I certainly don't want him dead...
I agree with the reasoning behind his decisions, even if they seem selfish to his people- the Andorians have been so indoctrinated that they aren't really living anymore. They just exist... And Shar found a way around that, so props to him.
Now, since it appeared Shar was going to fulfill his family obligations, then he should have done it sooner, yes, war etc., but I think he could have made the time. But I understand his conflict. I'm too lazy to bother with spoiler codes, but his people have become so obsessive, yet their actions contradict their goal to a point I understand why he does what he does- but I think he was too on the fence due to his love to make a break. And that happens to almost everyone.
Shar has suffered so much pain, a hard ass mother, the culture, squabbling mates, that I don't consider him emo as much as Thriss annoyed me. She was obsessive... but I think that has to do with what Andorian culture has become too, just like Dizhei's repression of herself.
But so manny Thriss instances included Councillor Mathias (sp) instances, and that woman bugs me do death... I'd have attacked her! Ugh!!