The comics Lois fell in love with Superman and after learning his secret learned to love Clark Kent. This is what I prefer.
Maybe there have been some changes since I last read Superman but from what I remember Lois ended up falling in love and saying yes to Clark's marriage proposal before he revealed he was Superman to her.
Action Comics #662
Personally, I think it says more about Lois's character if she falls in Love with Clark rather than Superman.
I've always maintained, even in the Pre-Crisis universe particularly the Silver and Bronze Ages, that Lois Lane has always been in love with Clark Kent more than she ever had been with Superman.
Psychologically, Lois is an egotist. Her ego won't accept that she could ever fall in love with a man that isn't super, especially if that man is a mild-mannered "milquetoast" like Kent. But she's drawn to him, and truly cares for him as seen in some of the Elliot S! Maggin written issues. Even in the DonnerVerse movies, she's drawn to bespectacled Clark. He's different from all the other city boys, just as Superman is different from all the other men she's ever dated. Clark is sincere. Honest to default. Caring. And always there.
In fact, when other women get involved with Clark, Lois gets jealous. Like in
Superman III, when Lois sees the diamond ring on Lana's finger and assumes quickly that Clark proposed to her. Or in
Superman IV where she gets overprotective of Clark when Lacey starts making her move. Granted, however, Lois does play it off. Yet I think there is still a charge of romantic love for Clark coursing through those scenes in IV. (And it's this subtlety of emotion that either Bosworth or Singer didn't inject into SR; I blame Bosworth.)
Lois, because of her ego, goes out of her way to prove that Clark is Superman as she does so many times during the Silver and Bronze Age comics. If she can prove Clark is Superman then it would justify her love for Clark.
However,
the moment Superman is out of the picture or Clark asserts himself in any measure, Lois gravitates to Clark and she's
more than happy to be with him. On Earth 2 when Superman was eradicated by magic and Clark sprung forth from the ashes, Lois fell for Clark almost immediately so much so that they were married. When Superman returned, Lois remained married as Lois Lane-Kent.
One of the folks at Radio Kal or from the Superman Homepage, iirc, made a comment on a podcast that having Lois fall for the more mild-mannered version of Kent and not the Byrne version made her seem weak. In fact, I think it makes her stronger. Lois falling for Kent and marrying that version, as we see in the recent comics, makes her a woman who doesn't care what other people think. That she loves the man she is going to love because she sees him for who he truly is beyond both the glasses and the cape.
Lois Lane loves them both and she's the only one who gets to see the person beneath the two public personas he dons. But she'll always love the part that binds him to her and humanity more--Clark Kent.