Did you tease as a child?
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I teased a lot in when I was in public school.
I don't feel particularly guilty about it, though. I'm a lifetime removed from that kid. Like, horrible of horribles, I called a girl fat when I was 8 years old!
I'm sure things like that affect people over a lifetime, but I'm not gonna' carry a burden of guilt around over something that happened over 20 years ago.
I don't feel particularly guilty about it, though. I'm a lifetime removed from that kid. Like, horrible of horribles, I called a girl fat when I was 8 years old!
I'm sure things like that affect people over a lifetime, but I'm not gonna' carry a burden of guilt around over something that happened over 20 years ago.
Yes I teased other children, sometimes relentlessly, and was on the recieving end of it often enough. Kids are kids. I'm not going to feel guilty for being an asshole at 11, everyone is/was.
Mostly it was me being teased and bullied. School was hell for me all the way up until 9th grade, when I moved to a private Christian school. Seriously, the idea that I might actually end up being respected for my mind was so foreign that I remember my shock to this day when I realized that the kids at this new school were being genuine. And my shock when, the one time someone DID try to bully, the teachers actually shut it down on the spot.
The next year we moved again, and fortunately I moved to a VERY studious school, where there was a lot of competition for grades and there was nothing THAT remarkable about me. I did well there, too, aside from some incidents in PE where the teachers participated in the bullying along with the students.
But the way I grew up pretty much made up my mind--I'm going to research anywhere that my future children attend school very, VERY carefully. I want to know what kind of values and ethics the teachers have, and what kind of disciplinary action they are able to use. Teasing will always happen, I'm sure, but there need to be consequences and actual discipline and order in school, and it cannot be a victim-blame thing where the one who reports it is treated as though they're the cause of the trouble.
On the rare occasions when I teased--I feel guilty about it. That does not mean I let that guilt rule my life now, many years later, but I believe it is right to remember that regret so that I use it to teach my kids or any other kids I might happen to be responsible for at any time in my life to do BETTER than that.
The next year we moved again, and fortunately I moved to a VERY studious school, where there was a lot of competition for grades and there was nothing THAT remarkable about me. I did well there, too, aside from some incidents in PE where the teachers participated in the bullying along with the students.
But the way I grew up pretty much made up my mind--I'm going to research anywhere that my future children attend school very, VERY carefully. I want to know what kind of values and ethics the teachers have, and what kind of disciplinary action they are able to use. Teasing will always happen, I'm sure, but there need to be consequences and actual discipline and order in school, and it cannot be a victim-blame thing where the one who reports it is treated as though they're the cause of the trouble.
On the rare occasions when I teased--I feel guilty about it. That does not mean I let that guilt rule my life now, many years later, but I believe it is right to remember that regret so that I use it to teach my kids or any other kids I might happen to be responsible for at any time in my life to do BETTER than that.
^ Well you sure handled it better than I did. I don't think anyone in authority even took notice of my situation. Even when I started skipping school most days my senior year just to get away from it. Off the school bus, walk through the school building, out the other side and onto a city transit bus.
Cutter--Part of my whole problem was that I was the nerdy child that wanted to learn. And I usually made very, very good grades. That was the reward that kept me coming back: the fact that I enjoyed learning, and that I got rewarded for it. That was also very big in my family, and not disappointing my parents was also big in my mind. I would also add that my parents did try to help the situation when I was in schools with what I consider corrupt/apathetic administration, and knowing they were on my side was a big support: even when the results were few, I guess I kinda had the reassurance that I was on the side of right.
But like I said, the experience I had for that one year in the Christian school has made up my mind about what I will do if I ever have children--it is very clear to me that the public schools are either unable (hands tied by law?) or unwilling to enforce discipline and instill values of the sort that I saw when I was at the private school.
Undoubtedly, of course, NOT every private school, and NOT every Christian school does a good job of this. I intend to do a LOT of research and ask a lot of hard questions of administration and of fellow parents if/when it comes time to find placement in a school, believe me. Might I be seen as a hardass by some? Undoubtedly. But so be it, if that's what it takes to make sure my kids don't have to grow up the way I did where it was a literal shock in 9th grade to discover that I could actually be respected as who and what I was!
