As far as the "I've never faced death... not like this..." I think it's appropriate. The two deaths that would have been most impactful for Kirk in TOS were Edith Keeler, who he loved deeply but had only known for a few weeks, and his brother Sam, who might compare but we don't know exactly how close they were. On the other hand, he had a close relationship with Spock for over twenty years. Also, Spock's death was one of self-sacrifice to save the ship from a situation that Kirk was at least partly responsible for, whereas Sam was murdered in a situation out of anyone's control. I can see how Spock's death would have hit him differently than any other. YMMV.
You mention
Operation: Annihilate and Kirk's brother Sam (who Kirk found dead on the colony) - but you seem to have forgotten that at one point (before they discovered the 'light' cure that killed the organisms) - that Kirk was having to contemplate ordering the deaths of 1 million colonists to prevent the organisms from spreading - anong the Spock, and his own Nephew (from a transcript of the episode):
Captain's log, stardate 3289.8. I am faced with the most difficult decision of my life. Unless we find a way to destroy the creatures without killing their human hosts, my command responsibilities will force me to kill over a million people.
KIRK: Gentlemen.
SPOCK: I regret I see no other choice for you, Captain. We already know this thing has destroyed three civilizations. Perhaps more.
MCCOY: Gentlemen, I want it stopped, too, but not at the cost of destroying over a million people.
SPOCK: Including myself, Doctor, and Captain Kirk's young nephew. Understandably upsetting, but once it spreads past here, there are dozens of colonies beyond and billions of people.
MCCOY: If killing five people saves ten, it's a bargain. Is that your simple logic, Mister Spock?
KIRK: I will accept neither of those alternatives, gentlemen. I cannot let this thing expand beyond this planet, nor do I intend to kill a million or more people to stop it. I want another answer. I'm putting you gentlemen on the hot seat with me. I want that third alternative.
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Now, yes, it worked out where they found a solution that killed the organisms but didn't harm the host - BUT, here Kirk definitely faced death and did in fact contemplate and probably would have made the decision to stop the organisms if the cure had not been found.
Other episodes you're leaving out:
Conscience of the King: Kirk was one of those deemed 'worthy by
Governor Kodos (aka
Kodos the Executioner). I'd say that's 'facing death' - and I'm sure some of Kirk's friends were in the group deemed necessary to die so others can live. It had such an effect on him the speech he had Anton Karidian (who yes, turned out to be Kodos) read for the voice test was written from Kirk's memory - so that time he faced death had a large impact on him.
Obsession: Here we find that 11 years earlier while serving aboard the USS Farragut as a young lieutenant, Kirk and the Farragut crew encountered a Gaseous Creature The encounter killed half the Farragut crew (including Captain Garrovick, who was a hero and role model to Kirk), with Kirk and the ship's first officer among the survivors.
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Again, another time where Kirk faced death and the loss of a number of comrades and a mentor/father figure he looked up to at that time. It had such an effect on him, when he encountered the same creature again, he became obsessed with killing it - and was willing to do so even if it cost others lives (the 1701 was supposed to rendezvous with another ship that had perishable medicine that was needed to stop a plague on a Federation planet.
I could list a few more examples from TOS - but yeah I found that line of Kirk's in STII:TWoK to be a bit ridiculous - still do.
Well, Scotty can't get them back online because of the radiation, which causes him to pass out as he's telling Kirk about it. He recovers after McCoy treats him, but he's not recovered before Spock has entered the chamber. Presumably, Scott wouldn't be the only one of the engineering crew affected by the radiation. Add to the fact they would be shorthanded after the casualties from the earlier attack, the lack of experience of the crew aboard (who ran at the first attack, so there's not a lot of courage in this bunch), and I can believe there wouldn't be anyone in engineering both capable and willing to do what Spock did at that time.
As far as the suggestion that they should have been able to "press a few buttons" - well, you're essentially arguing that there should have been a less dramatic solution. To me, that would have been poor writing, because the whole point of a movie like this is to make it as dramatic and exciting as possible, which IMO is where TWOK excels for all its faults.
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My point is: Name me any other instance where Star Trek crewmembers were wading into radiation chamber requiring protective suits. Never happened during the run of TOS on TV - even in episodes like
The Doomsday Machine (where Mr. Scott with 5 other crewmen repair the U.S.S. Constellation's Impulse Engines and Phaser Banks; Or
That Which Survives which has Mr. Scott using a magnetic probe and is lying 3 feet from the active matter/anti-matter flow. You'd think they'd come up with something that didn't make it appear Starfleet technology had regressed.
Again, I DO like the film - but I still maintain the overall writing wasn't that great. But that's just my opinion. It doesn't make your's or any one else's opinion less valid - but I do think if ST:TMP hadn't been such a bad remake of TOS -
The
Changeling; I think some might have viewed TWoK with a bit more of a critical eye. ST:TMP didn't really get the portrayal of the main character relationships right - and came across as very sterile (because Robert Wise was trying for a dispassionate
2001: A Space Odyssey with ST:TMP.) When the 'Big 3' interacted with each other in TWoK, it did feel like the relationships had returned to the old 'TOS vibe' and I think a lot of fans at the time (I was 19 when TWoK was out in 1982) we had something that finally felt like the TV series we all loved.
BUT - that "I've never faced death.." angle taken with James T. Kirk <--- Nope, ignores a LOT of history the character had built up in the TOS series. Kirk faced death on that level (or more) a number of times previously in his life and career. So yeah, sloppy writing on that point.
