Dumped

[apostle83]

Well folks, we had a wonderful Christmas season together. We were back and forth between Memphis, her parent's place, and her grandfather's place in MS. I love this woman so much!

She will be done with her master's degree in two semesters (she's trying to load up as heavy as possible) at which point we're gonna get hitched. That's long enough away that I don't feel like we're rushing.

 

[Locutus of Bored]

Congratulations on your long terms plans then. I'm glad things seem to be working out between the two of you.

 

[Alpha Romeo]

Well folks, we had a wonderful Christmas season together. We were back and forth between Memphis, her parent's place, and her grandfather's place in MS. I love this woman so much!

She will be done with her master's degree in two semesters (she's trying to load up as heavy as possible) at which point we're gonna get hitched. That's long enough away that I don't feel like we're rushing.

Yay then you won't have to sleep on the couch anymore!! Word of warning: remember that scene from hancock when he's with the chick? yea better be prepared.

 

[Misfit Toy]

Well folks, we had a wonderful Christmas season together. We were back and forth between Memphis, her parent's place, and her grandfather's place in MS. I love this woman so much!

She will be done with her master's degree in two semesters (she's trying to load up as heavy as possible) at which point we're gonna get hitched. That's long enough away that I don't feel like we're rushing.

So we can say you're "engaged" now without you getting bent out of shape?

 

[Scout101]

Unless I've misread it, no. Sounds like he's in the same spot he was before, where he's sure they're going to get married, but nothing official or formal has been promised.

Then again, still doesn't sound like they resolved their blowup, and just moved past it. Having gone through a similar thing in a past relationship, that's not exactly a good thing, although it feels good at the time. Eventually, the problem that caused her blowup the first time will resurface, and round and round we go until it is dealt with.

I'd be willing to bet the farm that it WASN'T the minor theological disputes that have been put forth as "the reason" in this thread...

 

[Mr Awe]

I'd be willing to bet the farm

Sure, go ahead and bet the farm, just don't buy it!

Mr Awe

 

[TheBrew]

Actually, you could probably get one for much cheaper now, than say 4 years ago.

 

[apostle83]

Well folks, we had a wonderful Christmas season together. We were back and forth between Memphis, her parent's place, and her grandfather's place in MS. I love this woman so much!

She will be done with her master's degree in two semesters (she's trying to load up as heavy as possible) at which point we're gonna get hitched. That's long enough away that I don't feel like we're rushing.

So we can say you're "engaged" now without you getting bent out of shape?

No, you cannot, as I have not stated we are engaged.

 

[SeerSGB]

Well folks, we had a wonderful Christmas season together. We were back and forth between Memphis, her parent's place, and her grandfather's place in MS. I love this woman so much!

She will be done with her master's degree in two semesters (she's trying to load up as heavy as possible) at which point we're gonna get hitched. That's long enough away that I don't feel like we're rushing.

So we can say you're "engaged" now without you getting bent out of shape?

No, you cannot, as I have not stated we are engaged.

Her choice or yours? Which one of you is afraid to make the commitment to say "we're engaged". It has to be fear, or uncertainty on one or both your parts, seeing as by everything you've state you are engaged.

 

[Misfit Toy]

we're gonna get hitched.

I have not stated we are engaged.

What's the difference between "gonna get hitched" and "engaged to be married"? Have you asked her or not?

 

[SeerSGB]

we're gonna get hitched.

I have not stated we are engaged.

What's the difference between "gonna get hitched" and "engaged to be married"? Have you asked her or not?

Ah, an angle I hadn't thought of. You're right, is this "his plans" or "their plans". And how seriously has it been discussed? Is it "Okay we're going to get married, but wait till I finish school" or is it "Okay, we'll see what happens when I finish school, but not before then and I'm not committing to anything right now...I need time."

 

[Mr Awe]

Actually, you could probably get one for much cheaper now, than say 4 years ago.

I'd just hate to hear a report that stated, "TheBrew bought the farm!"

Mr Awe

 

[Davros]

best of luck to you apostle. Just remember that ony you can provide your own happiness nobody else.

 

[apostle83]

we're gonna get hitched.

I have not stated we are engaged.

What's the difference between "gonna get hitched" and "engaged to be married"? Have you asked her or not?

Ah, an angle I hadn't thought of. You're right, is this "his plans" or "their plans". And how seriously has it been discussed? Is it "Okay we're going to get married, but wait till I finish school" or is it "Okay, we'll see what happens when I finish school, but not before then and I'm not committing to anything right now...I need time."

We talk about marriage all the time. She has said she wants to marry me. I just haven't given her a ring yet, or made a full on formal request.

 

[SeerSGB]

What's the difference between "gonna get hitched" and "engaged to be married"? Have you asked her or not?

Ah, an angle I hadn't thought of. You're right, is this "his plans" or "their plans". And how seriously has it been discussed? Is it "Okay we're going to get married, but wait till I finish school" or is it "Okay, we'll see what happens when I finish school, but not before then and I'm not committing to anything right now...I need time."

We talk about marriage all the time. She has said she wants to marry me. I just haven't given her a ring yet, or made a full on formal request.

Then you really don't know if you are and you aren't. Boy, man up. Until you put the ring on her finger, and say "Do you want to get married" then all you've got is a got chance of a possible perhaps maybe.

Once it's "real" things will change with both of you-- and don't say it won't, even if you don't realize, yeah you change.

I wish ya' the best of luck, but right now you're both dancing around the issue not facing it.

 

[DarkHelmet]

I wish ya' the best of luck, but right now you're both dancing around the issue not facing it.

QFT.

 

[Scout101]

like i've been saying, doesn't seem like many of the problems that led to the creation of this thread have been dealt with head on. They hit a VOY-style reset button and just pretended none of it happened. Not a viable long term solution. He's just as committed or engaged as he was a year ago, except he spent part of the past year single. Until he actually proposes, means jack. I've been in 3 relationships where marriage was at least discussed as a possible long term goal. Until you buy a ring, it's just talk...

 

[LaxScrutiny]

like i've been saying, doesn't seem like many of the problems that led to the creation of this thread have been dealt with head on. They hit a VOY-style reset button and just pretended none of it happened....

Now that's the kind of love advice I like to see on a Star Trek message board!!

 

[cultcross]

Until you buy a ring, it's just talk...

That just makes it expensive talk. Need to get it on her finger too

 

[Deckerd]

Engagement rings mean nothing anyway. You don't need one to get engaged and any woman who would insist on one is going to be trouble...