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Buying a house is soul-sucking

farmkid

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I think I'm going to scream. I need to rant for a moment. Here's why:

So I recently finished graduate school and took a job doing research at another university in another state. After finishing at the first place (end of May), I moved my wife and children to my parents' house temporarily because it's only 3 hours away from my new job, until we we could get a place and move to the new city. I've been staying with some friends in town during the week and going home on the weekend. It was supposed to be only until sometime in July when we could move into a house. To facilitate a quick transition, we started house hunting the first week of June and made an offer the second day of house hunting. In the next couple of weeks, we ended up switching houses and since July 1,we've been under contract to buy the house we're still trying to buy.

Now is where it gets to the soul-sucking part. Since we are first-time home buyers, we are using the Rural Housing program administered by the USDA. It turns out that since the housing melt-down banks won't loan money to anyone without a pay stub covering 30 days or 90 days, depending on the bank. That delays us a little, but we just had to wait until Aug. 1 when I would get that pay stub. Not a big deal, we should still be able to easily get into the house by the time my kids start school on Aug. 20. My mortgage broker tried to get them to take the application without that pay stub and process it, so that once I had the pay stub they could just put final approval on it and we could move forward. They wouldn't do it. So, I get the pay stub early, on July 29 and immediately send it off. The bank does their thing and sends it off to the USDA. Typically, the USDA has about a 1-3 day turn around, as it was at the beginning of July. Well, when they received our application on Aug. 3, that time had increased to 10 days. It actually took 11 days, so it came back today. And, they wanted a small change on the contract, so we had to get the real estate agent to draw up that addendum, my wife and I had to sign it, and then send it back. Now we're still waiting.

When we started all of this, we had PLENTY of time to get moved in and settled before the kids start school. Now, they start school in two days and we haven't even closed yet, or even know when we can close. The best case scenario now is that we can close on Friday which puts us taking possession of the house on Monday. I can take time off to move this week, but next week I have things at work such that I can't take any time off. Forget having any time to clean the house before moving in or paint the two rooms that are hideous. What's more, so that the kids don't miss the first few days of school, my wife and kids need to move down here tomorrow. We can't afford to stay that long in a hotel, so we'll be living in a campground until we can move into the house. Most of our camping equipment is buried at the back of the storage unit where we are storing most of our stuff, so unless we can borrow a tent we'll be sleeping under the stars. At least I can get to the sleeping bags and there's a nice campground with showers and flushing toilets not far from the house.

Oh, and to top it off, we're losing $75 per day that we don't close because the original contract had a deadline of Aug. 5.

Sorry for the rant, but I think I'm about at the end of my rope.
 
Farmkid, I completely understand and sympathize. I was in a very similar boat.

I placed my bid on April 21, and our scheduled close date was 6/17. through a great many twists of fate, we didn't close until 8/4. By the end of things, I had to fire my original lawyer for lettings things get so out of hand and get a new attorney in. We lived out of a PODS storage bin in my in-laws driveway after 7/5, and both my wife and I were unable to change our vacation time, so we wasted a week of time off to do NOTHING.

All I can say is be strong. Once you're finally in the house you'll see that it was all worth it.

Oh, and have your attorney see if you have any recourse to recoup all that money. We are suing the seller, FHA, and the Mortgage company.
 
All I can say is be strong. Once you're finally in the house you'll see that it was all worth it.
I keep telling myself that. I'm really looking forward to the day when I can look back on this with gratitude for the character development. Hopefully that character development isn't the result of a nervous breakdown.:p
 
I can definitely sympathize since I bought my first house a year ago, although I didn't have to go through the same stuff you are since we did it just before the housing melt-down. At least you get to take advantage of that $8K tax credit! That really got my wife steamed when they announced that *after* we closed.
 
We had a hell of a time buying our house too. Fortunately we didn't have any financial hardship because of it. We had our house purchase negotiated in May and we finally closed in the middle of October.
 
I think I'm going to scream. I need to rant for a moment.... Sorry for the rant, but I think I'm about at the end of my rope.

Yeah, it can be annoying (actually I've been pretty lucky with my buys, but I know that really is mostly luck). But keep reminding yourself of the big picture - a house is worth serious money, and it's a complex thing to buy, and in the long term, the current hassles and financial costs will be pale into insignificance.

Stay strong dude, it'll be worth it! :techman:
 
If i learned one thing it is when you're on a very tight schedule everybody else isn't ;)

There's not much you can do about it.. you'll have to put up with a lot of stress and unfinished business. Once you are inside the house and with a real bed you can take your time.
 
Ah, yes. I remember the house-buying experience. The refinancing process is not much better, either, I can tell you. Personally, I'd rather drink terpentine and piss on a brush fire. The constant lying, invasive, shell-game "one more thing" bullshit almost did me in.
 
Mine went pretty smoothly. Of course, i bought in 2006, so in retrospect it would have been better financially for it to fall apart on me instead, but it worked fine.

Thankfully, I bought a little bigger house than I needed, so I won't be cramped if I'm still here in 7-8 years with a wife and kid...
 
Yikes, what an ordeal! A friend of mine went through so much stress when she and her then-fiancé bought their house that they nearly broke up on moving day.
 
Am i the only one who's house buying went smooth as glass?
It seems so. Maybe I should have had you buy my house for me.:)

My two purchases to date weren't totally smooth-sailing but were pretty close, to be fair. The first required some last minute contract changes which delayed closure for a couple of weeks. But the second was totally clean. That was a buy-to-let though, so considerably less complex in several respects.
 
Am i the only one who's house buying went smooth as glass?
My second one did. Moving into my first house though was a PITA, although not for financial reasons. I prefer to have my homes built rather than buy existing stock. For the first one, there were some rather formidable engineering challenges that delayed my move-in date by two months. Staying with relatives for that long with a one year old didn't make the wait go by any faster, trust me.
 
For us, house-buying has usually gone rather smoothly. It's house-selling that drives me nuts.
 
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