Describe the perfect girl or guy for you

[Rush Limborg]

The ideal woman for yours truly? Well...

Someone beautiful, inside and out. By that, I mean a warm, sweet, caring personality, innocent and idealistic--one might say "childlike" in her idealism and love of life.

Someone who laughs easily--a pleasant, joyful laugh. Enthusiasm, fun-loving, someone who knows how to cheer me up. I'm actually something of a cynical person--and I would want her to be there to reassure me, and give me hope through her words, and her smile.

Innocent, but not "naive"--certainly honest with herself, and someone who can be saddened by the evil in the world--but someone with a strong enough soul that it won't eat at her inside, or give her any bitterness. A warm encourager, a beautiful soul that the world can't touch, as it were.

Building on "idealism"--a great, uncompromising integrity and courage. Honest, not afraid of the truth--authentic. An inspiration to me, who would cause me to desire to "live up" to her. Confident in herself, certainly--she must take care of herself, of course.

Still...not a confrontational person. I'm pretty confrontational (as many of you know)...but the irony is, I actually despise conflict, especially if it's with someone I care about.

By "non-confrontational", I do NOT mean a doormat. As I said, a matchless integrity--she would not allow anyone to "step on" her. Still...a gentle spirit, who would basically "disarm", rather than "defeat".

Someone of great intelligence and sensibility--and someone who shares my Christian faith, obviously. (My politics, too--remember, I don't like conflict with someone I care about!)

As for interests...well, as an Aspie, I have a relatively limited set of interests...and she must be willing and eager to "put up with" them. Personally, I'd rather she share them, but...at least have her tolerate them, and smile supportively (not "amused") at them.

Someone unafraid to be vulnerable--not weak, just...willing to open up about her struggles, and willing to come to me for help. (Basically...so we can build each other up when down.)

I actually tend to be cold towards others--friendly and easygoing, certainly...but there's almost always a wall. A woman such as this would, again, be able to "disarm" me in this.

Still...one thing. I'm not a "children" person (I'm easily driven to frustration by chaos)--and my honor would demand I not leave all those responsibilities to her. So no children for me. Which basically limits the field by a lot. Somehow...I doubt such a woman would want to not be a mother.




(I could describe physical characteristics, but--"beautiful" and "pretty", at the very least, should suffice. Soft face and features, definitely--fits the "innocent" personality I described, and emphasizes it.

Blond or brunette or redhead, blue or brown eyes, short or long hair, doesn't really matter, as long as it's "natural"-looking for her--emphasizing her "authentic" element. An expressive face, which lights up when happy.

...

Now, it should be obvious, to all who've been reading my posts in the DS9 Thread, who I'm setting up at the "model" for the Ideal Woman....)

 

[RJDiogenes]

My ideal woman would be somebody who is similar to myself, whose life revolves around the Arts & Sciences, with a broad spectrum of interests, who is open minded and who has a sense of humor, is talented in some area of the creative Arts, who is reserved and a homebody, is quite libidinous, a non-smoker and has two webbed toes.

 

[thestrangequark]

My ideal woman would be somebody who is similar to myself, whose life revolves around the Arts & Sciences, with a broad spectrum of interests, who is open minded and who has a sense of humor, is talented in some area of the creative Arts, who is reserved and a homebody, is quite libidinous, a non-smoker

..............

and has two webbed toes.

So close. Alas, it will never work between us.

 

[Amaris]

1] Someone who follows good hygiene (bathes regularly, clips nails, etc).

That's about it. I don't really put restrictions on what I'm looking for in an ideal person, because that idea can change from time to time. Love doesn't really stem from what you believe is ideal, I've found that love likes to surprise the hell out of you, and then sweep you off your feet.

 

[RJDiogenes]

My ideal woman would be somebody who is similar to myself, whose life revolves around the Arts & Sciences, with a broad spectrum of interests, who is open minded and who has a sense of humor, is talented in some area of the creative Arts, who is reserved and a homebody, is quite libidinous, a non-smoker

..............

and has two webbed toes.

So close. Alas, it will never work between us.

Well, if you can substitute a Boston accent for the British one, I can settle for... uh... whatever you got down there.

 

[iguana_tonante]

I don't believe in "perfect matches" and "soul mates". I only believe in hard work, determination, loyalty, trust, and forgiveness. These are the pillars of a partnership. Looks are passing: the young grow old, the plain can turn beautiful (with a little help) and even violet hair may look dashing under the right light. Even attitudes are fickle: the timid grow confident, the assured is broken, and far more dangerous than any actual change, familiarity begets contempt. A relationship, any relationship, is only worth the effort both partners put in it. And whether they will know if it's better to call it quits.

 

[Amaris]

I don't believe in "perfect matches" and "soul mates". I only believe in hard work, determination, loyalty, trust, and forgiveness. These are the pillars of a partnership. Looks are passing: the young grow old, the plain can turn beautiful (with a little help) and even violet hair may look dashing under the right light. Even attitudes are fickle: the timid grow confident, the assured is broken, and far more dangerous than any actual change, familiarity begets contempt. A relationship, any relationship, is only worth the effort both partners put in it. And whether they will know if it's better to call it quits.

