OK, this is my last post on this topic, I promise.
Milk is a very bad example, because there is a very limited, very open space where milk is in the backs of store. A better example of what I'm talking about would be if someone is looking for a specific action figure, which would be in a small box, in the toys sections of the backroom, which is one in stores like the one where I worked is of the bigger areas in the back, with three or four huge shelves stacked with dozens of boxes from the floor almost to the ceiling, some as small as barely a foot wide. I'm pretty sure there had to have been times I spent at least 15 - 20 minutes searching for a specific toy in the back. Luckily once I moved over the crafts & celebrations we had enough space on top of the aisles that the majority of our merchandise was on the floor, and most of the stuff that was in the back was just duplicates of what was on the floor.
We're each talking about our own personal experiences. Mine involved milk, as in I needed it, it wasn't on the shelf, so I politely asked someone to please check in the back to see if they had any that hadn't been put out yet, and they did. So I got my milk, said 'thank you', paid for my groceries, and went home a satisfied customer.
Well, there's only so much you can do to control the involuntary reactions when you're trying to do a 2 person, 9 hour job by yourself in 6, with a boss on your ass because you're going to slow, and you have costumers stopping you every 5 minutes to ask where a certain type of paint is, or to cut 5 different yards of fabric, or to know where something that you've never heard of, that's not even in your department is, or wants to know when you'll get more of a certain color of paper plates is, or this, or that, or the other thing. No matter how hard you try, after a while that starts to get to you.
No doubt, but my point is that you should never assume the customer can't read negative body language and this might be enough to tip the scales into making the interaction even more unpleasant.
One of my older sisters is in a wheel chair, and she's actually had random strangers just walk up and start pushing her chair without her permission.
That's despicable. I hope she told them off. Far too many disabled people don't speak up for themselves, as they're afraid to "cause trouble."
This is why I've become an advocate for the disabled tenants in this building, pointing out safety hazards to the management and maintenance staff. I haven't yet had to actually say the words, "you could be sued for not fixing this situation" but I think they got the drift in a couple of cases when an elderly tenant in a wheelchair could have ended up in the hospital.
I have had to contend with the manager claiming, "You're the ONLY one who ever complains about this" (whatever issue "this" might be), and I tell him, "No, I am not. I might be the only one who complains to
you, but I'm definitely not the only one who complains. Some tenants are afraid to complain to management, for fear that some excuse might be given to evict them."
And this "next tenant" bullshit... honestly, keep your current tenants happy and you'll have fewer "next tenants" to worry about.
I don't get this, you'd think she'd just be happy to make any kind of a sale to anyone.
I actually have the opposite reaction to that lady, I always get a kick out of seeing people who are going for things I wouldn't expect.
I still remember the little girl who was all excited about getting to pick out a Hot Wheels car, and her parents seemed more than happy to let her.
Yeah, it was bizarre. It's like she was personally offended that I'd pop in once, sometimes twice, a week. This was in the early '80s, and I was very much a dedicated book hunter back then, trying out new science fiction authors (new to me) and trying to collect all the books in specific series.
Things got weird in another way. This store I'm talking about was the second of the second-hand bookstores to open downtown. The first one had already been around for something like 20 years. When each owner found out that I shopped for science fiction books at both places, each started asking questions about the other. Finally, after numerous questions of "what prices does she charge for novels/comics" or "what are her policies for people bringing in books" I finally said to both of them, "Look, I shop at both your stores, you each do things a little differently but not enough to make a
huge difference, and don't put me in the middle." I did not say (though felt like saying it), "Don't use me to spy on your competitor."
I patronized both places for years, until the second place was sold to someone who turned it into a primarily comic shop (though he kept the science fiction section). The other place became a combination bookstore/craft store. So I figured after some 20-odd years of being a customer, I'd ask if I could consign some of my needlework crafts there (I'd already been selling in other stores and at craft fairs). At first she said no, and I said, just let me bring in some samples and then decide, since it's not reasonable to say no, sight unseen. Both of us would make a bit of money, and there's no reason I wouldn't still browse the books when I came in.
Well, she did like the samples I brought, and after I promised that she would have the exclusive on these items and I wouldn't sell them in anyone else's store, she agreed. This arrangement continued until she sold the store to someone else (her husband's job got transferred to another city so her only option was to sell and move).
It was a bit sad, her having to sell... I remember when she'd moved her old store a couple of places over to this one (a bit larger), and I'd been passing by one day before she'd re-opened. She was looking at paint and carpet samples, and asked my opinion on colors. I told her, "Green carpet, shades of green for the shelves, light-colored walls. It's relaxing, people will stay longer, browse longer, and there'll be more likelihood that they'll find something they want to buy."
She took my advice, and it seems to have worked. She never changed it in all the years from then until selling.