Oh, I think it's equally as stupid. Nothing bugs me more than romance forced into someplace where it really doesn't belong, or is albeity not at all clever.
My problem with Sulu has nothing to do with discomfort over homosexuality, my issue is how forced it is, it's making a statement for the sake of it, not for the sake of good writing.
Simon Pegg had kind of a pathetic explanation,
"We could have introduced a new gay character, but he or she would have been primarily defined by their sexuality, seen as the ‘gay character’, rather than simply for who they are, and isn’t that tokenism?”"
Which, really, is only true if you're a bad writer writing a bad story, because it's painfully obvious that they used Takai, and the character, as tokenism.
So far there isn't anything "token" about Discovery's "gay" character. And I think a lot of people, especially those with a socially open mind, fear that making him into a token would ruin the point.