Your Girlfriend Was In A Porno Movie!

[Saturn0660]

Well, i guess what she was doing in said Porno would make me decide.

If it was hardcore DP action then she's gone.

 

[Bluesteel]

What would you do if you found out that the person you were currently dating had done porn?

I personally would find it upsetting...I don't know if it would be a dealbreaker, it is close though.

Well, let's be clear, most pornography is just straight up prostitution spun in a different light. No, considering I am absolutely the jealous type when it comes to past relationships-- I would try move on and find somebody else.

Same thing I guess if I found out she had been with more guys that she could count on two hands and been "involved" with even more than that (grossed out, no longer attracted to this person).

And some porn is straight out racist. I remember one time when I was going out with a white girl. I was looking for some information about interracial dating. All I found was stuff well I don't want to describe what it was in case little kids are here. Lets just say it involves a lot of stereotyping to such an extent that I found it offensive.

Anybody willing to further the stereotype of their own race or get screwed by multiple men who treat you on camera nothing but a toy isn't someone i want to get to know let alone date.

 

[StarryEyed]

I've heard this question asked before and the usual "Not really" with explanation responses. It'll always be different experiencing it than making a judgment call without any emotional involvement. A lot of people like to think they can rise above it in thery, in practice it's a different story and only few people can answer the questions honestly.

I've never really known anyone who has experienced that - apart from a mate who found out his dad was once a porn star, but that's a bit different

I agree. I shake my head and chuckle at the responses from those who "take the moral high ground" and claim they wouldn't have a problem with it..

I have a similar reaction to people who can't comprehend that other people might actually think differently from them.

I wouldn't care in the least. If I found out she had been cruel in some way or something like that, I would be bothered. But where's the harm in staring in a porn movie? If anything, I'd be turned on by it.

 

[John Picard]

I wouldn't care in the least. If I found out she had been cruel in some way or something like that, I would be bothered. But where's the harm in staring in a porn movie? If anything, I'd be turned on by it.

I can just imagine the following:

StarryEyed's G/F: "I'm shooting a new movie tomorrow. It's called, "20 Man Gang Bang" and I have to screw 20 guys."

 

[farmkid]

Considering I'm married, if I had a girlfriend doing porn, I would have a bigger problem than the porn.

However, if I weren't married and found out that my girlfriend was doing/had done porn, I would have a problem with it. My problem wouldn't be jealousy or anything, I would have a problem with it for moral reasons. I would be dating with the goal of finding a wife, and anyone who had done/was doing porn would have morals that were so different from my own that it would be impossible to have a successful marriage.

 

[Jetfire]

I can undestand why some guys wouldn't mind. The thing isn't she had don't these films...it is they are out there for everyone to see and that would bother me. Finding out by accident would suck...like finding a tape or a dvd and seeing it. I would hope when the relationship was going somewhere she would be honest up front.

 

[sidious618]

I'd see if she could get me in a movie.

 

[Plecostomus]

Wife Of Brian did two scenes in two different videos long before we got together.

No I will not tell you which ones.

It did come up in conversation and I was totally ok with it. Like has been said above you cannot undo the past, and if I had been bothered by it I would have missed out on a totally awesome person.

 

[SeerSGB]

There's so many variables, that it's hard to say how one would react till they are put in that position. Right now, I say I'd probably have a problem with it if she was still active in the industry; if she was out of it, we'd have to have a long talk and see if it was a issue with us as a couple or not.

Really, is it much different than her doing some nude pics or sex vids with a ex-lover and the stuff ending up online cause the ex is a douche?

 

[Danoz]

There's so many variables, that it's had to say how one would react till they are put in that position. Right now, I say I'd probably have a problem with it if she was still active in the industry; if she was out of it, we'd have to have a long talk and see if it was a issue with us as a couple or not.

Really, is it much different than her doing some nude pics or sex vids with a ex-lover and the stuff ending up online cause the ex is a douche?

Very different if said behavior was in a committed relationship and not on screen for money. That is prostitution. Granted, I wouldn't be entirely comfortable with your other scenario, either. I don't like to think about the girl I am with getting it on with somebody else. It's a complete turn-off.

 

[SeerSGB]

There's so many variables, that it's had to say how one would react till they are put in that position. Right now, I say I'd probably have a problem with it if she was still active in the industry; if she was out of it, we'd have to have a long talk and see if it was a issue with us as a couple or not.

Really, is it much different than her doing some nude pics or sex vids with a ex-lover and the stuff ending up online cause the ex is a douche?

Very different if said behavior was in a committed relationship and not on screen for money. That is prostitution. Granted, I wouldn't be entirely comfortable with your other scenario, either. I don't like to think about the girl I am with getting it on with somebody else. It's a complete turn-off.

