Dating at Work

[MetalPants]

Yesterday I went to a training session with a couple of female coworkers. On the ride down there, they asked why I didn't look for dates at work.

They seemed shocked when I mentioned the old phrase (and apologies for the language), "You don't fuck where you eat."


So let me ask you BBS'ers, do you look at your coworkers as possible dates? Has it ever worked out for you? And finally, if it goes wrong, does it always go horribly wrong as it has in my experience?

 

[Ethros]

I guess it depends on where you work.
If its some tiny office with about 10 or less staff then it could end up being awkward.

Where as if its some large company, and the person you're dating is totally on a different department or whatnot and you're not working directly with them, then it wouldn't really matter

 

[Robert Maxwell]

There's only one coworker I would potentially date, and the main reason I don't is because I don't want things to be weird at work. That said, I have a friend who is dating her boss, and they're doing okay. They are keeping it on the DL as far as I know, though.

 

[SmoothieX]

They seemed shocked when I mentioned the old phrase (and apologies for the language), "You don't fuck where you eat."

Isn't it "Don't shit where you eat?"

 

[John Picard]

They seemed shocked when I mentioned the old phrase (and apologies for the language), "You don't fuck where you eat."

Isn't it "Don't shit where you eat?"

Smoothie is correct; however, dating at work is one of those "play it by ear" situations. It can be good, or it can be bad.

 

[KimMH]

"DANGER WILL ROBINSON ! DANGER!"

 

[Pingfah]

Yesterday I went to a training session with a couple of female coworkers. On the ride down there, they asked why I didn't look for dates at work.

They seemed shocked when I mentioned the old phrase (and apologies for the language), "You don't fuck where you eat."

Were they shocked by the notion, or just the incredibly crass manner in which you communicated it?

 

[SmoothieX]

They seemed shocked when I mentioned the old phrase (and apologies for the language), "You don't fuck where you eat."

Isn't it "Don't shit where you eat?"

Smoothie is correct; however, dating at work is one of those "play it by ear" situations. It can be good, or it can be bad.

When I met my wife, we were working at a summer internship at the same facility. Different lab, different boss, not at all in the same chain of command.

Then again, I also had a boss right out of college. He was the Area VP and oversaw two offices. He was married to the secretary at one office. Then started porking the one from the other office on the side, and eventually married her.

So, then he basically went the nepotism route and let the new wife bill 40 hours a week yet only work 10. And the brother of the first wife worked at my office, so that was obviously strained.

 

[TheSeeker]

Back when I was a single waiter the workplace was pretty much the only place I met women!

 

[MeanJoePhaser]

"Don't dip your pen in the company inkwell." is a less vulgar saying, but then you have to explain to anyone under 40 what an inkwell is.

"Don't Fishing Off the Company Pier"

"You don't get your slash where you get your cash."

 

[John Clark]

Given how one of the relationships I've seen in one of my workplaces went, I'd say it's generally not a good idea. (That one was manager and one of his staff though)

There is someone I wouldn't mind dating at work. We're in different departments, but I'm still not sure it's wise.

 

[CommanderRaytas]

Bad idea. Take it from someone who knows.

Especially when it involves the department's boss.

Should you ever feel tempted...just don't. Really. Don't.

 

[snakespeare]

Don't do it. Nope. Absolutely not.

 

[Jadzia]

Follow your heart.

 

[CommanderRaytas]

The question is, is it really your heart speaking? At least you should wait until you can tell the difference between love and lust, and that is damn hard to do.

 

[John Picard]

Two places of employment ago, there were two programmers who were married (both worked on different teams). Anyway, I'd asked one or the other about it and learned that both worked for different companies and then the one bought out the other, they were on the transition team of each group to merge the systems. One thing led to another and -- you can guess the rest. Last I heard, even though the husband was much older and had teen kids from a previous marriage, they were expecting a new baby.

 

[CommanderRaytas]

Well that's obviously love, isn't it?

 

[jkladis]

It's like bungee jumping. The greatest thrill in the world until it doesn't go as expected.

 

[sidious618]

I tutor fifteen year olds so I tend not to date work related people.

 

[Lindley]

There's something ironic about that.