But like I said, the experience I had for that one year in the Christian school has made up my mind about what I will do if I ever have children--it is very clear to me that the public schools are either unable (hands tied by law?) or unwilling to enforce discipline and instill values of the sort that I saw when I was at the private school.
Undoubtedly, of course, NOT every private school, and NOT every Christian school does a good job of this. I intend to do a LOT of research and ask a lot of hard questions of administration and of fellow parents if/when it comes time to find placement in a school, believe me. Might I be seen as a hardass by some? Undoubtedly. But so be it, if that's what it takes to make sure my kids don't have to grow up the way I did where it was a literal shock in 9th grade to discover that I could actually be respected as who and what I was!
I have to admit I did once or twice not sure why as I knew how it felt.
I guess it's all part of growing up, and just human nature to do even thoiugh its not realy right.
I got teased once when I was 9/10. It ended up with her against a window with my hand round her throat. Her name was Jenny, which I informed the class was a female donkey (jennie). I never got teased again, by Donkey or anyone else.
I never teased as a child ~ I don't have it in me to be mean... but as an adult I find it irresistable, as long as I am sure the teasee will respond in the same manner.
I never teased as a child ~ I don't have it in me to be mean... but as an adult I find it irresistable, as long as I am sure the teasee will respond in the same manner.
I think the closest I ever really came to teasing someone was telling a disturbed and rather annoying kid that his father had likely committed suicide because he had him for a son.
As for getting teased, there was a rumor going around during elementary and middle school that I was gay. Fuck knows how it got started. I got in a number of brawls over that.
As for getting teased, there was a rumor going around during elementary and middle school that I was gay. Fuck knows how it got started. I got in a number of brawls over that.
Oh, I'm sure we all agree friendly teasing between those who actually appreciate each other is fine
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Well, we DID have this one fat kid in 2nd grade... We called him Tube. I think it went something like..."Tuba Tuba two by four...couldn't fit thru the bathroom door....so he did it on the floor.. etc.... don't know whatever became of him actually....
Despite spending most of my early school years as the skinny, small, nerdy kid, I somehow managed to avoid the bullies and never really suffered from teasing or that kind of thing. I think I just scared others by being too clever for my own good.
The flipside of this, of course, is that I was never in a decent enough position of power during those formative years that I could get away with teasing.
The flipside of this, of course, is that I was never in a decent enough position of power during those formative years that I could get away with teasing.
Oh, I'm sure we all agree friendly teasing between those who actually appreciate each other is fine
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Get 'em, K!
You should have scrawled her name on the restroom wall and wrote "For a good time call .. 867-5309".
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I was bullied (let's not mince words here) far more than I ever bullied, but that's no excuse, and I remain deeply ashamed of the manner in which I treated two other children in particular. In retrospect I can identify the social factors that led to my behaviour, but that only underscores the tragedy of it all.
No, I was the one getting teased. But I always got revenge. I had a bully in 5th grade that tormented me daily. On Valentine's day, we all had these little "mailboxes" to exchange cards. I put a death threat in his. 
It made him cry. He left me alone after that, but one day I tripped him when he walked past my desk, and he fell on his ass, further adding to his humiliation.
At summer camp, I was always getting teased for one reason or another. So when one kid came up behind me and put a pair of dirty underwear over my head, I punched him HARD in the face. (6th grade!) Another one that was bullying me, I tied his shoelaces together in knots that were never going to get untied and poured sour milk all over his bed. He also cried.
There was another kid named Chris who used to ride up alongside me on his BMX when I was walking to school. He was a year older than me. One day he had left his bike unattended and I knocked it over and stomped the shit out of it.
It made him cry. He left me alone after that, but one day I tripped him when he walked past my desk, and he fell on his ass, further adding to his humiliation.At summer camp, I was always getting teased for one reason or another. So when one kid came up behind me and put a pair of dirty underwear over my head, I punched him HARD in the face. (6th grade!) Another one that was bullying me, I tied his shoelaces together in knots that were never going to get untied and poured sour milk all over his bed. He also cried.
There was another kid named Chris who used to ride up alongside me on his BMX when I was walking to school. He was a year older than me. One day he had left his bike unattended and I knocked it over and stomped the shit out of it.
I'm getting the distinct whiff of a certain Billy Bullshit Esq. from some of the stories being told here.
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