Perhaps it would be a good idea if people just backed it up a bit and eased off on Flux. I don't know him that well, but he doesn't seem like a bad guy, on average.
Good Husband or Emasculated Wuss?
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I gave him several opportunities to explain his own viewpoint without attacking him and he chose to continue to be defensive instead. You don't get to post something offensive or controversial and then take zero responsibility for it. Especially when you make no effort to explain your own feelings on the matter. I have no problem with him but I'm disappointed at the way he's responded in this thread, and the things he has selectively chosen to respond to.
I'm not disappointed because it's been a very amusing thread.
^ Perhaps, but it all just sort of falls down, just because the original photo was so useless without context. Not being on Facebook, I don't know what the person who took it saw, but you can't tell ANYTHING just by looking at that pic. Can't even tell if the thing that guy was holding was a phone, a camera, a wallet, or whatever.
That is one reason why it is amusing.
^ You just blew my mind.
^I understand what teacock meant, MLB. The OP was much ado about nothing. To coin a phrase. 
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We all worry about things that are none of our business.
I'll even say this, worrying about the OP's worrying is none of our business. Kestra says she is "disappointed" with the OP's responses which, if that's the actual feeling this thread is generating, is putting way too much emotion into someone's weird ass issues.
Not that I'm saying she or anyone else shouldn't worry, handwring, suffer disappointment, engage in the discussion. It's just knowing you are right doesn't make the effort spent on the topic any more worthwhile than if your opinion was provably wrong.
I'll even say this, worrying about the OP's worrying is none of our business. Kestra says she is "disappointed" with the OP's responses which, if that's the actual feeling this thread is generating, is putting way too much emotion into someone's weird ass issues.
Not that I'm saying she or anyone else shouldn't worry, handwring, suffer disappointment, engage in the discussion. It's just knowing you are right doesn't make the effort spent on the topic any more worthwhile than if your opinion was provably wrong.
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Disappointment for some, and miniature American flags for others!
That's is excellent advice 
I'm still unsure as to what my "weird issues" are, exactly. The only real opinion I gave was how I feel about certain colors...I tried to explain that I initially felt that the guy did seem pretty whipped but upon further consideration I saw that he really was being pretty manly in that he didn't care about seeming masculine. I also found from my wife that in Asian culture, they have a different concept of what is masculine and don't think twice about things that might come off as feminine.
There also was a lot of info we didn't have on the topic and posting the thread was probably a bad idea. But I genuinely did start it to keep the debate I had seen on FB going. It wasn't like threads in the past where I had an opinion already and just wanted it verified...I really was just trying to stir the pot a bit and get discussion flowing. Somehow that devolved into my wife being accused of mocking and me being labeled a closet homosexual simply because I don't like the color pink and find it feminine. The piling on was pretty ridiculous, even given how I came off. I will say though that my friend was out of line for taking the photo and I too for posting it, and for that I apologize. I probably could have just as well described what was in the photo with the same result.
There also was a lot of info we didn't have on the topic and posting the thread was probably a bad idea. But I genuinely did start it to keep the debate I had seen on FB going. It wasn't like threads in the past where I had an opinion already and just wanted it verified...I really was just trying to stir the pot a bit and get discussion flowing. Somehow that devolved into my wife being accused of mocking and me being labeled a closet homosexual simply because I don't like the color pink and find it feminine. The piling on was pretty ridiculous, even given how I came off. I will say though that my friend was out of line for taking the photo and I too for posting it, and for that I apologize. I probably could have just as well described what was in the photo with the same result.
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This is the first sensible thing you've posted in this thread.
Taking a picture of their child with her phone? No big deal.
Holding the purse? No big deal.
I think that the only issue would be if my wife for some reason packed a huge purse and then had me carry it the entire time. That wouldn't fly with me.
But I don't care about holding on to it for a minute or looking at clothes with her or other stuff. At the end of the day, I'm not going to regret spending more time with her.
Of course, that doesn't mean I won't give her shit for packing a huge purse anyways.
Holding the purse? No big deal.
I think that the only issue would be if my wife for some reason packed a huge purse and then had me carry it the entire time. That wouldn't fly with me.
But I don't care about holding on to it for a minute or looking at clothes with her or other stuff. At the end of the day, I'm not going to regret spending more time with her.
Of course, that doesn't mean I won't give her shit for packing a huge purse anyways.
do you think it's perhaps a matter of age/generation?
If I'd ask my brother to bring me a box of tampons from the drugstore, he'd not bat an eyelash and ask "which size?". My dad would feel uncomfortable but buy them. My grandpa would have dropped dead at the thought
(and in case you wondered: yes, I buy condoms for my brother when I happen to go to the drugstore. My mom would presumably buy them if there were no witnesses -we've never tried that out yet. My grandma would not even have dared to use the word.)
Maybe in a generation or two men will wear handbags as well. I usually carry a backpack, but in situations where a backpack would be inappropriate handbags are quite useful. (Plus: if you keep a cobblestone in it, you can knock out any mugger!)
If I'd ask my brother to bring me a box of tampons from the drugstore, he'd not bat an eyelash and ask "which size?". My dad would feel uncomfortable but buy them. My grandpa would have dropped dead at the thought
(and in case you wondered: yes, I buy condoms for my brother when I happen to go to the drugstore. My mom would presumably buy them if there were no witnesses -we've never tried that out yet. My grandma would not even have dared to use the word.)
Maybe in a generation or two men will wear handbags as well. I usually carry a backpack, but in situations where a backpack would be inappropriate handbags are quite useful. (Plus: if you keep a cobblestone in it, you can knock out any mugger!)
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do you think it's perhaps a matter of age/generation?
If I'd ask my brother to bring me a box of tampons from the drugstore, he'd not bat an eyelash and ask "which size?". My dad would feel uncomfortable but buy them. My grandpa would have dropped dead at the thought
(and in case you wondered: yes, I buy condoms for my brother when I happen to go to the drugstore. My mom would presumably buy them if there were no witnesses -we've never tried that out yet. My grandma would not even have dared to use the word.)
Maybe in a generation or two men will wear handbags as well. I usually carry a backpack, but in situations where a backpack would be inappropriate handbags are quite useful. (Plus: if you keep a cobblestone in it, you can knock out any mugger!)
Men used to carry satchels all of the time. For some reason, though, in the past 75 years or so, having anything to do with "feminine" anything makes some men insecure, and they react foolishly. I mean, what gender is a handbag anyway? Why is it associated with women only? I'd love to carry around a handbag, as I'm diabetic, and should always have my glucose monitoring equipment with me, as well as quick sugar remedies. I guarantee you, though, that there are men out there would die before carrying around such things because they'd think it made them look less masculine.
my dad carries a kind of handbag. He finds it handy and not un-manly at all.
Amazon.de lists 220 male handbags, Amazon.com offers even 250. So Americans are wussier than Germans *snicker*. Or more emancipated.
Amazon.de lists 220 male handbags, Amazon.com offers even 250. So Americans are wussier than Germans
*snicker*. Or more emancipated.
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my dad carries a kind of handbag. He finds it handy and not un-manly at all.
Amazon.de lists 220 male handbags, Amazon.com offers even 250. So Americans are wussier than Germans
Those are nice! I've always wanted a "leather" messenger type satchel. I could carry my tablet in it, my monitoring stuff, even a bottle of water (people with diabetes and HBP need to drink a lot of water). Plus, it would be nice not to have to sit on my wallet and have pain shoot up my spine.
By the way, I put "leather" in quotes because I don't want it to be leather. I don't feel right about that. I'd rather use man made materials.
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