 

[Deranged Nasat]

I only believe in hard work, determination, loyalty, trust, and forgiveness.

That's a wonderful summary of the essential ingredients. Although I see them as (necessary) virtues that maintain and strengthen the relationship and reinforce initial connections, rather than being the driving force alone; I personally believe in a more instinctive compatibility beyond the animalistic sexual or purely intellectual. But that's just me (and sorry to use a cliche but it's true - I'm young ).

Maybe my overall lack of interest in sexuality skewers it a bit too.

 

[Spaceman Spiff]

Someone who can get blood stains out of rental clothing.

 

[Franklin]

Perfect for me wasn't looking for someone like me, or someone who had to share all my likes, while I shared hers. My wife and I share very little of the same taste in music; she's a Republican; I'm a Democrat; she is cautious; I'm not so much. It goes on from there. Twenty percent of one of us is probably at odds with twenty percent of the other most of the time.
But she's perfect because sees me like no other person has or will. And it's the same for me with her. We grow together. We keep each other honest. At least we have for 23 years.
If I'd have been looking for a perfect fit by some set of standards, I doubt I'd have never found my wife. So, the hell with perfect. I'll take her. That's a complement, I think.

 

[iguana_tonante]

I see them as (necessary) virtues that maintain and strengthen the relationship and reinforce initial connections, rather than being the driving force alone; I personally believe in a more instinctive compatibility beyond the animalistic sexual or purely intellectual.

For me, the "initial connection", as you call it, is completely random. I've connected with meek geeky girls; outgoing, carefree pixies; career-focused businesswomen; wide-eyed scientists; caustic snarkers; etc. No pattern at all. I have no idea what sparks the interest: I just know I talk to them and, zap!, it's there.

So I care much more about what makes a relationship stronger and meaningful than what sparks it, or the specific look or personality of the girl in question. Since I don't play favourites with personality traits (excepts for excluding truly despicable ones, like racism, bigotry, and a preference for Microsoft products), I am far more interested in how she deals with being in a relationship.

(If there is any trend, most of my interests have been petite, shapely brunettes. But I live in Italy: most of the female population of reproductive age is made of petite, shapely brunettes (and the rest are buxom matrons who cook endlessly... which is not a bad thing either, all things considered). So it's probably just a statistical thing.)

Maybe my overall lack of interest in sexuality skewers it a bit too.

Ok, that's definitively not my case.

 

[Saul]

I would say someone like fairy tale. But also someone I had something in common, beautiful and fun. But looks isn't the most important nor is having the same interests. I think as long as I can get on well with them it's a very good thing, I don't want the conversation to dry up. I don't want them to get offended by my Jokes. I want someone who is cool headed and not picky. Probably someone who takes me out of my comfort zone and allows me to let loose. I don't want to look down on them so mutual respect is good.
Having someone who is like a best friend, that's honest and trustworthy. Someone who isn't stupid. I'd like to learn things from them too.

Great looks and common interests (trek fan) would be awesome though.

 

[Rush Limborg]

^Amen on that last one!

 

[Captain_Nick]

My ideal woman is one who knows when to keep her trap shut, and can clean my house as well as I can. She must be sexually unattractive to keep other males at bay but not so unattractive that I am unable to be aroused sexually. I would prefer this woman to have a high paying job and be financially illiterate. She must be ok mentally as I don't have the patience to deal with clingy or insecure types. I want her to have her own life so that she doesn't interfere with mine.

I am sure I will meet this woman a couple of days after hell freezes over.

 

[Miss Chicken]

I don't think there is a perfect guy for me. Anyone who could put up with me would need the patience of a saint and I don't want to have a relationship with a saint.

 

[scotpens]

1] Someone who follows good hygiene (bathes regularly, clips nails, etc).

Well, at least no one could accuse you of having unrealistically high standards.

My ideal woman? Highly intelligent, self-assured and independent, emotionally strong, with a charming and witty personality, and timelessly beautiful. In other words -- Emma Peel.

Yeah, I know. Dream on, pal.

 

[Kestra]

I was thinking about this a bit and there are plenty of traits that are important to me. Intelligent, considerate, funny, sexual, etc. But really, I just want to be able to say, "He's a good man." I know that's vague, but somehow it's the most important thing of all.

 

[Amaris]

1] Someone who follows good hygiene (bathes regularly, clips nails, etc).

Well, at least no one could accuse you of having unrealistically high standards.

I'm fairly pragmatic, yes.

Normally, standards like this would be a given, but it's just that I've met too many women who do not follow these basic standards, and so I make sure to define them, just to be very clear. I mean, I'm no Crown Prince, but I am clean.

My ideal woman? Highly intelligent, self-assured and independent, emotionally strong, with a charming and witty personality, and timelessly beautiful. In other words -- Emma Peel.

Yeah, I know. Dream on, pal.

That's what dreams are for. You never know.

 

[Bayzel]

Big boobs, good personality, preferably the same interests so we have something to talk about, not just awkward moments all the time.. And uhh, chubby girls

 

[Jetfire]

Describe the perfect girl or guy for you

Kestra!