Unfortunately, with far too many religious denominations, it's really about power. And sometimes, even when it's not about power across the entire denomination, it still is in some individual parishes. Being pan-denominational, I tend to avoid those denominations and parishes, myself.
A lot of the problem is that for the overwhelming majority of Human history, nobody ever realized that creating a mindlessly obedient mechanical servitor is many orders of magnitude easier than creating a sentient being. And so far too many have assumed that God wanted the former, but got the latter.
Then, there's something one starts to notice, when reading the Bible in its entirety, at the pace needed to do so as a Lenten discipline: the Torah contains a prohibition on miscegenation. If I remember right, it's mentioned more than once. And yet Moses married Zipporah, a Midianite (and therefore, a shikseh). And Ruth, one of only two women to have canonical Bible books named after them (the other being Esther, and if you look at the Apocryphal books, you also find the Book of Judith, and an apocryphal part of Daniel called The Story of Susanna), but more importantly, Ruth, a Moabitess (and therefore another shikseh), was an ancestor of David, and of Solomon, and of Jesus.
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@Christopher, you're starting to get into the essential conflict that George Lakoff identified in
Whose Freedom, the first book to make the Far Right and Far Left points of view comprehensible without demonizing anybody: the confict between Strict Father and Nurturant Parent models of the family. Lakoff is far from perfect, and far from unbiased, and had to have one of his own students explain to him some of the implications of his own theory, but he does make a lot of sense.
And speaking of Strict Father and Nurturant Parent family models, and the mindsets and worldviews that grow from them, it occurred to me many years ago, that "Santa Claus Is Coming To Town" and "Here Comes Santa Claus" provide
diametrically opposite notions of Santa (and by extension, of God), with the former a Strict Fatherist Santa ("You better watch out"? crying and pouting are punishable? And why "bad or good," which implies that "bad" is the default?), while the latter is a Nurturant Santa ("He doesn't care if you're rich or poor; he loves you just the same," and the closest thing that song has to a threatening line is "say your prayers," which is hardly used in a threatening context).