@Refuge have you ever wondered why
you personally are so often the victim of such terrible group bullying?
Has it ever occurred to you that where there's a common denominator that's usually indicative of some underlying trend?
You may not have intended your post the way so many people interpreted it but if so you made it with very little forethought. It was malice or ignorance, neither of which is a good look. You're going doubtless to suggest that I'm merely sticking up for "my buddy"
@Locutus of Bored, disregarding some of the outright rows he and I have had down the years where we disagree because it's easier to displace the onus onto others than ask the questions of yourself.