Now, if the Romulans had used the Remans as foot soldiers (and potentially other slac races too) THEN it makes more sense they never saw the Romulans since there wouldn't have been any there to begin with.
That would be an attractive way to bring consistency to the issue in light of modern evidence, yes.
It would then presuppose that the Earthlings knew they were dealing with a mercenary or slave race, though, and not with the actual masterminds of the opposing side. Yet the Remans are but a curiosity in ST:NEM, when by all rights they should be more famous than their Romulan masters, at least amongst Earthlings.
This is why I sort of think it should be better to pursue explanations where few or no corpses of
any species are left lying around for the humans to identify. Or, alternately or in addition, explanations where the racial identity of the Romulans is well known to many Earth warriors, but kept hidden from the public because of the overruling need to keep relations with the Vulcans amicable.
Both attempts at explanation are likelier to succeed if the Romulan War is a rather small-scale engagement of limited duration. That way, it also becomes understandable that the considerable firepower of Earth's allies wouldn't have played that big a role. It wouldn't have had time to!
I'll take the implication since they've had only to situations of contact priar to Neutral Zone.
In the context of "The Defector", this battle of Cheron could easily have taken place within the past three months or so. All the more reason for its humiliation to be fresh in the memories of the current Romulan leadership!
I think I covered that well enough. Far from absurd in my opinion.
Both the semantics and the logic seem highly dubious. Use of "quarter", singular, is extremely difficult to accept grammatically if accommodations were intended; and I must have totally missed the part where lack of bunking was a rational explanation for not taking even a single prisoner. There are real world cases where prisoners were carried in the cockpits of single-pilot fighters!
Timo Saloniemi