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I Was Strangled and Beaten by a Stranger. I'm Injured. I'm Angry.

But also, don't take on situations you can become overwhelmed by easily, like standing out there while the attacker is still present and attacking. I'm glad you're not dead, you're one of my favorite posters, but please -- next time stay locked up safe. He (or in this case she) who runs away, lives to fight another day.


I have beat myself up about this since it happened. Looking back, I can see a million different ways to handle this differently.

But, I had been woken out of a dead sleep and my thought faculties were not all there to start with. I didn't assume violence when I first heard cries for help. Once I saw what was happening, I went into shock and panic because I've never seen a human being do something like that to another human being. It's like my brain shut down conscious thought completely and adrenaline was the only thing controlling me.

I should have told the victim to forget about his dog and strong arm him down the stairs to the safety of my apartment. In hindsight that seems so obvious. But I couldn't think. I could only react. There was a whirr in my brain where my rational thought should have been. I was in a panic and in shock.

I've never had any sort of training to deal with these situations. Maybe if I had, I could have handled it better, but it is what it is.
 
BDF, you are not a victim, you are a hero and if my message got lost in translation...We are all proud of you. I hope everything goes well. I hate it when people try to give you the Disney version of life to make you feel better, only you can make yourself feel better, because life has a way of working things out. I know people here hate me and take things I say the wrong way...I am very sincere when I say you did a good thing, God bless You. :)


JF

Hey don't worry about it at all. Your message did not get lost; if anything it was an addendum to what the poster above you said, is all.

Thank you for replying!
 
And, as terrible as it sounds, make sure you have pictures of your injuries. :(
Yes.

Neither the police or hospital took pictures of my injuries (the fuck?!)

So, I took pictures with my cell phone camera while in the ER. I have images of my bruises, the marks on my neck, the scratches where he grabbed and pulled my shirt, and my black and swollen foot before they casted it.

I also saved the shirt he tore and have put it in a plastic baggy for evidence.

And yes, I am pressing charges and hiring a lawyer to deal with the assailant, the victim (if he continues to insist on helping this fuckwit) and the apartment complex. I am throwing the book. I am going to ruin this man. I don't care if he's already hit the bottom, I'm going to grab a shovel and start digging.

I wished I believed in hell. Because I want him to burn for this.
Your vengeful spirit is curiously arousing. Reminds me of... me.

Way to go, Bears!
 
Indeed, if I was pinned to the floor screaming for help while some man was biting my face off, and nobody came to my aid, it would destroy any faith in humanity I may have had.

Exactly. What's sad is that like in your case, no one came to this woman's aid when she needed it. I was the only one who showed up. Believe me, they had to hear. She was yelling and hitting that horn loud enough to be heard all along the apartment complex. Of course now that I look back on it, I think she was drugged out of her head. It was weird.

By the way, you help steady my faith in humanity. After yesterday I started wondering if people still gave a damn about anyone else. Even though it hurt you, you came to someone's rescue, and so you have my deepest respect, for whatever that is worth to you.

Oh, and I hope you nail those bastards to the wall.

J.
 
But also, don't take on situations you can become overwhelmed by easily, like standing out there while the attacker is still present and attacking. I'm glad you're not dead, you're one of my favorite posters, but please -- next time stay locked up safe. He (or in this case she) who runs away, lives to fight another day.
And had BDF taken that course of action, she would have been right in the middle of another scenario she didn't want to be in - the victim could likely have been beaten to death, and she would have to live with that blood on her conscience for the rest of her life. She saved the guy.

Bears, I'm so sorry you were put into this position; and thankfully, the outcome wasn't as bad as it could have been. I know that probably doesn't make you feel too much better right now, but it is something.
And really no matter way you look at it, you're a hero. THAT definitely is something. :bolian:

I must admit that I'm VERY glad to see that you're pursuing legal action against all these rats. Please keep us informed.

What a terrible thing. This is seriously why I avoid people and help nobody.
Wow. Just wow. :wtf:
 
First off let me give you my deepest sympathy and apologies that this happened to you.

You need to do everything you can to make sure he pays for what he did, you've been given a lot of good advice here.

Something like this only goes to show how badly domestic violence can affect others, most people think it's only something that affects the family it happens in. Your experience goes to show that once someone has committed domestic violence and gets away with it, they feel they can do whatever they want to anyone. His partner is too scared to do anything, and a result you are now also a 'victim' of domestic violence.

