Yeah, I'm a bit shy and conversationally akward unless I'm talking with someone I know well enough to be comfortable, or talking on the internet, where I can form a sentence without tripping over myself.
Are you a shy person?
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I could have written this myself. I have Aspergers Syndrome and social anxiety disorder so its like, I dont need nor want to talk to anyone(the Asperger's part), but then feel really shy and self conscious about the fact that I dont like to talk(the social anxiety part). People generally dont feel comfortable around those who are quiet.
It depends on my mood... sometimes I feel so happy and social I could talk to a lamp post, other times I just want complete silence and chit chat is draining. Especially if I've had a busy week. I have a job that's all about the talking, and doing it some more afterward is the last thing I want.
Then it also depends on whoever it is I'm with, I can click with some like I've known them for years, and others can inspire awkward silences.
I am never shy of friends and family though, if anything, I talk their ears off... I have been accused of being a machine gun.
I can be shy, and I can also be open, depending on the the occasion, person, mood, etc, etc. I'm always very shy if I'm attracted to someone for example.
Then it also depends on whoever it is I'm with, I can click with some like I've known them for years, and others can inspire awkward silences.
I am never shy of friends and family though, if anything, I talk their ears off... I have been accused of being a machine gun.
I can be shy, and I can also be open, depending on the the occasion, person, mood, etc, etc. I'm always very shy if I'm attracted to someone for example.
I'm not shy at all. I tend to be pretty outgoing and socially confident all around.
We'd noticed that about you.
I'm not shy in the sense that I'm perfectly happy to talk to anyone. I can small talk smoothly about almost any reasonable topic you could choose and merrily shoot the breeze. I love the sound of my own voice, so that helps...
But I don't really like to talk to most people, finding them dull and tiresome after a moderately short period. I can still chit-chat with them without that showing (much), but I don't enjoy it anymore. The exceptions to this rule are few, far between, but very much appreciated.
Do you have the other half of this amulet?
Go into your Control Panel and look for Group Memberships under Networking; you can sign yourself back in. Although why anyone would want to....
*cough* Um, let's say there's a reason he can't get back in, so that advice probably won't do any good.
I'm the same way.
I don't really think of myself as awkward at parties. I just find myself being more of an observer than a participant in most cases. I suppose it amounts to the same thing.
Oddly enough, there are a few very specific people around whom all of my social difficulties just disappear. I can chat, I can make jokes that are actually funny, I can just relax and be normal around them. Then they leave and it's like a switch has been flipped....I'm back to the quiet introvert again. It's really odd.
Oddly enough, there are a few very specific people around whom all of my social difficulties just disappear. I can chat, I can make jokes that are actually funny, I can just relax and be normal around them. Then they leave and it's like a switch has been flipped....I'm back to the quiet introvert again. It's really odd.
There are three groups of people...
Strangers
Close friends and family
Everyone else
I can talk easily with the first two groups, it's just the last one where my shyness kicks in.
Strangers
Close friends and family
Everyone else
I can talk easily with the first two groups, it's just the last one where my shyness kicks in.
You know what this thread needs? More pictures of my ass.
I think you were "given a vacation." Might want to contact a mod.
I used to be, but I'm not any longer. Just said "screw it."
Joe, who screwed it
Well, there is that. But now and then I end up at one anyway somehow.
OIC....Go into your Control Panel and look for Group Memberships under Networking; you can sign yourself back in. Although why anyone would want to....
*cough* Um, let's say there's a reason he can't get back in, so that advice probably won't do any good.
I wouldn't say I'm a shy person. Most people would probably tell you I'm quite chatty and friendly, maybe even loud and outgoing. Although these are usually people that don't know me very well and it really isn't the real me they see. It's an odd habit I tend to have around people that I don't know or trust. But for the most part I'd say I'm pretty outgoing.
Not really, I'm actually quite the social butterfly. You will find me talking easily with anyone about almost anything, and looking good while doing it.
On the other hand, I'm a very reserved person, so I don't share personal information with ease, except with close friends and family. I'm not the one who will tell you about his endoscopy while you are having dinner.
I'm pretty much the exact same way. I think we can chalk it up to cultural backgrounds.
When it comes to how reserved I am though, certain things that other people may not feel comfortable sharing with others I'm ok with, while I don't enjoy sharing other things which may seem more "socially acceptable" in conversation with close friends, if that makes any sense. I think it comes down to me having little shame or embarrassment while also being private about other things.
And yes, as always, I look good doing it.
ETA: As for the people who are shy, or who say they're "faking it" just remember, we're all faking it to one degree or another and we're all screwed up on some level. Believe me when I say once you realize we're all in the same boat.
Think about all those times some stranger may have given you a nod, or a smile, said "thank you" said "hi" or whatever and made you feel good for either a few minutes or the rest of your day, well, you be that guy who makes a stranger feel good.
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