I fear Olivia might be depressed

[Trippy]

I'll raise my kid the way I like, TYVM. I think of it as pre-pre school.

And, as you post your personal info on the TBBS, I'll give my opinion TYVM.

As you've mentioned a tight budget and an apartment that needs fixing, a tutor at this age is a waste of money. Spend oodles of time with her...playing; using blocks, singing, reading to her; letting her discover tactile things (put a bunch of plastic kitchen stuff in a box...it'll entertain her and build dendrites [which improve intelligence], or with playdoh (which you can make your self for less than nothing...if you want the recipe you can pm me), or with a small tub of soapy water to play in, with some plastic stuff (like measuring cups, water bottles, etc), or a little plastic tub of sand (you can buy a small bag of sand at any hardware store for next to nothing).

Not only will she have fun and learn and grow...that time together with a loving parent assists in the bonding between parents/child. No tutor can do that.

 

[Alpha Romeo]

she's not running a temperature or exhibiting any cold-like signs indicative of an ear infection. I'll have her checked out anyway. Hope they're open on Sunday.

I find it disturbing that you went on a message board instead of getting your kid checked.

An ear infection would not always manifest with a temperature or with cold like symptoms.

Why take the risk?

And I can't really see how a 2 year old could be depressed.

 

[Lindley]

And I can't really see how a 2 year old could be depressed.

Chemical imbalances can manifest at any age. That probably isn't the issue here, but it's true nonetheless.

 

[Alpha Romeo]

She's good. Ears are clean, weight's good, blood gas is good, tooth is popping through which is probably the problem.

I'll be hiring a tutor for her this spring into the summer (out of pocket). Can't wait

Sooo you have money for a tutor, but must rely on the state for your medicine? You really don't know how to handle money at all do you?

 

[SeerSGB]

I'll raise my kid the way I like, TYVM. I think of it as pre-pre school.

And, as you post your personal info on the TBBS, I'll give my opinion TYVM.

As you've mentioned a tight budget and an apartment that needs fixing, a tutor at this age is a waste of money. Spend oodles of time with her...playing; using blocks, singing, reading to her; letting her discover tactile things (put a bunch of plastic kitchen stuff in a box...it'll entertain her and build dendrites [which improve intelligence], or with playdoh (which you can make your self for less than nothing...if you want the recipe you can pm me), or with a small tub of soapy water to play in, with some plastic stuff (like measuring cups, water bottles, etc), or a little plastic tub of sand (you can buy a small bag of sand at any hardware store for next to nothing).

Not only will she have fun and learn and grow...that time together with a loving parent assists in the bonding between parents/child. No tutor can do that.

The bigger issue is the parent child bond, as well. At this age-- before hey are socializing with strange adults and other kids-- is the best time to foster a strong bond and feelings of safety and belonging between parent and child.

Handing her off to a tutor-- at 2 years old, more or less an overpaid babysitter-- is a mistake, IMO.

As for the "don't tell me how to raise my kids" statement: Don't ask the public for advice and spill the family gossip, then get pissy when people tell you what they think.

Sooo you have money for a tutor, but must rely on the state for your medicine? You really don't know how to handle money at all do you?

Don't know about the area's he's living in, but if they [his family] has the spare change for a tutor, then they are probably outside the financial brackets for state health-insurance; unless he's hiding funds, which is a big no no.

Here's a better expense: Take that pocket money, and pay a little more in rent to get a better place to live.

 

[T'Baio]

Wow. Just wow. There is so much wrong on display here.

 

[Rÿcher]

I didn't want to be one of those parents who take their kid to the doctor's for every little sniffle, you know?

I'm hiring a tutor for my daughter so she can be smarter than what I was in school. Maybe even be the go-to student in class. Get it?

Any problems with her 8 PM bedtime?
Any problems with her 12 PM nap time?
Any problems letting her watch Blue's Clues?

If so, please let me know. Lord knows, you're all much better parents than I am. I need your guidance.

Seriously, to question my parenting abilities borders on flaming. Watch it.

In fact. I'm fucking sick to death of having every little word of every sentence picked apart and analyzed for error or fault and I've truly had enough. I don't know if it's because I revealed too much about my mental health or my socio-economic status or what but you guys are over me like flies on shit.

I quit. You win.

 

[T'Baio]

I'm hiring a tutor for my daughter so she can be smarter than what I was in school. Maybe even be the go-to student in class. Get it?

Yeah, you're right. It's good to start pressuring them now. That'll avoid depression.

 

[SeerSGB]

I'm hiring a tutor for my daughter so she can be smarter than what I was in school. Maybe even be the go-to student in class. Get it?

Yeah, you're right. It's good to start pressuring them now. That'll avoid depression.

Won't it just...cause over pressured kids never snap and kill people or freak out and suck on a 9mm cause they got a failing grade.

There are so many things wrong that I've seen in Rycher's post,s over time that I can't be sure how much is put on and how much is "WTF are you thinking!"

I didn't want to be one of those parents who take their kid to the doctor's for every little sniffle, you know?

Dude, the doc's are used to it. And it's called better safe than sorry.

I'm hiring a tutor for my daughter so she can be smarter than what I was in school. Maybe even be the go-to student in class. Get it?

