Dude, listen to my advice and just do it, it's there, it's what needs to be done.
A question. Not sure how to interpet this....
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Dude, listen to my advice and just do it, it's there, it's what needs to be done.
TheLonelySquire
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I gotta be honest. It doesn't sound positive. Go for it though!
Yes, being rejected sucks. No one likes that, but it shouldn't be something you feel bad about for years if you were never in a relationship to begin with.
But how does not trying feel? Not great, right? So, you can either take the (what should be temporary) hurt of a rejection while at least feeling satisfied that you made the attempt, or you can take the long term bitter sting of regret for never even trying.
Personally, I'd rather try and get rejected than not try at all.
Dude, you wonder why she sarcastically says "Yeah, that'll happen" when this has been going on for "several years"? She's been open to the idea for years, and when it was brought up again she was still open to the idea judging by the fact that she didn't put a stop to the conversation, and you still won't make a move. She's pretty much resigned to the fact that it's not gonna happen.
That's just making another excuse not to try.
First off, if she's been talking about potentially dating you in positive terms more than once and then gets offended when you finally do ask her out, than she's just messing with you and wasn't worth dating to begin with. This is not to say she can't say no obviously, but she shouldn't be offended by the question if it was ever a serious possibility.
If she stops hanging out with you because you asked her out, than she was never truly your friend to begin with, and was just a polite work acquaintance. Real friends get over minor bits of awkwardness and don't stop hanging out over essentially being paid a compliment by being asked out on a date.
Hell, it sounds like several people in the store already know about it anyway, so there's probably already awkwardness at the fact that you won't ask her. It sounds like they're even trying to help you out and give you an "in" on multiple occasions, but you never follow through.
Bottom line: Go for it.
I just want to tell you "good luck, we're all counting on you."
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Move on.
Most people could do with a bit of therapy.
Yes. YES. To Locutus you listen.
So would I
Sounds like she's not worth persuing.
I can relate I asked a girl I thought I knew well enough to ask out, i never got a straight answer, I did hear her say "I like him but I don't want to hurt him"
Well guess what?
but that's all in the past and I'm past her and still looking. but we're still friends.
Sounds like she doesn't believe that you'll really ask her out. And she's probably right.
This is what I'm getting from this, too.
I doubt she's even taking you seriously because she knows you'll never actually pursue anything.
From her "response" I did get the impression that either she didn't realize you were asking her out or that you had in fact NOT asked her out. I see it's the latter.
In this light, I wouldn't take it necessarily as rude, maybe more exasperation. I mean, why would you announce that maybe, perhaps someday you might deign to ask her out. Her response is pretty logical in that context, gee, is it supposed to make her day that you might consider asking her out?!
Just ask her out! To be blunt, you're really screwing this up with all of the rigamarole!
Mr Awe
All right, this makes it totally clear. She might've had a thing for you 7 freaking years ago, going by your numbers. That's a long wait. Hence her comment now. She would've definitely said yes back then. Now, who knows. After 7 years I wouldn't be surprised if she lost it. You may have missed the boat bud.
I don't know if you need therapy or not. But, you do need to use your fricking head. This is pretty obvious. She got fed up with waiting for you to man up despite have a guaranteed "yes"!! Holy cow! There's no deep mysterious message her. It's straight forward. And, man up about asking women out!
Mr Awe
It's like he's trying to dip his feet into the pool to test the water out. It doesn't work like that though. You gotta dive in headfirst. Accept that fact that sometimes the waters cold, other times the pool's empty you head up faceplanting in the concrete.
If you never man-up and take risks, you'll never achieve anything.
Wait, so that makes me a jerk because I don't give up, tuck my tail between my legs and be all defeated? Nice logic.
Pain of action and pain of inaction. You're living in the latter, worried about what might happen and pissing and moaning about it when it does. Get out of your head and into the world.
She's known you for 7 years? She's familiar with your act and knows that no matter how big you talk, you'll never pull the trigger.
I used to think that way. Even used that logic to not take a friendship to a romantic level in college. Guess what? Coming up on 20 years now I haven't seen or heard from her. And I lost the chance for something else with her.
Quit thinking about it, ask her out and see where it goes. But of course you'll read all the posts telling you to do just that and rationalize your way out of it and then wonder why you're so miserable.
Why don't you, to borrow another Seinfeld reference, live your life opposite? Worked out well for George, if I remember.
The OP reeks of High School. Man up or you`ll be a virgin for life.
Blend the girl and pet in a 50:50 ratio and microwave on high for two minutes?
Well, I'm not a virgin so there goes that theory.
Here's what I don't understand, Trekker. You've had a girlfriend, or maybe two before, why does it always seem like you have NO experience with women at all.
Not judging, just confused.
Not judging, just confused.
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