How easy is it to admit your wrong?

[Zulu Romeo]

I don't like admitting I'm wrong. However I'm usually willing to concede that I've been mistaken, if that is as the case may be.

Depending on the subject matter, there doesn't seem to be much of a difference from a third party's perspective, as being mistaken and being wrong both involve committing to an established falsehood, whether unintentional, unaware, or deliberate from the first person's subjective perspective.

 

[Da'an]

True, but being simply "mistaken" is not quite as harsh on my ego.

 

[backstept]

I'm married...it isn't hard...even when I'm not..

if I ever get married I will refuse to 'admit I'm wrong' if I am in fact right
it's simply unacceptable to do that in my opinion

Marriage is a blast! Join the team!

'the wife is always right'
giving up and admitting you're wrong when you are right just to make things all hunky dory . . . give me a break
all this does is make the husband into a glorified servant to The Queen Of The House

sure, I'll take the rolleyes because I've obviously never been in any relationship where this would happen, but for me, admitting I'm wrong when I'm right is absolutely unacceptable

admitting I'm wrong when I'm actually wrong is another story
I'd do it in a heartbeat
it's all about integrity

 

[Zulu Romeo]

True, but being simply "mistaken" is not quite as harsh on my ego.

Then it is your protectiveness towards your image and your pride which makes it so very hard to admit your wrongdoing. Swallowing your pride and being prepared to take any flak is one of the bravest things to do, ever. Passing the buck or relinquishing your responsibility to some other person or power is the coward's way out - an attribute so frequently applied to today's politicians and businessmen by so many commentators.

But I'll concede that being able to admit wrongdoing is never easy to do, and it is perfectly natural to feel bad about it and worry about how the ego will handle it. Good luck.

 

[TheGodBen]

if I ever get married I will refuse to 'admit I'm wrong' if I am in fact right
it's simply unacceptable to do that in my opinion

It's an admirable policy, but if you hold true to it then you'll never get past the engagement stage.

 

[backstept]

if I ever get married I will refuse to 'admit I'm wrong' if I am in fact right
it's simply unacceptable to do that in my opinion

It's an admirable policy, but if you hold true to it then you'll never get past the engagement stage.

yeah I doubt I'll be able to stick to it for very long
luckily I'm cursed with the inability to pick up on signals so I have no idea if anyone likes me so I'll probably be doomed to be single forever

 

[Goliath]

It depends upon who's right.

This.

Admitting that I'm wrong to someone I like and respect is fairly easy.

But having to admit that I'm wrong to someone that I dislike and don't respect can be a serious blow to my pride.

Because, in the latter case, being wrong would imply one of two things:

--either my judgment about this person was mistaken, along with my judgment about the particular question;

--or my judgment about this person was correct, but they caught me off guard, or got lucky.

But to be perfectly honest, I'm pretty sensitive on this issue, even with people I like and respect.

For example: I have sometimes found myself in situations where the wrongdoing and misunderstanding was mutual. In such a situation, if I like and respect the person involved, I will often make the first move, admit I was wrong, and apologize.

If the other person then admits their own wrongdoing and apologizes, well and good. This can actually improve my opinion of them: it shows they understand the seriousness of these type of situations.

But if they refuse to reciprocate--that can really piss me off, and destroy any goodwill I feel toward them.

I had this happen just recently, in fact.

 

[Da'an]

True, but being simply "mistaken" is not quite as harsh on my ego.

Then it is your protectiveness towards your image and your pride which makes it so very hard to admit your wrongdoing. Swallowing your pride and being prepared to take any flak is one of the bravest things to do, ever. Passing the buck or relinquishing your responsibility to some other person or power is the coward's way out - an attribute so frequently applied to today's politicians and businessmen by so many commentators.

But I'll concede that being able to admit wrongdoing is never easy to do, and it is perfectly natural to feel bad about it and worry about how the ego will handle it. Good luck.

Ah, I think we may be talking about slightly different things here. I'm referring to being wrong when it comes to fields of knowledge and general areas of academia, not actions or the consequences or actions.

I don't actually know what I would do in a situation like that, but I'd like to think I'd be mature enough to accept responsibility if I'm truly at fault.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

True, but being simply "mistaken" is not quite as harsh on my ego.