And you have every right to be angry with both of them, they both contributed to what happened to you. The attacker for attacking you, and the 'victim', he has enabled him to continue to be an abuser. And don't feel bad for what you are feeling, you were trying to be the good person here and you were repaid by being physically attacked, having your personal feeling of safety compromised, and having your life turned upside down.
 
Neither the police or hospital took pictures of my injuries (the fuck?!)

So, I took pictures with my cell phone camera while in the ER. I have images of my bruises, the marks on my neck, the scratches where he grabbed and pulled my shirt, and my black and swollen foot before they casted it.

I also saved the shirt he tore and have put it in a plastic baggy for evidence.

And yes, I am pressing charges and hiring a lawyer to deal with the assailant, the victim (if he continues to insist on helping this fuckwit) and the apartment complex. I am throwing the book. I am going to ruin this man. I don't care if he's already hit the bottom, I'm going to grab a shovel and start digging.

I wished I believed in hell. Because I want him to burn for this.

Yes. Sue the ever-loving shit out of these people! They have it coming.
 
I don't know if there is anything I can do, but if there is, please let me know.

And I second the motion about contacting local news stations. In fact, just for the hell of it, I'd start contacting big news stations in the state and other states, maybe even shoot off (even if nothing happens) e-mail some big news shows like Bill O'Reilly.

Also try looking for message boards for lawyers and what not and see if anyone will take a pro bono case. Hell, maybe someone here is from California and a lawyer.


Also print out a story of what happened (maybe you whole post) and start circulating it to everybody in the building. You may get evicted, but maybe having even half a building on your side will have the dumbshit manager singing a different tune. Or at least get his ass attacked by the attacker.
BEARS I don't know what to say except:wtf: espeacialy with your local P.D. not DOING anything! that is a disgrace!:mad: They are there to help the public not ignore them and act like nothing happend! I agree on trying to contact O'Reilly! also try Glenn Beck, I know he's a bit out there for some people( not me!:techman:) but he sometimes ( at least when he was on cnn) did talk about storys like your's! And don't beet yourself up about helping somebody, I would have done the same thing! Although I would have gone with some ''Protection" The REAL nice thing about liveing in Texas is when you defend yourself or helping somebody, your not the one getting screwd!
 
Indeed, if I was pinned to the floor screaming for help while some man was biting my face off, and nobody came to my aid, it would destroy any faith in humanity I may have had.



By the way, you help steady my faith in humanity. After yesterday I started wondering if people still gave a damn about anyone else. Even though it hurt you, you came to someone's rescue, and so you have my deepest respect, for whatever that is worth to you.



J.

QFT. J. said exactly what I was thinking when I first heard about this.
 
http://da.co.la.ca.us/vwap/

los angles da Victim-Witness Assistance Program

The Victim-Witness Assistance Program’s mission is to alleviate the trauma and devastating effects of crime on the lives of victims and their families. Victim advocates guide victims through the court process, help victims receive restitution, provide crisis intervention, and provide referrals to counseling and community services. Because Victim-Witness Assistance Program staff members are located at numerous sites throughout the county, crime victims and their families are assisted as closely as possible to their home.

(800) 380-3811

and then there is
Bureau of Investigation
Los Angeles County District Attorney's Office
210 West Temple Street, Rm. 17-1102
Los Angeles, CA. 90012
Phone: (213) 974-3612




http://www.calbar.ca.gov/state/calbar/calbar_generic.jsp?cid=10180&id=1396
find an attorney in california

http://lawhelpcalifornia.org/CA/index.cfm

law help california



http://lawhelpcalifornia.org/CA/Sta...s.gif/iTopicID/837/iChannelID/138/bAllState/0

^^^^^
self help library for victims.
looks to have a lot of useful links and pdf forms.
 
http://da.co.la.ca.us/vwap/

los angles da Victim-Witness Assistance Program

The Victim-Witness Assistance Program’s mission is to alleviate the trauma and devastating effects of crime on the lives of victims and their families. Victim advocates guide victims through the court process, help victims receive restitution, provide crisis intervention, and provide referrals to counseling and community services. Because Victim-Witness Assistance Program staff members are located at numerous sites throughout the county, crime victims and their families are assisted as closely as possible to their home.