Well it would be hard for me to deal with it at first, I'll admit that. A lot would depend on the type of porn, how long she'd been out of the business, her history since then and how long we'd been together and how I found out.

 

[sidious618]

Very different if said behavior was in a committed relationship and not on screen for money. That is prostitution.

A) I'm not entirely sure that it's prostitution and B) I also don't think that it's immoral even if it is. You're acting like the gf murdered someone.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I seriously do not and would not give a shit.

 

[Danoz]

Very different if said behavior was in a committed relationship and not on screen for money. That is prostitution.

A) I'm not entirely sure that it's prostitution and B) I also don't think that it's immoral even if it is. You're acting like the gf murdered someone.

Look. It's sex for money. Physical, sexual, penetration for $$$. It's just not for me to accept it-- I prefer a long-term relationship with somebody who takes sexuality very seriously as something intimate and special between two people. Somebody desensitized, cheapened and objectified by countless dickhead pornstars and casting couches could no longer share that, in my opinion. It's conservative, but it's my preference.

 

[SeerSGB]

Very different if said behavior was in a committed relationship and not on screen for money. That is prostitution.

A) I'm not entirely sure that it's prostitution and B) I also don't think that it's immoral even if it is. You're acting like the gf murdered someone.

Look. It's sex for money. Physical, sexual, penetration for $$$. It's just not for me to accept it-- I prefer a long-term relationship with somebody who takes sexuality very seriously as something intimate and special between two people. Somebody desensitized, cheapened and objectified by countless dicks could no longer share that, in my opinion. It's conservative, but it's my preference.

So, how would you feel about a partner that how a long active sexual history before she met you? I'm not talking about porn or hooking, but just a sexually active person with more partners than you had?

 

[sidious618]

Somebody desensitized, cheapened and objectified by countless dickhead pornstars and casting couches could no longer share that, in my opinion. It's conservative, but it's my preference.

Cheapened?! Because she was in porn to get some money? I don't think so. There are a hell of a lot of worse jobs someone could have than being a porn star. I'd rather my girlfriend was a porn star than the head lawyer of Goldman Sachs.

 

[Danoz]

A) I'm not entirely sure that it's prostitution and B) I also don't think that it's immoral even if it is. You're acting like the gf murdered someone.

Look. It's sex for money. Physical, sexual, penetration for $$$. It's just not for me to accept it-- I prefer a long-term relationship with somebody who takes sexuality very seriously as something intimate and special between two people. Somebody desensitized, cheapened and objectified by countless dicks could no longer share that, in my opinion. It's conservative, but it's my preference.

So, how would you feel about a partner that how a long active sexual history before she met you? I'm not talking about porn or hooking, but just a sexually active person with more partners than you had?

If she has no idea the number of people she has been intimate with, or has to stop to count, I'll be finding myself another relationship. I just find it gross-- for men and women.

Look, I find it nice that you guys are coming to the defense of pornstars here, but WTF lol. I prefer to be with somebody who isn't cavalier about sex. We've all messed up before, but that's completely different from rampant promiscuity. And, frankly, in this day and age people should be discriminating about who they sleep with.

 

[Goji]

Based on her personality and general demeanor, I would be incredibly surprised if I were to find something like that out. But I wouldn't much care unless it was still going on. Still, I'd have an easier time believing she's secretly going on moon missions as an astronaut than starring in porn films.

 

[sidious618]

We've all messed up before, but that's completely different from rampant promiscuity.

It is different as in with pornography no one gets hurt while other people's "mess ups" may very well have involved people getting hurt.

And, frankly, in this day and age people should be discriminating about who they sleep with.

Porn stars are regularly checked for STDs. It seems to me that you're not all that educated on the subject you're talking about.

 

[SeerSGB]

Look. It's sex for money. Physical, sexual, penetration for $$$. It's just not for me to accept it-- I prefer a long-term relationship with somebody who takes sexuality very seriously as something intimate and special between two people. Somebody desensitized, cheapened and objectified by countless dicks could no longer share that, in my opinion. It's conservative, but it's my preference.

So, how would you feel about a partner that how a long active sexual history before she met you? I'm not talking about porn or hooking, but just a sexually active person with more partners than you had?

If she has no idea the number of people she has been intimate with, or has to stop to count, I'll be finding myself another relationship. I just find it gross-- for men and women.

Look, I find it nice that you guys are coming to the defense of pornstars here, but WTF lol. I prefer to be with somebody who isn't cavalier about sex. We've all messed up before, but that's completely different from rampant promiscuity. And, frankly, in this day and age people should be discriminating about who they sleep with.

Well you never know if a woman (or a man) is telling the truth about their past sex lives, you have just have to assume/trust that they are. But a large-- relatively speaking-- number of partners in no way devalues a person.