.....With the destruction of Vulcan, it is probable that Spock's devotion to duty and responsibility will preclude any further relationship with Uhura, serving together on the Enterprise.
This one's a no brainer. They both serve on the same ship and will realise that their devotion to duty and their careers will preclude this going further and they will end it amicably and have the same mutual respect they exhibit on TOS.
I meant to comment here- not that this thread needs to return, but..
In any case, it could go the exact opposite direction. The destruction of Vulcan could understandably lead Spock into placing more importance in his personal relationships- not less. Now, with his home planet obliterated he likely lost many friends and aquaintances. He'd also realize that there are countless people whom he might have known or meant something to that now don't even exist. Those posibilites are gone. In an instant.
So he'll likely want to hold even dearer to himself those who are left in his life. I think he'll be able to put his duties into perspective, but give 100% focus when he's engaged in Ent. duties. Vulcans are good at that. Both of them are quite able to behave professionally. I know some people disagree there.
I don't understand why they can't have a relationship and work together. Really. They could have the
best kind of relationship- one with a shared passion- their life on the Enterprise. So they wouldn't be distracting and choking each other off- they'd have this common goal and be pulling in the same direction. They could be supportive of and strengthen each other.
We don't know that much about Uhura, but Spock seems to be very important to her, and I don't think she feels as if she has to choose between her work and love.
With Spock saying that now Earth is the only home he has left indicates to me that he's probably going through this type of thought process.
"Discipline" of the asexual undramatic professional variety where people just debate and give out orders on the bridge was what was hurting the franchise in the eyes of much of the public. Someone needed to give the story a kick up the backside and give it some oomph. Stories must have conflict and imperfect characters or else they are just BORING.
Giving something of a dramatic and romantic nature for female non-fans to latch onto was a good move in making the franchise more approachable and exciting to a wider audience. Be thankful.
I think this is a really good point. Those who'd prefer a different type of Trek reboot should consider this. Also I recall JJ saying in an interview that he was making this film for people born in the 80's and 90's. Not sure how this affected his choices, but I've wondered if these younger viewers would relate as well to a distant completely emotionally unavailable Spock. I've also thought that the story of the nerdy, geeky, "weird" guy who wears make-up

- the intense guy, the guy who feels deeply but holds it in, the outsider, the guy questioning his identity- having this guy be able to love and get the girl and be accepted by her just for who he is, is a particularly contemporary and relevant take on things.
There is no reason to assume that Starfleet has to adhere to contemporary standards or that those standards would have to apply 200 years from now exactly as they do today. The producers of TOS and the series and movies that followed have always kept that aspect of the show kind of vague, using only what they needed to tell the story. This isn't a show about the military. Never has, nor should it be. I sympathise with those who feel that the actual service would do things differently, but that's never been what the show was about, and therefore I never expect that in any of Star Trek's incarnations
I agree with this take on things.