Are you a shy person?

[Warp Coil]

Shy? Not sure that's the best word. Introverted seems more appropriate. I talk to people all the time. Or, rather, people like to talk to me. I do a lot of listening, and talk when/if I have something to contribute. My life isn't terribly exciting so I don't feel a need to share information with others unless it seems relevant or am asked. This isn't something I do intentionally.... it's just the way it works out. I can have a hard time talking to strangers or people I hardly know. I don't know what to say to them so I tend to say nothing. I can be much more vocal and relaxed around friends, family and some colleagues at work.

 

[Kira Nerys]

I am quite shy . I won't talk to anyone unless they speak to me first .Never been on a date and am now in my thirities .Got to change.

 

[thumbtack]

There are three groups of people...

Strangers
Close friends and family
Everyone else

I can talk easily with the first two groups, it's just the last one where my shyness kicks in.

Well, they're only strangers until you talk to them.

Don't you just love obnoxious platitudes.

 

[Captain Shaw]

Yes i can go bright red if anyone talks to me and i do not really go out to party's because i would just sit in the corner all night.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I don't mind if people talk to me, I just have a hard time answering back. I *hate* the sound of my own voice. Literally. I don't understand why people ever want me to talk to them, 'cuz I have such an awful voice. I sound like a 45-rpm single played at 33.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I'm not really all that shy. I'm just kind of picky about what I will and won't talk about. If everyone around me is talking about something I am completely unfamiliar with, I won't have anything to say. But I don't go sit off in a corner somewhere.

 

[MetalPants]

There are three groups of people...

Strangers
Close friends and family
Everyone else

I can talk easily with the first two groups, it's just the last one where my shyness kicks in.

Well, they're only strangers until you talk to them.

Don't you just love obnoxious platitudes.

Actually, for about 20 years or so I've always thought of it as a stranger is just someone I don't loathe yet.

 

[Mr Light]

In high school I was pretty shy. I had my small group of friends but aside from that I didn't talk to anyone. In college I became a complete hermit and didn't talk to anybody and got extremely nervous whenever I had to speak up in class. But then I connected with a group of people in my 3rd year and had a new circle of friends and ever since I've been pretty sociable with ease, thank god.

 

[melancholymecha]

I am quite shy . I won't talk to anyone unless they speak to me first .Never been on a date and am now in my thirities .Got to change.

hey same here and I know what you mean by feeling you have to change... but I dont think dating is one of my priorities.

 

[Uhurandax]

I'm very quiet in person

 

[Cakes488]

I am quite shy . I won't talk to anyone unless they speak to me first .Never been on a date and am now in my thirities .Got to change.

Now there's a difference between being shy and than there is shyness which is incapacitating...

So if I came up to you and started chatting and asking questions etc...you'd chat back or would you just reply and not make any overtures of conversation yourself?

Why don't you try the internet for dating? I would think that would be helpful for shy folks.

I'm personally not shy at all...I can walk into a party full of strangers and I'll work the room. I can't imagine what it's like to be shy.

 

[freak]

Yeah, I'm a little shy, but once you get to know me, then I have a great personality(I sound like a cereal commercial?! What's up with that?!) Anyhow, sometimes it's really hard getting to know people and I like to listen more than talk so I listen to peoples' conversations and that makes me come across as quiet, reserved, and introverted(which I am at times). But if it's with someone I know, then I talk like crazy! I think I'm more bashful than shy though-I blush at everything! But I think it's due to the fact that for so long I've been a sheltered individual and haven't really explored the world, so to speak. That's made it difficult for me to grow up too.(I HATE getting older!)

 

[Cakes488]

^ Uh huh....you know that they say about the "quiet ones"...just like your screen name clearly states.......... underneath it all your really a "Freak". And a freak who blushes!!!! For some reason that's turning me on...you'd be perpertually red throughout our conversation and I'm liking that. LOL

 

[Squiggy]

Speaking of shy...I'll send a picture of my package to anyone who asks.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

Speaking of shy...I'll send a picture of my package to anyone who asks.

I never realised that your package was THAT shy...

 

[LitmusDragon]

It's not that I'm shy, it's just that I don't understand how normal conversation is supposed to work. Maybe I have aspergers or something. I have no problem speaking publicly, or speaking on the phone which is my job, or giving canned responses to questions. Any kind of interaction that can be planned or has a definite template I can work my head around. It's just that I don't want anything from other people. I don't see the need to relate to someone else unless you want something from them. The only thing I want from people is maybe a tiny bit of approval, and I can get that in other ways. I do enjoy discussing my interests with other people which is the primary reason I hang around here, and I also enjoy a good joke which is another reason, but for me to participate in that kind of discussion requires a great deal of thought and my thinking is quite slow and deliberate, it really doesn't work in the context of small talk. I need time to prepare and draft my responses to other people and small talk doesn't offer that. I give people the impression I am not paying attention to them when I am in fact trying to formulate a response (often, they walk away before I can). Which, in essence, is not how other people relate to each other- but it's the only way that I know of to relate to other people. If I try to relate to people spontaneously I end up saying the most ridiculous things which are usually the opposite of how I actually feel. So perhaps I DO understand what small talk is actually supposed to be about, I just have not been able to master it myself.

Apologies if this post make absolutely no sense.

 

[Colonel Green]

I used to be very shy, but then I discovered alcohol in university and became the world's most charismatic man

But in all seriousness, I came to depend on alcohol to overcome my shyness in social situations to the point that it became a real problem. I eventually swore off the sauce for 9 months and was surprised to find that I was still able to function socially. I've been able to resume drinking in moderation since then, as now I realize that a drink isn't an absolute MUST for me to be able to carry on a conversation.

Most of my friends and acquaintances these days would probably laugh if I told them I was shy.

 

[Cakes488]

Speaking of shy...I'll send a picture of my package to anyone who asks.

Now if we could only find someone who would ask.

It's not that I'm shy, it's just that I don't understand how normal conversation is supposed to work. Maybe I have aspergers or something. I have no problem speaking publicly, or speaking on the phone which is my job, or giving canned responses to questions. Any kind of interaction that can be planned or has a definite templalte I can work my head around. It's just that I don't want anything from other people. I don't see the need to relate to someone else unless you want something from them. The only thing I want from people is maybe a tiny bit of approval, and I can get that in other ways. I do enjoy discussing my interests with other people which is the primary reason I hang around here, and I also enjoy a good joke which is another reason, but for me to participate in that kind of discussion requires a great deal of thought and my thinking is quite slow and deliberate, it really doesn't work in the context of small talk. I need time to prepare and draft my responses to other people and small talk doesn't offer that. I give people the impression I am not paying attention to them when I am in fact trying to formulate a response (often, they walk away before I can). Which, in essence, is not how other people relate to each other- but it's the only way that I know of to relate to other people. If I try to relate to people spontaneously I end up saying the most ridiculous things which are usually the opposite of how I actually feel. So perhaps I DO understand what small talk is actually supposed to be about, I just have not been able to master it myself.

Apologies if this post make absolutely no sense.

Really...can you give an example of one of your spontaneous relations that sound ridiculous...? Maybe it's not as bad as you think.

 

[NCC-1701-B]

Very shy. If i dont know someone, i wont talk to them. unless its the normal polite "thanks" or something like that. I am shy because when i talk to someone i have nothing to say whatsoever and normally make myself look stupid. meh. people, who needs em.

 

[Shaw]

Yes.


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