Women! Give up your secrets!

[Squiggy]

Alright. So, I was on a date Thursday night and I'm pretty sure it went well. We stayed up drinking a lot longer than we were supposed to talking and laughing and yada yada yada.

I'm pretty into this girl and was wondering what are the little signals you give to let a guy know you're interested.

 

[Kestra]

I'd tell him I was interested in him.

 

[CaptainStoner]

I'd tell him I was interested in him.

God, you women are so mysterious and elusive.

 

[An Officer]

No mystery here I'm afraid. If I like someone, they usually know about it.
Doesn't do to keep something so nice to yourself. Unless you're a hopeless game player.

 

[Squiggy]

I'd tell him I was interested in him.

God, you women are so mysterious and elusive.

No...I mean like a girl touching a guy on the arm to make a point. That sort of stuff. I assume shes interested to a point given how we went out. What sort of things do you do during a date?

 

[Kestra]

Okay okay, I'll try and be helpful although I can't remember the last time I was on a date.

I'd want the guy to know that I was interested in him and having a good time. I think most of that would come naturally. Laughing, not looking distracted, asking him questions about himself, and probably making more eye contact than I would otherwise. I don't really know how to flirt, but I think it would involve some teasing? The conversation would probably range from deeper serious topics to joking around.

But yeah, physical stuff ... eye contact, maybe a light touch on the arm, glancing at his lips at the end of the night if I wanted him to kiss me, things like that. I suppose that's what would distinguish if I was interested in him as a friend, or if I was interested in a physical component as well.

 

[Misfit Toy]

My wife tells me that I needed a friggin' two by four to the head before I realized that she was interested.

Eye contact and glances didn't cut it for me.

 

[cultcross]

My wife tells me that I needed a friggin' two by four to the head before I realized that she was interested.

Eye contact and glances didn't cut it for me.

Same with my mrs. She fell asleep on my lap and I thought she was just bored.

 

[Plecostomus]

In our case it was the repeated sessions of furious humping before I caught on.

That and she called me for the second and third dates... and a few other things. What I'm getting at with her it was quite obvious.

 

[Trippy]

Smile and laugh a lot.

Call her and ask her out again...you'll know pretty soon if she's interested if she says yes

 

[SeerSGB]

My wife tells me that I needed a friggin' two by four to the head before I realized that she was interested.

Eye contact and glances didn't cut it for me.

Same with my mrs. She fell asleep on my lap and I thought she was just bored.

Same here. We met online and my wife flirted like crazy, and I was like "yeah...uh...okay...I like you too, you're a good friend..." Jump ahead ten years and her doing the "We need to talk" and me thinking "What the hell did I do?"

 

[cultcross]

Smile and laugh a lot.

Call her and ask her out again...you'll know pretty soon if she's interested if she says yes

It's no wonder we never catch on with all this subtlety

 

[roarimaraptor]

Call her and ask her out again...you'll know pretty soon if she's interested if she says yes

Exactly. Honestly, no matter how she acted on the date, you won't know if she actually is interested until she agrees to a second date. So call her up pronto and ask. If she says yes, that's your answer. If she says no or any other response that isn't yes, then... you also have your answer.

Good luck!

 

[Squiggy]

Ok, so here's the timeline. Let me know if I'm just being an idiot.

Met online about 3 weeks ago. Emailed back and forth and set up a date for this Saturday.

Thursday we're texting back and forth and she says she could use some cheering up and asked if I could meet her up at her place after work for drinking and what not. So, I did. We went to a bar thats on an adjacent block and drank and talked for about 3 hours. Afterward we walked her dog (who loves me) and she wrapped her arm around mine. Back to her place for more drinking and we ended up drinking until after the time the subway closed, so she suggested I stay at her place.

Being the drunken fool that I was, I didn't object. I would've taken a cab, but no biggie. I'm trying to avoid the whole "sleeping with a girl on the first date thing" because that never works. So, since my deadline was already past we drank some more and laughed and then she whipped out the photo album and she reminiscenced.

Fun times.

After a while we finally went to sleep and I did sleep in her bed but no funny bidness. She did wrap my arm around her in a general "spooning" fashion. Again, I'm trying to be good this time around. I left for work with the world's worst hangover wearing the same clothes I did the day before and here we stand texting back and forth.

I'm worrying about this because I curious as to how much of this is due to the booze and how much of this is actually her.

Oh, and she has a British accent so I could just listen to her talk all night long.

 

[cultcross]

^ OK, she's into you, you dumbarse.
(imagine that in a British accent if you have to)

 

[Squiggy]

Oh. I am. And from Surrey in case you were wondering.

 

[Kestra]

^ OK, she's into you, you dumbarse.
(imagine that in a British accent if you have to)

Seconded.

 

[Shaytan]

and she wrapped her arm around mine.

[...]

She did wrap my arm around her in a general "spooning" fashion.

She "borrows" parts of your body for her own enjoyment...you're trapped

 

[RJDiogenes]

She's obviously interested, but it sounds like a lot of that is her personality. I've known several women who are both gregarious and casual about houseguests (opposites attract, after all ), and their interest can seem like far more than it is. So, yes, she's interested; but how much only time will tell.

 

[TheLonelySquire]

Well, when I was single I just assumed they wera all interested. And they usually were.

You need to figure out what the girl is looking for and then provide it for her. It's pretty simple. Dating is a sport and you need to learn to play it well, or be beaten by someone else who plays it better.