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Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

I tend to be so self absorbed in my own things & hobbies that i would end up boring or trying to avoid the other person. Unless that person was exactly like me with my same interests but my interests are so odd that I dont think Id ever find a like minded indvidual, at least not around where I live. All everyone wants to do around here is outdoor activities or go clubbing.

Do you like baseball? ;)
 
^nope, cant say Im interested in any kind of sports. :borg:

Everyone in my family knows and understands what I am and seem to be content with that. It seems at times that my parents don't even expect me too meet someone again because of my condition.
my family is like that with me too. The problem is with like more distant relatives, my sister's friends, or coworkers, where they dont know you well...it feels like I have to explain why Im not in the "norm" for my age group...
 
" For a crowd is not company; and faces are but a gallery of pictures; and talk but a tinkling cymbal, where there is no love."

Sorry, I know that's really random, but it seemed relevant.
 
Hmmm, I shouldn't post in this thread but I have never really felt lonely.

I am married and have been with my wife for 25 years.

If I can find a partner pretty much anyone can.
 
" For a crowd is not company; and faces are but a gallery of pictures; and talk but a tinkling cymbal, where there is no love."

Sorry, I know that's really random, but it seemed relevant.
That was said right before he got a punch in the mouth for being a complete tool.
 
" For a crowd is not company; and faces are but a gallery of pictures; and talk but a tinkling cymbal, where there is no love."

Sorry, I know that's really random, but it seemed relevant.
Nice. Where's that from?

It's Francis Bacon, one of his essays, "On Friendship". Also Johnny Five quotes part of it in Short Circuit 2. :D
Thanks, I'll look that up. And maybe read some Bacon, too. :D
 
I prefer to be alone. The friends I had either stabbed me in the back over nothing or just abandoned me when I was not working a few years back. My family is a train wreck and toxic, so I don't want to be around them at all. It never fails every woman I get involved with says "you are the nicest & sweetest guy I have been with" but the relationships end up being physical and I want something more...they just don't work out. I totally give up on meeting someone, getting married and having a family. Plus now that I am broke and have no hopes of finding anything...people act like they don't know me. Being alone is good.
 
I prefer to be alone. The friends I had either stabbed me in the back over nothing or just abandoned me when I was not working a few years back. My family is a train wreck and toxic, so I don't want to be around them at all. It never fails every woman I get involved with says "you are the nicest & sweetest guy I have been with" but the relationships end up being physical and I want something more...they just don't work out. I totally give up on meeting someone, getting married and having a family. Plus now that I am broke and have no hopes of finding anything...people act like they don't know me. Being alone is good.

Well, you say being alone is good, but obviously things have been rough on you. I hope you either truly find peace alone, or you find people who can support you in the ways that you deserve.
 
I prefer to be alone. The friends I had either stabbed me in the back over nothing or just abandoned me when I was not working a few years back. My family is a train wreck and toxic, so I don't want to be around them at all. It never fails every woman I get involved with says "you are the nicest & sweetest guy I have been with" but the relationships end up being physical and I want something more...they just don't work out. I totally give up on meeting someone, getting married and having a family. Plus now that I am broke and have no hopes of finding anything...people act like they don't know me. Being alone is good.

Well, you say being alone is good, but obviously things have been rough on you. I hope you either truly find peace alone, or you find people who can support you in the ways that you deserve.
I agree

I must say I can empathize to some small extent. When things don't go well it's somewhat comforting to say the hell with it I'd rather be on my own where I don't have to deal with this crap. But for myself, even though I learned to be self-sufficient and can function well on my own the yearning inside for some connection never really goes away, and every so often it comes forth and can feel almost all encompassing.

It may be hard to believe but there are decent people out there, and it's a joy when you find them. Mind you, you also have to be willing to give something of yourself in exchange.
 
I prefer to be alone. The friends I had either stabbed me in the back over nothing or just abandoned me when I was not working a few years back. My family is a train wreck and toxic, so I don't want to be around them at all. It never fails every woman I get involved with says "you are the nicest & sweetest guy I have been with" but the relationships end up being physical and I want something more...they just don't work out. I totally give up on meeting someone, getting married and having a family. Plus now that I am broke and have no hopes of finding anything...people act like they don't know me. Being alone is good.

Well, you say being alone is good, but obviously things have been rough on you. I hope you either truly find peace alone, or you find people who can support you in the ways that you deserve.
I agree

I must say I can empathize to some small extent. When things don't go well it's somewhat comforting to say the hell with it I'd rather be on my own where I don't have to deal with this crap. But for myself, even though I learned to be self-sufficient and can function well on my own the yearning inside for some connection never really goes away, and every so often it comes forth and can feel almost all encompassing.

It may be hard to believe but there are decent people out there, and it's a joy when you find them. Mind you, you also have to be willing to give something of yourself in exchange.

I hope so. I am always open to people I meet. I really want to move and go somewhere new and see where that takes me. I just know living where I am now...it's a lost cause.

I Thank you both for your words.
 
I've moved into a new town and I'm feeling pangs for someone I left behind in my old town. We were not involved in the traditional sense (she's married :sigh:) but we've had some sort of odd connection for several years that I'm almost sure that if she weren't married I could win her over completely.

That said we had a bond and friendship that I find myself missing more than anything else. I think of her often, particularly as I look around at the new people I'm getting to know and wondering what (if any) friendships may come of it. Even being able to gab about similar interests will be welcome.
 
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