A tutor won't insure that. Indeed, it might actually make her resent her parents as she grows up and looks back on her friends having fun and being kids, and her being forced to "Grow up" and not allowed to be a normal kid.

And why's it a big deal that she be the "go-to student"? Seems to be a bit of a unusual goal for a 2 year old.

 

[Rabittooth]

Wow. Some of you guys are tough.
Guy turns to you with a matter of great importance to you for some advice and support and you trample him.
Glad to hear it's probably just that she's cutting a tooth.
Kids also do have a tendency to "zone out" sometimes. Used to scare the crap outta me when my daughter was younger and I was constantly on the lookout for any signs of autism or seizures. Not that there's any reason she should have these things, it's just that you can drive yourself nuts with concern when suddenly your whole life is irrevocably intertwined with the well-being of that beautiful bundle of new developing person in yer life.


-Rabittooth

 

[sidious618]

In case you missed the thread in MA this felllow won't be coming back.

 

[Rabittooth]

I just saw it now. Maybe this thread had something to do with it.
Folks who don't have kids shouldn't really throw stones.

-Rabittooth

 

[Mallory]

I quit. You win.

You keep saying that. And then you keep coming back.

 

[Trippy]

Wow. Some of you guys are tough.
Guy turns to you with a matter of great importance to you for some advice and support and you trample him.

Not at all. We offered advice (I have a child as do many of the 'advisors') and he didn't like it.

Don't ask a bunch of posters on a board for advice, then get angry at us for giving it.

 

[SeerSGB]

Wow. Some of you guys are tough.
Guy turns to you with a matter of great importance to you for some advice and support and you trample him.

Not at all. We offered advice (I have a child as do many of the 'advisors') and he didn't like it.

Don't ask a bunch of posters on a board for advice, then get angry at us for giving it.

What bothered me is the fact that he was clearly thinking something was medically wrong with the child, and he's on a messageboard asking for advice as to what to do and not taking the baby to a doc. I'm sorry, but if my son was out of sorts or ill, this or any messageboard would be the last thing on my mind by a long shot.

 

[Rabittooth]

I'm not saying everyone. You gave some good advice there Trip. Just saying... making light or mocking the guy's concerns regarding his little girl is low. Not everybody can be the sharpest tack in the box, but it's also easy to get frazzled and not know what to do where your child is concerned. My little girl is in school...she's three and she was in a day program when she was two just to keep her active and socialized and happy. I've never heard of a tutor for a 2 year old, but maybe there are special needs there that he didn't tell us about or wasn't aware of the other baby gyms and things there are out there.
He was asking if there was anything he could do to stimulate her and keep her active. Probably came up with the tutor thing right there off the cuff in his desperation to make things right when facing a potential problem with his kid.
Take it easy folks. I'm suprised at you guys.Someone opens up a bit and shows some vulnerability and some of you go right for the jugular.
That's all I'm saying.
But hey...who the hell am I? Just another walking blob of protoplasm trying to make sense of it all too.

-Rabittooth

 

[Mallory]

Take it easy folks. I'm suprised at you guys.Someone opens up a bit and shows some vulnerability and some of you go right for the jugular.
That's all I'm saying.
But hey...who the hell am I? Just another walking blob of protoplasm trying to make sense of it all too.

-Rabittooth

Obviously you missed his threads about his daily drug use, hallucinating while at home with his child, having to "hide" $8000 so that he could continue to get free drugs from the state, his decrepit apartment, etc.

This is not the first time he's posted something like this, asked for advice and then gone crazy when someone doesn't agree with him. Hopefully it will be the last time though.

 

[JonathonWally]

Take it easy folks. I'm suprised at you guys.Someone opens up a bit and shows some vulnerability and some of you go right for the jugular.
That's all I'm saying.
But hey...who the hell am I? Just another walking blob of protoplasm trying to make sense of it all too.

-Rabittooth

Obviously you missed his threads about his daily drug use, hallucinating while at home with his child, having to "hide" $8000 so that he could continue to get free drugs from the state, his decrepit apartment, etc.

This is not the first time he's posted something like this, asked for advice and then gone crazy when someone doesn't agree with him. Hopefully it will be the last time though.

And that's not even counting the other threads he's started in that other unnamed place.

 

[Rabittooth]

Take it easy folks. I'm suprised at you guys.Someone opens up a bit and shows some vulnerability and some of you go right for the jugular.
That's all I'm saying.
But hey...who the hell am I? Just another walking blob of protoplasm trying to make sense of it all too.

-Rabittooth

Obviously you missed his threads about his daily drug use, hallucinating while at home with his child, having to "hide" $8000 so that he could continue to get free drugs from the state, his decrepit apartment, etc.

This is not the first time he's posted something like this, asked for advice and then gone crazy when someone doesn't agree with him. Hopefully it will be the last time though.

Yes. I did indeed miss all that.
Sorry. Yeesh.

-Rabittooth

 

[TheLonelySquire]

She's good. Ears are clean, weight's good, blood gas is good, tooth is popping through which is probably the problem.

I'll be hiring a tutor for her this spring into the summer (out of pocket). Can't wait

Sooo you have money for a tutor, but must rely on the state for your medicine? You really don't know how to handle money at all do you?

There's no need for that here, Alpha. The guy needs some help or at least a receptive ear, not a talking to. This ain't TNZ.