My Sister is Dying

[RandyS]

You have my sympathies. His alcoholism and destructive and abusive behavior is what ended my relationship with my brother almost six years ago. I think about him often and wonder where he is, but the memory of his abusiveness toward our family keeps me from trying to contact him. I'm sure it would just be more of the same.

Good luck.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

I'm so sorry man. I lost a friend to alcoholism and cancer, so i know what it's like and it really sucks.

 

[Cali]

I'm so sorry, Digits.

 

[1001001]

You have my sympathies. His alcoholism and destructive and abusive behavior is what ended my relationship with my brother almost six years ago. I think about him often and wonder where he is, but the memory of his abusiveness toward our family keeps me from trying to contact him. I'm sure it would just be more of the same.

Yeah, there's been some of that. Crazy drama that comes with addiction.

But now that we're at the end, I do remember when we were younger, and some of the fond memories we have.

 

[Lookingglassman]

This is sad. Is there a reason your sister started drinking. Did she have any problems like an abusive husband or some other trauma she was trying to escape from?

I wish you and your family the very best and I also hope your sister finds the peace she was seeking.

 

[bod]

So very sorry to hear about your sister Mr Digits you & your family will be in my thoughts.

 

[1001001]

So very sorry to hear about your sister Mr Digits you & your family will be in my thoughts.

Thanks.

It's great to see one of the Original Voyager Babes.

 

[the 4th hanson bro]

Sorry to heat that digits.

Take care of yourself and remember the good times you both had together. Your strength is comforting to your sister.

 

[TorontoTrekker]

My thoughts are with you and your family, digits.

My ex-mother-in-law died of cirrhosis about eleven years ago. She'd been to rehab, but I think that her son's leaving me might have been one of the triggers that drove her to start drinking again.

 

[Unicron]

And mine as well. I'm truly saddened to hear this.

 

[FrontLine]

Damn Digits, Im so sorry for you , your family and her. You will have my prayers and thoughts.

 

[Top41]

Oh, Digits, I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. You and your family are in my thoughts. What a terrible thing to have to go through. I'm so very, very sorry.

 

[Capt_Piett]

Sorry to hear what you're going through. Alcoholism is one of those sad things that you can't help a person to get better unless they want to get better, and often times they won't even acknowledge they have a problem to start with. My thoughts are with you, and if you can take any solace from what's happening, it should be that her suffering will soon be over and she'll be in a better place.

 

[1001001]

Sorry to hear what you're going through. Alcoholism is one of those sad things that you can't help a person to get better unless they want to get better, and often times they won't even acknowledge they have a problem to start with.

She would never admit to being an alcoholic, let alone seek treatment for it. Even when her life depended on it.

A few weeks ago she was insisting the doctors mis-diagnosed another problem, and that is what's causing her demise. It would be funny if it wasn't so tragic.

I teach a class in our rehab once a week called "The Hijacked Brain". One of the central tenets is: "What's invisible to you is obvious to everyone else."

It's certainly true in her case.

 

[TheLonelySquire]

I'm so sorry for her and for your family. My deepest sympathies go out to all of you.

 

[MANT!]

I can only offer you and yours my heartfelt sympathies in this very difficult time..use the hospice staff to help you through this, as you know, they have a lot of knowledge to offer you...

 

[melancholymecha]

Im so sorry. Ive had to deal with alcoholism in my family as well.

 

[T'Bonz]

I'm so sorry to hear of this, Digits.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Sorry to hear what you're going through. Alcoholism is one of those sad things that you can't help a person to get better unless they want to get better, and often times they won't even acknowledge they have a problem to start with.

She would never admit to being an alcoholic, let alone seek treatment for it. Even when her life depended on it.

A few weeks ago she was insisting the doctors mis-diagnosed another problem, and that is what's causing her demise. It would be funny if it wasn't so tragic.

I teach a class in our rehab once a week called "The Hijacked Brain". One of the central tenets is: "What's invisible to you is obvious to everyone else."

It's certainly true in her case.

So sorry to hear of your situation, I can empathise.
Re: above, it was only when someone that I really respected at work pointed out that drinking vodka at 10.30 in the morning and totally denying it was not a good thing. I did work in a bar though and was totally bored and did it to escape. Stupid and inadequate excuse but was the only one I relied on. Trouble is a drinker has three sets of friends, those that find it hilarious and have problems themselves, those that hate it but don't say anything and those wonderful ones that have time, understanding and patience to help. You are definately in the 3rd catagory. Having got myself a kiss-ass doctor who blood tests me weekly I designed my own recovery plan and took my alcohol intake down by 90%. It's very hard but to not look like a Simpson family member anymore is great and once you get used to seeing the world through sober eyes it gets good. Alcoholism may be an illness but it's also very self-indulgent and a horrendous thing for a family to go through I wish you the very best and can only say you did the best that you could. Kx

 

[Laren]

I'm very sorry to hear about this.