I think I'm done.

[Holdfast]

But unless you have a complete paradigm shift...

High-five for using the phrase "paradigm shift".

I have a five-year plan.

The US isn't turning Communist fast enough for you, even with all the bailouts?!

Trekker - What answer do you want to hear from us?

No answer. I just needed to vent.

Good honest answer.

Sooner or later, even people online will get bored listening, but you know that too and in the meantime if the venting helps.... Well, just remember to change before you get bored of listening to yourself.

 

[JonathonWally]

A question Trekker: if you could do one thing to earn money (a career) for the rest of your life, what would it be?

I've always kind of wanted to be a lawyer.

What is your occupation right now?

Meat Manager in a supermarket. It affords me a liveable wage that I'm content with.

OK whatever you do, don't take the advice of someone on here, and go start a drunken fight in a bar...don't think it would end well.

RAMA

Depends

^It would probably be exciting, though!

Indeed. And fun.

 

[Trekker4747]

Ok. I went to a local dating service company, just to talk to them and see what was going on. First of all this girl, whom I dub "Boobs McGee" was really sweet and cute and obviously wanting me to look at her boobs was my dating counselor. I talk to her, fill out the paper work only to find out it'd cost me four GRAND to get involved with this program.



What the fuck.

 

[Crusher Disciple]

Ok. I went to a local dating service company, just to talk to them and see what was going on. First of all this girl, whom I dub "Boobs McGee" was really sweet and cute and obviously wanting me to look at her boobs was my dating counselor. I talk to her, fill out the paper work only to find out it'd cost me four GRAND to get involved with this program.



What the fuck.

Give me the four grand instead. You'll get a better deal.

CD,
Expensive but worth it

 

[Snow]

You won't change because nothing's forcing you to change. You've got your job that you can theoretically work at until the day you die. Any avenues you have of meeting anyone are exactly the same as they've been for the past decade. You're on autopilot and you're comfortable with it even if you don't like it.

If everything that keeps you safe is removed then you'll have no choice but to change.

That's the nitty-gritty: you feel safe and secure. No state-of-flux so nothing changes.

I've read every post in this thread and this is the one you need to pay attention to. Screw all the advice..until you understand where you ARE, and WHY you are there - nothing will ever change.

Change comes from within. And change is fucking hard. Fucking.hard.
And until you truly want change, are willing to risk, all will stay the same.

 

[Holdfast]

Ok. I went to a local dating service company, just to talk to them and see what was going on. First of all this girl, whom I dub "Boobs McGee" was really sweet and cute and obviously wanting me to look at her boobs was my dating counselor. I talk to her, fill out the paper work only to find out it'd cost me four GRAND to get involved with this program.



What the fuck.

She's charging you a dollar for every time you looked at her tits.

 

[trekkiedane]

Ok. I went to a local dating service company, just to talk to them and see what was going on. First of all this girl, whom I dub "Boobs McGee" was really sweet and cute and obviously wanting me to look at her boobs was my dating counselor. I talk to her, fill out the paper work only to find out it'd cost me four GRAND to get involved with this program.



What the fuck.

She's charging you a dollar for every time you looked at her tits.

Another good reason to stay on target… staaayyy on target…

Once focused, don't swerve!

 

[Trekker4747]

Ok. I went to a local dating service company, just to talk to them and see what was going on. First of all this girl, whom I dub "Boobs McGee" was really sweet and cute and obviously wanting me to look at her boobs was my dating counselor. I talk to her, fill out the paper work only to find out it'd cost me four GRAND to get involved with this program.



What the fuck.

She's charging you a dollar for every time you looked at her tits.

Actually I always looked her in the eyes, sure I may have glanced down, byt I didn't stare at them. And certainly didn't look at them 4000 times.

I am reminded of a speech a character in a movie I once saw who remarked that girls use their boobs to establish alpha dominanace over a man. She shows off her boobs, you can't look her in the eye, you're the first one to glance away, boom she's the alpha and you're under her power.

