Don't put women on a pedestal, like so many guys here make the mistake of doing. We are just people too. Nothing more special than any of the guys around you, just different physically (and sometimes mentally). But there is no reason to see us as hot goddesses that you are afraid to go up and talk to because we might squish you with our thumb. There are some women who are stuck up, bitchy, and arrogant out there, just like there are some guys like that too. But the vast majority of women just want to be treated as regular people, an equal that you can have a normal conversation with. Don't only go up to women you think are hotties or only talk to them with the intention of some day dating them. Talk to any woman you meet, just like you would talk to a guy you meet, without thinking about the future sex or whether or not they are attracted to you. Because that stuff comes later. If you meet someone and you have the same interests, can make each other laugh, get along great, etc. then the attraction will come for both of you and you can think about maybe dating this person at that point. And if she doesn't want to, fine, then you still have met a nice friend, or at least an acquaintance.
From your posts around here you have always seemed to see women as things to be dated, rather than actual people just like you who have the same thoughts, feelings, and desires as you. You are not a lion who has to prowl around searching for a mate to take advantage of every day. And by take advantage, in your case I mean finding some woman who would somehow be strange enough to actually like you. That's the way you seem to see it. That you have to manipulate your online profile to convince women that you are likeable. That you have to somehow innocently trick them into thinking you're great.
You shouldn't have to convince anyone. Really. This is why so many girls go out of their way to be sweet to guys who treat them like crap. Because they have low self-esteem, so they feel like they can't do any better, so they have to convince the douchebag guy that they are cute and likeable. You should never ever have to convince someone to like you! BE YOURSELF, and some people will like it, and some won't. But when you do meet someone who likes you, you won't be insecure and worried about them leaving you because you will know that they like you for who you are - and you never had to convince them to do it.
My point is, don't see women as these dating objects to be revered, that are so high above you that you have to "trick" them into liking you. See them as regular people who are very much like you and me, who just want to have a nice conversation without the pressure of dating in the back of their mind, without having to worry if they are attractive or funny enough. Just be nice to people, all men and all women, and treat them with respect, and people will like that. And maybe it will lead to a date.
From your posts around here you have always seemed to see women as things to be dated, rather than actual people just like you who have the same thoughts, feelings, and desires as you. You are not a lion who has to prowl around searching for a mate to take advantage of every day. And by take advantage, in your case I mean finding some woman who would somehow be strange enough to actually like you. That's the way you seem to see it. That you have to manipulate your online profile to convince women that you are likeable. That you have to somehow innocently trick them into thinking you're great.
You shouldn't have to convince anyone. Really. This is why so many girls go out of their way to be sweet to guys who treat them like crap. Because they have low self-esteem, so they feel like they can't do any better, so they have to convince the douchebag guy that they are cute and likeable. You should never ever have to convince someone to like you! BE YOURSELF, and some people will like it, and some won't. But when you do meet someone who likes you, you won't be insecure and worried about them leaving you because you will know that they like you for who you are - and you never had to convince them to do it.
My point is, don't see women as these dating objects to be revered, that are so high above you that you have to "trick" them into liking you. See them as regular people who are very much like you and me, who just want to have a nice conversation without the pressure of dating in the back of their mind, without having to worry if they are attractive or funny enough. Just be nice to people, all men and all women, and treat them with respect, and people will like that. And maybe it will lead to a date.
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