would travel down to New York or elsewhere around New England on various adventures. Then he moved to the Midwest in 1986 and we kind of drifted apart over the next several years.