Your post comes off as saying that you believe that marriage is for everybody EXCEPT two white heterosexuals.
Intolerance goes both ways.
What does marriage mean to you?
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Your post comes off as saying that you believe that marriage is for everybody EXCEPT two white heterosexuals.
Intolerance goes both ways.
In Historic terms, marriage represents Human bondage; in more general terms, it represents distrust and lack of commitment.
Presumably this person has a name.
How does it represent a lack of commitment?
Okay, I'm not a big romantic, but this echoes what I was coming in here to say and made my eyes sting a little because it rings so true for me. Marriage means I'm always here for him and he's always there for me. It means I'm still not sure where my life will go, but I do know he'll be a part of it; it means that, though I came from a big, close extended family of ten people, we now consider ourselves twelve because I have a husband and my brother has a wife. It means that even when I want to kill him, I never want to leave and live without him.
Kestra, I'm getting all choked up over here.
I get the distrust part but I don't get the commitment.
I can understand that. So it's the fact that marriage requires validation from the govt. that you oppose, not the commitment itself, then? I see where you're coming from.
Kestra, I'm getting all choked up over here.
Aww, I'm glad what I said made sense to someone! Hugs!
I think that marriage is about making a relationship "formal". If the relationship is not already honest and fulfilling for both members then marriage does not mean anything. If it is, then marriage means that the two partners are making a conscious decision to be together for ever and most possibly also create a family.
The two are related. Trust and commitment don't require a legal contract; a contract is required when there is a lack of trust and commitment.
You knocked her up, and her Dad's got a gun.
They don't think they'll ever find anyone hotter who's willing to put out.
They think this will stop his/her sleeping around.
They are getting old, and fear dying alone.
In all seriousness, I know of someone who "settled" for and married a high school boyfriend who they didn't love, because at the time they didn't think anyone better would come along. The thought of that makes me sick to the pit of my stomach.
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This happens way too often.
I think marriage is an unnecessary and antiquated social custom... and yet, if two people want to enter into it, whatever their gender or orientation may be, I will vociferously defend their right to do so.
So, basically, I'm a pro-gay marriage person who doesn't really care for the general concept of marriage. I'm funny like that.
So, basically, I'm a pro-gay marriage person who doesn't really care for the general concept of marriage. I'm funny like that.
Exactly. That's how I feel about dueling to the death.
I don't understand people who say on the one hand everyone should have the right to get married to whatever adult they please but it's a [insert negative adjective(s) here] custom. If it's bad you should be saying why it should be dropped. Hermiod's one of the few on here who's calling a spade a spade. He disapproves of it because it gives a legal and fiscal advantage which is not merited in any way other than that married couples have a piece of paper from the registrar. Either level the playing field or abolish the custom, is what I think he's saying.
For myself, I don't actually notice any monetary advantage but perhaps I'm being naive; aside from the fact two incomes go a lot further than one when it comes to purchasing power. But that's not something unique to marriage.
Most people who are married didn't over-analyse their motivation. All the intense scrutiny seems to be the province of people who aren't married. Fair enough, but don't expect married people to have the equivalent battery of reasons why they did get married to counteract those why they shouldn't. It's not their problem.
For myself, I don't actually notice any monetary advantage but perhaps I'm being naive; aside from the fact two incomes go a lot further than one when it comes to purchasing power. But that's not something unique to marriage.
Most people who are married didn't over-analyse their motivation. All the intense scrutiny seems to be the province of people who aren't married. Fair enough, but don't expect married people to have the equivalent battery of reasons why they did get married to counteract those why they shouldn't. It's not their problem.
I love the idea of a big grand wedding, with everyone dressed up. 
The rest, you can have with or without marriage, though I suppose the fiscal breaks are handy too. Personally, I can't seriously see myself committing to someone else in that way, largely because I know I'm far too happily selfish about many things (not least my privacy/internal world generally) to be able to say the vows honestly.
The rest, you can have with or without marriage, though I suppose the fiscal breaks are handy too. Personally, I can't seriously see myself committing to someone else in that way, largely because I know I'm far too happily selfish about many things (not least my privacy/internal world generally) to be able to say the vows honestly.
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Well at the moment l am not married but if l was l would like my guy to be honest, trustworthy be commited only to me.
I would love the person to really love me like l would him.
I would like the person to be able to talk about any problems that arise not just bottle up feelings and let that ruin our relationship.
I would love the person to really love me like l would him.
I would like the person to be able to talk about any problems that arise not just bottle up feelings and let that ruin our relationship.
^ You like baseball, Ang? 
Angela 0077
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I used to play baseball when l was in primary school.
The game is okay
Got wacked on the thumb by the ball it hurt alot but l kept playing until we won the game.
The game is okay
Got wacked on the thumb by the ball it hurt alot but l kept playing until we won the game.
Ah. Well this thread is about what marriage means to you, the individual, so I won't argue too much! I do think you're putting too much emphasis on requirement though. Often marriage is not required, but desired. The two are different things.
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