Then it is your protectiveness towards your image and your pride which makes it so very hard to admit your wrongdoing. Swallowing your pride and being prepared to take any flak is one of the bravest things to do, ever. Passing the buck or relinquishing your responsibility to some other person or power is the coward's way out - an attribute so frequently applied to today's politicians and businessmen by so many commentators.

But I'll concede that being able to admit wrongdoing is never easy to do, and it is perfectly natural to feel bad about it and worry about how the ego will handle it. Good luck.

Ah, I think we may be talking about slightly different things here. I'm referring to being wrong when it comes to fields of knowledge and general areas of academia, not actions or the consequences or actions.

I don't actually know what I would do in a situation like that, but I'd like to think I'd be mature enough to accept responsibility if I'm truly at fault.

I think I agree with Da'an to being 'mistaken' rather than wrong in some cases.

I would be mistaken if I said that it was Patrick Stewart that played Riker but I would be wrong to insist on it if I had doubts.

I do admit to being wrong if I am so ~ like the time I fell asleep on nightshift at IBM and a really important job fell over. I admitted to falling asleep and they were able to trace the job back and fix it a lot easier than looking for other reasons why the job failed. I'd been doing double shifts for a week as they had no cover ~ they thanked me for my honesty and gave me the next day off as paid

 

[Goliath]

^They sound like exceptionally wise and generous employers.

 

[Jadzia]

For example: I have sometimes found myself in situations where the wrongdoing and misunderstanding was mutual. In such a situation, if I like and respect the person involved, I will often make the first move, admit I was wrong, and apologize.

If the other person then admits their own wrongdoing and apologizes, well and good. This can actually improve my opinion of them: it shows they understand the seriousness of these type of situations.

But if they refuse to reciprocate--that can really piss me off, and destroy any goodwill I feel toward them.

I had this happen just recently, in fact.

Prisoner's Dilemma. Always go tit-for-tat

 

[K'Ehleyr]

^ either that or desperate
But it was easier for the buck to stop with me and get it fixed then and there rather than it eventually coming back to me when I don't think they'd have been so kind.

 

[Goliath]

Prisoner's Dilemma. Always go tit-for-tat

Indeed. Game theory ftw.

 

[FordSVT]

I'm married...it isn't hard...even when I'm not..

if I ever get married I will refuse to 'admit I'm wrong' if I am in fact right
it's simply unacceptable to do that in my opinion

When you're in a relationship, you'll learn that, especially if it's a matter of limited consequence, admitting you are wrong about something is not a big deal.

Seriously, it's not worth starting an argument over stupid shit. It's not just marriage, even with friends and co-workers there are certain times when you just bite your tongue and say "it's not worth the argument". Everyone does that to a certain degree.

 

[Pingfah]

How easy is it to admit i'm what?

 

[K'Ehleyr]

... Seriously, it's not worth starting an argument over stupid shit. It's not just marriage, even with friends and co-workers there are certain times when you just bite your tongue and say "it's not worth the argument". Everyone does that to a certain degree.

This is why I am no good in TNZ

 

[Kestra]

if I ever get married I will refuse to 'admit I'm wrong' if I am in fact right
it's simply unacceptable to do that in my opinion

Marriage is a blast! Join the team!

'the wife is always right'
giving up and admitting you're wrong when you are right just to make things all hunky dory . . . give me a break
all this does is make the husband into a glorified servant to The Queen Of The House

sure, I'll take the rolleyes because I've obviously never been in any relationship where this would happen, but for me, admitting I'm wrong when I'm right is absolutely unacceptable

admitting I'm wrong when I'm actually wrong is another story
I'd do it in a heartbeat
it's all about integrity

Don't worry, marriage isn't about admitting you're wrong if you aren't. Not in my opinion, anyway. I do think it's important to know when you're mistaken and be able to admit it, and it's as important to know when an argument isn't worth fighting over. You don't have to say you're wrong, but sometimes you just have to back off and drop something, keeping the larger picture in mind.

But what do I know; our first wedding anniversary is this weekend.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Oh congratulations Kestra ~ I hope you have a lovely, romantic celebration planned

 

[Amaris]

When I am wrong, I admit when I am wrong, and there are times when I have been very wrong.


J.

 

[TheBrew]

I'm never wrong... it is just that reality often disagrees.