I'm not going to dig through the whole thread and will just answer the title. Are we forgetting Spock is a great character? Shit....Spock's been given all of Kirk's Badassness, while Kirk has been reduced largely to comic relief, running away, saying "GOGOGOGOGO BEAMUSUPBEAMUSUPBEAMUSUP" and getting beat up on an Archer-level. Even his sacrifice is half-suicide.
Who outwits Khan? Who can hold his own with Khan? Who can be beamed up at the last second without freaking out at his own impending doom? When he's about to die who DOESN'T say "I'm afraid". Who gets the girl?
The most telling moment was in the 2009 film where he encounters an ice monster and then runs away
screaming like a little girl. I can't remember Prime Kirk ever doing that, aside from moments where he experiences pain like in "The Man Trap". It just felt off. Maybe playing Kirk more like a joke was a way to counter the way he was depicted on the show where he was this unflappable heroic leading lady killer, and the way they do it in nuTrek feels like intentional parody. It's this strange condescending attitude towards Kirk, and we get that from other characters who roll their eyes at Kirk almost more often than they do respect him.
I do hope that for the next film they treat the character a little more seriously, and present him more heroically. You can still do humorous moments with Kirk, but not in a way to make fun of him "hey ladies, Jim Kirk!". I'd love to see Kirk save the day in a way Spock did in STID with his brains, rather than just being a brute by kicking something in the warp core. Kirk was said to be a genius by Pike, I'd like to see more of that. And most importantly, I want to see more respect and admiration for him by other characters, and zero condescension, especially by Uhura.