Need advice on introducing myself to a girl through facebook.
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Wondering how much interaction Aldo has had with this new girl before declaring he "really likes her". That seems to be the crux of a lot of these problems. Building the girl up in his head and getting infatuated with her without even interacting much with her (or even without meeting her, on occasion).
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Thank ****.
This. Kestra is right (as usual).
It's a bit silly. I suppose ridiculing others makes some of the guys on internet forums feel better about their own shortcomings?
You're twisting Aldo's words every opportunity you get.
^Who's that addressed to? Kestra was addressing me, so assuming you meant me, despite me only posting in this thread once or twice, and doing no such thing?
Call it 'twisting his words' if you like, just using the 8 or so years worth of posting history and recalling that certain posters seem to repeat a lot of the same problems.
Didn't go very far with it, just pointing out that he seems to 'really like' a lot of girls, one after the next, without really interacting with them much, and whether he was building them up too much in his head. If I had a dollar for every girl Aldo has told us he likes since I've been here, well I wouldn't be rich, exactly, but I could punch out a little early today at least
Just suggesting he slow down a bit, and not let the cart get ahead of the horse, that's all.
If you'd like to interpret my comments as "ridiculing others to make me feel better about my shortcomings", I suppose you can, but you're way off base.
Thing about a BBS community is that you get to know posters a bit after a while.
Call it 'twisting his words' if you like, just using the 8 or so years worth of posting history and recalling that certain posters seem to repeat a lot of the same problems.
Didn't go very far with it, just pointing out that he seems to 'really like' a lot of girls, one after the next, without really interacting with them much, and whether he was building them up too much in his head. If I had a dollar for every girl Aldo has told us he likes since I've been here, well I wouldn't be rich, exactly, but I could punch out a little early today at least
Just suggesting he slow down a bit, and not let the cart get ahead of the horse, that's all.If you'd like to interpret my comments as "ridiculing others to make me feel better about my shortcomings", I suppose you can, but you're way off base.
Thing about a BBS community is that you get to know posters a bit after a while.
Yeah, I addressed you. The guy who jumped to a pretty elaborate conclusion before Aldo even gave any details.
The guy who ended up being completely wrong. But grats on knowing Aldo "so well" after 8 years anyway.
The guy who ended up being completely wrong. But grats on knowing Aldo "so well" after 8 years anyway.
Really, completely wrong? Based on what? Heck, this one was even a QUESTION instead of a statement, and based just on the last couple threads we've had about girls Aldo liked recently. Heck, he knew this girl longer than i guessed, but it just means that he either really liked this girl while crushing on the last couple, or has started to really like this girl in the couple of days since he eased off on the subject of the thread. That should be a sign right there: he's telling us he really likes a girl in a thread he started about how to get in with some OTHER girl he likes!
Entertaining that you're taking offense on Aldo's behalf, though, even though Aldo not only came down on my side on this one, but isn't offended...
Entertaining that you're taking offense on Aldo's behalf, though, even though Aldo not only came down on my side on this one, but isn't offended...
I do not fear girls. In fact, I get along with them too well. I exist almost exclusively in...the FRIEND ZONE!
That's me, boy that is me.
I have no problem talking to girls, being around girls, or heck even flirting with girls...only if I know in the back of my head that I would never hook up with them (whether they have a boyfriend or that I'm just not interested.).
It's only when I come across the ones that I really have a thing for that I become a jabbering idiot and don't know how to act
Let me start by saying I think it IS possible to be just friends with a woman, but usually only after a specific understanding has been reached....
Having said that, my experiences are the exact opposite, usually women I am friends with either wind up liking me a lot or vice versa, usually the former...
You think I'm offended? What gave it away? That I said your post was "a bit silly"?
I must've been livid!
ETA: I'm sooo sorry (sort of...) that this seemed so harsh that it makes you think I was offended. I'm as calm as a sloth (just not furry). I just felt the sudden urge to call you out on your assumptions that were mere speculation.
Addressing Kestra and Emilia mostly, just letting them know it doesn't bother me that I'm getting scrutinized the way I am
I'm touched that you remember some of my older posts...seeing as I took a 2 year leave of this board and only recently came back and started posting full time again.
Addressing Kestra and Emilia mostly, just letting them know it doesn't bother me that I'm getting scrutinized the way I am
I'm touched that you remember some of my older posts...seeing as I took a 2 year leave of this board and only recently came back and started posting full time again.
Wait...did you ever talk to this girl or what?
This.
...and this.
Aldo has made a regular habit of posting threads like this, where he discovers a girl he "really likes" and then never does anything about it. Give it a couple months and I'm sure he'll post another one.
The girl that was the subject of my original post in this thread, no I have not met her yet. I am not going to go out of my way to meet her because I have concluded (with the help of several people here) that it would be rather weird.
If I do meet her one day, that will be great, but until that day comes there is no reason to lose sleep over a girl I have never met
If I do meet her one day, that will be great, but until that day comes there is no reason to lose sleep over a girl I have never met
Eh to be honest, Aldo does have a history of this sort of thing and just generally not following people's advice regarding women. And getting way ahead of himself about liking someone. I mean I think the original post in this thread tells us as much, and those of us who have read many of the threads are going to have a different view of things.
But I also don't think there's anything harmful in finding people attractive easily, unless that comes with other problems. Like assuming the other person reciprocates, or getting too personal too quickly, or obsessing, that sort of thing.
The way I see it, we should save the scolding for actual issues, not just as a kneejerk response based on someone's posting history.
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