• Welcome! The TrekBBS is the number one place to chat about Star Trek with like-minded fans.
    If you are not already a member then please register an account and join in the discussion!

CONFESSIONAL thread (ANONYMOUS so tell us the juicy stuff!)

I'm in love with someone. I haven't exactly been on the down low about it. So either this person is dense and hasn't picked up on it or is purposely ignoring my advances. Either way, it really sucks. This someone also posts on the board.

Tell him/her and find out for certain!

Call me cynical, but I don't have faith in long-distance relationships (unless the two people are already married to begin with). At least for me, it didn't work. My ex was half a world away. I was in California; she was in living in my country of birth. We didn't have e-mail or Internet at the time or text messaging. But come on, who wants to stay in touch when you're not even committed to each other? :lol: Then my cousin introduced me to a really nice lady who was also in another country; we kept in touch for some time, sent pictures and e-mails, but by golly, nothing came out of it.
 
Call me cynical, but I don't have faith in long-distance relationships (unless the two people are already married to begin with).

It's definitely difficult. My husband and I spent the first four years of our relationship in different states, but at least we were still able to see each other every couple of weeks or once a month. Still, I often felt like my relationship was with my phone, not a person. It's not for everyone, and I've always advised people against being in a long-distance relationship if there's anyway to avoid it.

... and now all the flirts come out. This is great. :lol:
:guffaw: "So... how you doin'?" ;)

Beware! I showed my husband some of the posts on TBBS and I think he might be lurking around here now! :p
 
It happens to some people.

Sorry, but it's not real. It's like falling in love with a penpal.
Which has happened countless times as well.

Until you meet in person, and establish a relationship of some kind, it's really not a romance. It's an online friendship which may or may not last when you meet IRL.
Yes, you must meet in person to know if you have sexual chemistry and are socially compatible. However, people online are drawn to places where they meet others of similar tastes and interests; and the nature of online friendships is such that they can bypass the social and sexual politics that are often barriers in real life. Online friendships therefore have the potential to be more straightforward and honest. Thus, when the two people meet in person the emotional relationship is already established. I don't see why this can't or shouldn't work; but then I'm an incurable Romantic. :adore:
 
Almost everyone I've met in person has been very similar to their online personality, so it's no surprise that people could fall in love with someone's online personality and then feel the same way in person. Although you probably should meet the person before it actually counts.
 
Not everyone is an actor, or lies online. Some people of course do create an illusion. I would say they are not the majority however. It is not at all easy to consistently hide your true nature, not unless you are a psychopath. Some people may be exactly as you read them, what you see is what you get. I believe it's perfectly possible to fall in love with someone's ideas, and the way they think and conduct themselves online. You can post considerately and respectfully, much as you would behave in real live, or you can be a dick, like you are face to face.

Actually I was saying that we create the illusion, not the other person. We take the words and possibly a picture then build a temp-personality around them. Sort of like Geordi and Leah Brahms on the holodeck. But you are right; there are folks out there who do make up characters for themselves. You just never know. I have had online relationships before and two of them worked out quite well. Actually one is still a very close friend. But I admit that both times I was surprised by the differences between the person in my head and the actual person.


And I should have never mentioned the love PM's. You twisted kitties have gotten the wrong idea about them (especially when they threaten to leave there significant others and hop in a car to come live with you. :eek: ) This is not a good thing folks.
 
It happens to some people.

Sorry, but it's not real. It's like falling in love with a penpal.

Until you meet in person, and establish a relationship of some kind, it's really not a romance. It's an online friendship which may or may not last when you meet IRL.

I don't know if I agree. I actually just got home from a wedding. They got engaged three weeks ago. They met in person for the first time two weeks ago.

Awesome wedding, btw.
 
It's lovely to see how a bit of BBS loving has sparked some discussion... :lol:

A couple more from the files:

A very sweet, gorgeous women asked me out for a drink. I said I was busy and I really wasn't, and I don't know why I said that.

I have changed my name to Cowardly Moron.

Create a cocktail called the Cowardly Moron instead and buy her one of them!

While babysitting my brother when I was 13 or 14, and he was perhaps 7, I tied him to a chair and sprayed him with a watergun for pretty much the entire night. His tears were like gasoline being thrown on a fire.

Salty gasoline... mmmm.... :lol:


And, another hidden BBS love affair?

I'm pretty sure I'm falling in love with someone on the board. I can't get this poster out of my head!

It would be funny if this poster happened to be the other half of the one being mentioned as the object of someone's affection earlier! :D

(I can't tell because one of them is using a totally anonymised email account, so even I don't know the inside scoop... but that's the fun of the thread!)
 
If you are not already a member then please register an account and join in the discussion!

Sign up / Register


Back
Top