(800) 380-3811

and then there is
Bureau of Investigation
Los Angeles County District Attorney's Office
210 West Temple Street, Rm. 17-1102
Los Angeles, CA. 90012
Phone: (213) 974-3612




http://www.calbar.ca.gov/state/calbar/calbar_generic.jsp?cid=10180&id=1396
find an attorney in california

http://lawhelpcalifornia.org/CA/index.cfm

law help california



http://lawhelpcalifornia.org/CA/Sta...s.gif/iTopicID/837/iChannelID/138/bAllState/0

^^^^^
self help library for victims.
looks to have a lot of useful links and pdf forms.

Oh my god. Thank you. Thank you so much. I can't even articulate how much this helps.

Thank you, pookha. You and everyone else who have responded are wonderful!
 
Bears, I'm glad to see that you are still with us..you damn near became a statistic..

You did the right thing, the victim did the wrong thing, the police did the wrong thing, and the apartment management/owners are responsible..in my apartment here in Nor-Cal the management can terminate any rental agreement and provide 30 days notice..for just about any reason..the downstairs neighbors were evicted with 2 weeks notice when their son was arrested for dealing pot.. and your apartment complex can't evict 1 homicidal maniac?... Sue the scum..sue em hard...
 
But also, don't take on situations you can become overwhelmed by easily, like standing out there while the attacker is still present and attacking. I'm glad you're not dead, you're one of my favorite posters, but please -- next time stay locked up safe. He (or in this case she) who runs away, lives to fight another day.
And had BDF taken that course of action, she would have been right in the middle of another scenario she didn't want to be in - the victim could likely have been beaten to death, and she would have to live with that blood on her conscience for the rest of her life.

I don't think that's fair. None of us are, legally or otherwise, *obligated* to step in. The fact that Bears did so, is a testimony to her strength of character and willingness to help others.

I know I wish I was as strong as her. I fully admit I would not have had the courage to do what she did. I would have informed the police and then stayed away. That may, or may not, be evidence of cowardice on my part. So be it. But in the end, while we all can - and should - praise what Bears did to save this person, I think it's unfair to her (and to everyone) to claim that one MUST help, and that one is personally liable for the consequences if one does not. That at the same time diminishes Bears' sacrifice and puts an unnecessary burden on everyone else.
 
Fuck. I know this is the testosterone talking, but I feel like going down there all "Sin City" style and beating some ass. The fact that he isn't in jail right now is bull-fucking-shit. Nobody, Nobody should have to go through what you went through. You went and did the hard thing, the right thing and all you have to show for it is a cast. Your landlord sounds like a real prick too. Most landlords of apartment buildings are. If he really decides to be a giant prick about the whole incident, I would move back home and then sue his ass so hard that he would start to think he was a worn out gay porn star.

Fuck. Good people don't deserve this and yet the randomness of the world insures that it happens. Hopefully this will all lead to some big positive changes in your life.
 
Is it legal to own a tazer where you are, Bears?

I don't know the answer to that. However, it is legal to own pepper spray, and my friend who we all call 'the law enforcement groupie' got me some as a get-well-soon gift!
...dare I suggest you use instead:

BC111878300.jpg


:D
 
Is it legal to own a tazer where you are, Bears?

I don't know the answer to that. However, it is legal to own pepper spray, and my friend who we all call 'the law enforcement groupie' got me some as a get-well-soon gift!
...dare I suggest you use instead:

BC111878300.jpg


:D


:guffaw: This guy was no bear, in the literal sense or in the context of the gay community. He was tall, but a fucking twerp wuss. Even with the element of surprise, he couldn't get me, a female sedentary office drone, on the ground!
 
I don't know the answer to that. However, it is legal to own pepper spray, and my friend who we all call 'the law enforcement groupie' got me some as a get-well-soon gift!
...dare I suggest you use instead:

BC111878300.jpg


:D


:guffaw: This guy was no bear, in the literal sense or in the context of the gay community. He was tall, but a fucking twerp wuss. Even with the element of surprise, he couldn't get me, a female sedentary office drone, on the ground!
That particular meaning of the word "bear" did not occur to me! :lol:

Its just a lot more powerful than usual pepper spray, and, well... there's your screen name. :)
 
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