CONFESSIONAL thread (ANONYMOUS so tell us the juicy stuff!)

[JonathonWally]

^ Exactly. Why not just tell them out right and stop beating around the bush. For example, I consider flirting a form of social currency and tend to ignore it, even when serious. Basically if you want my attention your best bet is to be bold. It might not work on everyone but you won't know their true feelings until do more than "wave your arms around".

I'm the same way with my flirting, but you're much better at it than me.

Oh and a word of advice... don't be creepy about it. As someone who has had his fair share of creepy "Love PM's" around here be sure to carefully choose your words. Gushing can appear as stalking... or be an indication of some form of madness. Short, to the point and non-intrusive is best.

Man, I never get any "creepy love PM's", no one likes me

 

[Kestra]

It happens to some people.

Sorry, but it's not real. It's like falling in love with a penpal.

Until you meet in person, and establish a relationship of some kind, it's really not a romance. It's an online friendship which may or may not last when you meet IRL.

It's okay that you disagree. It does seem quite unlikely and a bit fanciful. It's not something I'm interested in convincing anyone of.

But I do believe that it can happen, and does happen, regardless of what anyone says.

 

[Kirk's_Tights]

People get creepy love PMs? I feel so left out.

Guess posting pics with visible boob angles just isn't enough.

 

[AstroSmurf]

It happens to some people.

Sorry, but it's not real. It's like falling in love with a penpal.

Until you meet in person, and establish a relationship of some kind, it's really not a romance. It's an online friendship which may or may not last when you meet IRL.

Exactly. We can build up this illusion in our heads about someone but that is just what it is, an illusion. It's like falling in love with an actor. You don't really know them since they are technically playing a part. Did you fall in love with the writing, the character or the actor's looks? It is all very two-dimensional.

Oh and a word of advice... don't be creepy about it. As someone who has had his fair share of creepy "Love PM's" around here be sure to carefully choose your words. Gushing can appear as stalking... or be an indication of some form of madness. Short, to the point and non-intrusive is best.

Man, I never get any "creepy love PM's", no one likes me

No. You should be glad. I have received some weird ass crap over the years. Trust me when I say it's not fun. (But I have always been able to handle things myself so no one should worry.)

And I like you quiet a bit. You are, after all, AWESOME! I just choose to stalk you on Facebook rather than here.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

It's happened here before. Remember Brohi?

 

[Alidar Jarok]

That's not the only one. There are posters on this board and a couple of former posters who had or still have relationships. But I don't think you can simply read someone's posts and fall in love (maybe infatuation, but not love).

 

[JonathonWally]

It happens to some people.

Sorry, but it's not real. It's like falling in love with a penpal.

Until you meet in person, and establish a relationship of some kind, it's really not a romance. It's an online friendship which may or may not last when you meet IRL.

Exactly. We can build up this illusion in our heads about someone but that is just what it is, an illusion. It's like falling in love with an actor. You don't really know them since they are technically playing a part. Did you fall in love with the writing, the character or the actor's looks? It is all very two-dimensional.

Oh and a word of advice... don't be creepy about it. As someone who has had his fair share of creepy "Love PM's" around here be sure to carefully choose your words. Gushing can appear as stalking... or be an indication of some form of madness. Short, to the point and non-intrusive is best.

Man, I never get any "creepy love PM's", no one likes me

No. You should be glad. I have received some weird ass crap over the years. Trust me when I say it's not fun. (But I have always been able to handle things myself so no one should worry.)

And I like you quiet a bit. You are, after all, AWESOME! I just choose to stalk you on Facebook rather than here.

 

[Tim]

People get creepy love PMs? I feel so left out.

You have to give it time, silly!

 

[sidious618]

I've never gotten any creepy PMs. I should change my avatar to an attractive woman and then I'll get some PMs from noobs.

 

[Colonel Green]

I've never gotten any creepy PMs. I should change my avatar to an attractive woman and then I'll get some PMs from noobs.

Aw jeez, 20 mins and he's already looking to play the field

 

[sidious618]

Aw jeez, 20 mins and he's already looking to play the field

I just want to make them jealous of our love.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I'm in love with someone. I haven't exactly been on the down low about it. So either this person is dense and hasn't picked up on it or is purposely ignoring my advances. Either way, it really sucks. This someone also posts on the board.

OK, how many of you are now thinking "is it me?!"

I'm thinking "That's definitely MODMAN".

 

[sidious618]

I have a feeling that the person making that confession is just taking the piss with us.

 

[captcalhoun]

i'd send creepy love PMs, but i don't want to get banned.

and i know a couple who met online and wound up marrying and now have a son. she was in Indiana and he was in Wales.

 

[sidious618]

i'd send creepy love PMs, but i don't want to get banned.

My inbox is waiting.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I have a feeling that the person making that confession is just taking the piss with us.

It's quite a generalised blanket statement to make too. Chances are, with a thousand active members here, there's a good chance that coupling may be taking place between some of them. [An online orgy? Kinky. - someone]

It could be shenanigans, a subtle strategy created by someone to try and flush out a specific relationship going on as we speak. Maybe the whole thread is a front, a prelude to such an attack to soften us up and give us a false sense of security. The whole thread has been building up to this one moment, and the moment to strike has come. (Note that everyone's talking about it now.)

On the other hand, they could be expecting us to call their bluff, in which case I don't know what is going on. [But you generally don't have a clue anyway - everyone]

In any case, I know where you live. [No you don't. Sit down. - someone]

 

[An Officer]

Exactly. We can build up this illusion in our heads about someone but that is just what it is, an illusion. It's like falling in love with an actor. You don't really know them since they are technically playing a part. Did you fall in love with the writing, the character or the actor's looks? It is all very two-dimensional.

Not everyone is an actor, or lies online. Some people of course do create an illusion. I would say they are not the majority however. It is not at all easy to consistently hide your true nature, not unless you are a psychopath. Some people may be exactly as you read them, what you see is what you get. I believe it's perfectly possible to fall in love with someone's ideas, and the way they think and conduct themselves online. You can post considerately and respectfully, much as you would behave in real live, or you can be a dick, like you are face to face.

I do think you certainly have to meet before you can cement any feelings, absolutely. I do think it's somewhat unfair to have low expectations of everyone you meet online. Of course, it depends where you meet. I would assume dating websites are a hell-hole. You would need to get to know the person slowly over a long period of time in different online situations, to give yourself a chance to assess the other person, and to be sure of yourself enough to meet. Otherwise you could end up playing carelessly with your own feelings and those of others, by raising false expectations.

It is possible to give a LOT of information in writing, both consciously and unconsciously. I wouldn't dismiss an online love-affair so easily. I think it will become more and more the standard for romantic relationships to be formed online. So much of our daily lives are conducted online now. A lot of people would consider it no different than meeting someone at the post-office or a long train journey.

I would say though, that an online love affair is a gamble, unless you are very very cautious. Similar to a holiday romance... most will fail when the glow and the infatuation wears off, but a few will be based on truth and depth and stand the test of time.

And hey, how come I don't get masses of creepy love-letters, too!? Chance would be a fine thing.

 

[sidious618]

It's you, isn't it? You're in love with me. I'll have to see what Green thinks of this before we move ahead.

 

[Misfit Toy]

Edit: Unless this person is in love with TSQ. In which case she knows you're in love with her, and we all know you're in love with her, because everyone is.

How the hell can you be in love with someone online that you've not even met?

Stop playing innocent you red-haired minx!

 

[Zulu Romeo]

And hey, how come I don't get masses of creppy love-letters too!? Chance would be a fine thing.

My PM facility has been malfunctioning of late.