You are clearly a dedicated home theater enthusiast.
Quite true. While, among “enthusiasts”, I have a modest setup (especially with my current screen—large for a TV but almost tiny for a projector system—I’ll be entering “the low end of normal” with my new one), among my circle of “people I know in real life”, my system is far and away more sophisticated than anyone else—particularly the audio.
The THX and SMTPE recommendations tend to put one a bit closer than most others, though, don't they? From what I understand they're designed to facilitate a field of view of roughly 40° (or at max distance, not less than 30°), whereas the more traditional recommendation in a home setting has been 20-30° (hence farther away), has it not? If you're really dedicating a room to trying to replicate the full cinema experience, I guess I can see the point of that, but as you note, it's not something you'd want to do in your living room.
It’s 36 degrees as ideal for THX and 30, as I recall, for STMPE, with 26 degrees as the lowest threshold.
(And even in a dedicated home theater setting, given the smaller scale of the sizes and distances involved as compared to a real cinema, does sitting that close actually allow more than one or two people to watch from an optimum position, without a skewed viewing angle? IOW, how does it work if you're having a movie night with friends?)
In my house, I’m the only person who cares about “A/V quality”. My wife would happily live with the 12” SD CRT she had when we got together and is in no hurry to replace the 32”, 200lbs behemoth currently in the living room. There is a nice 2 ch audio setup in the room and she is happy to listen to the music channel via the crappy TV speakers instead.

My kids are happy when we watch something in the cinema room but are not too bothered if that’s not an option (I don’t let them in there unsupervised).
The room is small (the 85” screen is as big as I can install, whereas most dedicated rooms have 92-120” screens) and I have privileged the setup for audio (my screen is mounted somewhat higher than ideal because the centre channel speaker’s tweeter is placed at ear height for optimal sound). There is one “ideal seat”, one very good (visually) seat and two good seats.
Ninety percent of the time, I’m the only one in there. When a friend is over, I let him or her have the best seat.
Someday, I would like to move the setup to the larger room in the basement and go with a 100” screen and more optimal seating for others, but for practical purposes, things are fine where they are.