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Joke profile is jokey. I guess this would've been more appropriate on 4/1. Oh well.
The thing is that Charlie Brooker is married to the lovely Konnie Huq, which made everyone wonder where his vitriole and spume came from.
The thing is that Charlie Brooker is married to the lovely Konnie Huq, which made everyone wonder where his vitriole and spume came from.
Doesn't make him any less right. People really are fucked up by unrealistic expectations when it comes to romantic relationships.
Quite true, but he's still a lucky bastard. The other five episodes of How TV Ruined Your Life are worth watching as well, but I wouldn't recommend watching them all in one go. I don't think anyone's psyche could cope with that.
I try to pretend certain things don't matter to me and at times feel like just giving up. I cannot help but feel that the most important thing to me isn't worth giving up no matter how bad things are stacked against me.
What is this important thing?
Finding someone that I can love with all my heart and be with the rest of my life. A partner, a friend, a lover...someone who IS my better half...the person that completes me.
I have this dream of finding the perfect lady(to me) and having the most beautiful wedding and living a life of pure joy.
I know life has it's ups and downs and nothing is perfect...but more than anything I want to enjoy life with a woman I can love unconditionally and have a family and not repeat the mistakes of those who came before me.
Am I asking too much to want a person I can love, honor and cherish for the rest of my life?
I just wish I was in the position do receive what I am hoping for.
You may now tear my little rant to shreds.
Dude---I have SO been where you are right now. It does get better, I promise. In order to find my Hubby (we just passed our 7th anniversary), I had to do a few things:
1)I stopped trying so hard. There's nothing like the stink of desperation to send people fleeing for their very lives. Seriously. I can't tell you how many potential relationships I destroyed before they even got started.
2)I stopped looking for someone "to complete me." Life isn't "Jerry McGuire." You have to be complete yourself, be happy by yourself, in order for someone to want to be with you. The moment I discovered this, when I stopped agonizing over my sad and lonely life and just said "Screw it. I'm going to be myself and just have fun"----that was when I met someone. I left my tiny circle of co-workers and neighbors, and went to a convention in another town. I got bored and struck up a conversation with the AV guy. That guy---the geek running the videos at the convention---ending being my husband. I wasn't looking for a husband at the time; I just wanted to make friends.
3) I am in horrible physical condition--have been all my life. Hubby is a self-described "pencil-necked geek." I'm short and fat, he's tall and uber-skinny. He certainly wasn't rich; at the time, I made more than he did. Now he has a good salary and great job security. I only work part time now, as the staff is slowly being replaced by a software program. When hubby picked me up for our first official date, he drove a Nissan that had no A/C, a black hood, blue trunk and different colored doors. He apologized profusely, but I told him it was ok, since he now knew I clearly wasn't dating him for his "cool car."
Drop your expectations. In fact, don't have any. Just go out and do things you might not ordinarily do. Push yourself and be open. More importantly, do go out LOOKING for love. Just have fun. To me, it sounds like your depressed and that's what's keeping you so unhappy. Depression has hounded me my whole life, so I know how crippling it can be. But when you are able to gather some strength, try just being in the moment, instead focusing on your entire life and what you don't have. In other words--relax.
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None of which belongs in an unrelated thread. Take it elsewhere.
None of which belongs in an unrelated thread. Take it elsewhere.
No sense of humor?
A little digression never hurt anything. No need for mini-Modding.
I try to pretend certain things don't matter to me and at times feel like just giving up. I cannot help but feel that the most important thing to me isn't worth giving up no matter how bad things are stacked against me.
What is this important thing?
Finding someone that I can love with all my heart and be with the rest of my life. A partner, a friend, a lover...someone who IS my better half...the person that completes me.
I have this dream of finding the perfect lady(to me) and having the most beautiful wedding and living a life of pure joy.
I know life has it's ups and downs and nothing is perfect...but more than anything I want to enjoy life with a woman I can love unconditionally and have a family and not repeat the mistakes of those who came before me.
Am I asking too much to want a person I can love, honor and cherish for the rest of my life?
I just wish I was in the position do receive what I am hoping for.
You may now tear my little rant to shreds.
Why would I tear it to shreds? It's a perfectly valid desire.
Although I'm not in a position to tell you how to live your dream (I'm not actually basking the light of mutual love and respect myself) I also wouldn't tell you to give up on it. Maybe you need patience in abundance to finally realize it.
Perhaps that was an attempt at meta-humor? E.g, a mod had the "disruptive" sig and avatar, so a regular poster stepped up and pretended to be a mod.
You're sweet.
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I am not looking...I don't feel I am in a position to be looking. I need to fix my situation. 
So ... fix it, wtf
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Amaris
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I am not looking...I don't feel I am in a position to be looking. I need to fix my situation.
What are you doing to change your situation? Have you made a plan?
Agreed. Like I said, yoga and/or martial arts.I am not looking...I don't feel I am in a position to be looking. I need to fix my situation.
You guys do realize that Jetfire's original post was a rant right? Looks like he just needed to get things off his chest, he wasn't looking for advice or anything. Whatever though.
That's why I recommended Charlie Brooker's rant by proxy, which I find kind of cathartic.
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Jetfire
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This was just a rant and I was feeling pretty down about something...but there is no reason for this thread to stay open...I appreciate the advice some people have given...I think I am good now.
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