A maybe strange question.

[RJDiogenes]

Oh. The thing is, we did talk about it, partially because, as my parents said a lot, "You two over-analyze; you beat it to death with analysis." But the thing is, we BOTH do this. It's how we each approach problems and issues. I don't think we thing too much, just more than many.

There's no such thing as thinking too much.

 

[propita]

Generally, I agree. I think that if more people thought a bit more, lawyers wouldn't be so busy. My working-lawyer friends tell me most of their client, civil and criminal, are pretty stupid. And the ones that aren't stupid are suffering from the actions of those who are stupid.

But, I've seen people blow the shitty kind of multiple choice tests (which is the best answer when all answers suck) from overthinking. At some point, pick an answer and move on. You're likely wrong anyway.

 

[Leviathan]

"If a flock of sheep were to pedal by on unicycles whilst playing the violin what sort of music should they be playing?"

Bach - Definitely Bach!

Someone should make a "strange question game" Like.. You ask a weird silly question.. Then the next poster has to give as good a reply as he or she can.. And ask a new weird question.

I think it would be stopped if it wasn't in a lounge.

INDEED, and I initially went with Bach but after a bit reflection realized sheep are far more likely to enjoy Death Metal.

Hence my conundrum and subsequent frustration at the incomplete picture.

 

[Leviathan]

"If a flock of sheep were to pedal by on unicycles whilst playing the violin what sort of music should they be playing?"

Bach - Definitely Bach!

Someone should make a "strange question game" Like.. You ask a weird silly question.. Then the next poster has to give as good a reply as he or she can.. And ask a new weird question.

I think it would be stopped if it wasn't in a lounge.

INDEED, and I initially went with Bach but after a bit reflection realized sheep are far more likely to enjoy Death Metal.

Hence my conundrum and subsequent frustration at the incomplete picture.

 

[Spot's Meow]

Also consider that many are of the mindset that you can go through different sexual identities in different phases of your life. You may go through several years feeling asexual, and then a period where you do desire contact, and then go back to being asexual again. Not everyone agrees with this, some say you either are an asexual person or you are not, but many do. It is certainly something that I can relate to. I too have struggled with feeling like I am the only person who doesn't desire sex in a completely sex-obsessed world. Everywhere you look, everything seems to be based on the human desire for sex, and I find it foreign and often annoying. It's just not something that would ever enter my mind. I just added a documentary called (A)Sexual to my Netflix queue, I think it should be interesting.

This is interesting that you say these things. I've also often found myself feeling like this. I never had a girlfriend, so everybody for a while assumed I was gay. Well, no, because I'm not attracted to men either!

It honestly hasn't been until this last year that I actually started wanting to have sexual relationships. I was perfectly content to be alone, but now I want to start dating. I want a partner. It's odd; is this how most people have been feeling all their lives? Did I just hit puberty at age 28?

Interesting. Like I talked about in my post, you could just be entering a new sexual phase of your life. Or maybe this is the beginning of a new permanent desire on your part. While the sexual desire part may seem unusual, I think it's perfectly natural to start wanting a partner in your late 20s. The stereotypical settling down and all that. My life has actually been the opposite; I am 27 and until recently, I had been in relationships since being a teenager, the most recent one lasting 7 years. The past 9 months or so is the first time I've been single. It's a different experience!

 

[An Officer]

Love in its height is like having a very serious illness... I think at one point in history, in some parts of Europe, it was considered a sickness in the medical textbooks, but doctors did not pursue treatments because the likelihood of making a living from that was minimal. They at times actually misdiagnosed very serious illnesses as love sickness!

So, to me, it's like asking, how do you know whether you have consumption or not... Lol.

 

[propita]

I've met a number of men (various family members) who pretty much lost their libido by about 35. Coincidentally(?), all had been in the military.

But I think posts above are correct about phases of sexual interest. I wasn't seriously attracted to ANYONE until I was 22. I may have had a couple of crushes, but no relationships. Course, that could've been due to depression, but who knows, right?

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

Boy I could write a LOT about this topic but.. fuck it.

 

[RJDiogenes]

^^ Now there was a punchline both slapstick and subtle.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I am not asexual - I definitely want to do it, and I'm sure it's great. But I'm just not in a hurry. Does that make any sense? I admit my main concern is the fear that I'd get the girl pregnant (I do not, under any circumstances known to humanity, want kids; and there is no method of birth control that I'm aware of which is 100% effective), but that's just my own neuroses coming into play. Age is not a problem - even though I'm 43, I figure, any woman who is worth my time will not be turned off by this, and will use the opportunity to teach me. If she's turned off, then she must not care about me, and I want someone who cares.

What I am in a hurry to do is find someone and get married. Loneliness really sucks.