 

[Holdfast]

Ok. I went to a local dating service company, just to talk to them and see what was going on. First of all this girl, whom I dub "Boobs McGee" was really sweet and cute and obviously wanting me to look at her boobs was my dating counselor. I talk to her, fill out the paper work only to find out it'd cost me four GRAND to get involved with this program.



What the fuck.

She's charging you a dollar for every time you looked at her tits.

Another good reason to stay on target… staaayyy on target…

Did Trekker come from behind?

 

[DanCPA]

Give me the four grand instead. You'll get a better deal.

CD,
Expensive but worth it

What does one get for $4,000? I might have that at home in my safe

I've read every post in this thread and this is the one you need to pay attention to.

What about mine?

 

[Crusher Disciple]

Give me the four grand instead. You'll get a better deal.

CD,
Expensive but worth it

What does one get for $4,000? I might have that at home in my safe

PM coming right your way.

 

[RAMA]

Ok. I went to a local dating service company, just to talk to them and see what was going on. First of all this girl, whom I dub "Boobs McGee" was really sweet and cute and obviously wanting me to look at her boobs was my dating counselor. I talk to her, fill out the paper work only to find out it'd cost me four GRAND to get involved with this program.



What the fuck.

Give me the four grand instead. You'll get a better deal.

CD,
Expensive but worth it

You can't beat that Trekker

 

[CaptainStoner]

I've not got anything of what it takes to change any of that.

That's the problem right there.

 

[DanCPA]

PM coming right your way.

now, this is finally something that can console me

 

[RJDiogenes]

She's charging you a dollar for every time you looked at her tits.

I would have only looked once.

 

[Holdfast]

She's charging you a dollar for every time you looked at her tits.

I would have only looked once.

And NEVER look away again!

Always with the loophole, eh?

 

[DanCPA]

She's charging you a dollar for every time you looked at her tits.

I would have only looked once.

oh please
you would have left owing money after paying the fee!

 

[Colonel Green]

It affords me a liveable wage that I'm content with.

but not the customer interaction you would like

I can hide in my office now and "do paperwork" to get away from customers.

Infact, that's what I do most of the time. Paperwork.

The work of a lawyer is 98% paperwork and research. Trust me. My fiancee went to law school, only to discover this unpleasant fact.

Ok. I went to a local dating service company, just to talk to them and see what was going on. First of all this girl, whom I dub "Boobs McGee" was really sweet and cute and obviously wanting me to look at her boobs was my dating counselor. I talk to her, fill out the paper work only to find out it'd cost me four GRAND to get involved with this program.



What the fuck.

Try internet dating, it worked for me.

It took a few tries. I met two or three crazies and two or three people who just weren't compatible before I met the GIRL OF MY DREAMS. She's a dork, I made a joke about Star Trek on messenger before we met and she told me that TNG was her "family show" growing up.

It took all of my self control not to send her a naked picture of myself right then.

We're getting married in August. None of you are invited

 

[Alpha Romeo]

Ok. I went to a local dating service company, just to talk to them and see what was going on. First of all this girl, whom I dub "Boobs McGee" was really sweet and cute and obviously wanting me to look at her boobs was my dating counselor. I talk to her, fill out the paper work only to find out it'd cost me four GRAND to get involved with this program.



What the fuck.

Craigslist.com

 

[Mr Awe]

You won't change because nothing's forcing you to change. You've got your job that you can theoretically work at until the day you die. Any avenues you have of meeting anyone are exactly the same as they've been for the past decade. You're on autopilot and you're comfortable with it even if you don't like it.

If everything that keeps you safe is removed then you'll have no choice but to change.

That's the nitty-gritty: you feel safe and secure. No state-of-flux so nothing changes.

I've read every post in this thread and this is the one you need to pay attention to. Screw all the advice..until you understand where you ARE, and WHY you are there - nothing will ever change.

Change comes from within. And change is fucking hard. Fucking.hard.
And until you truly want change, are willing to risk, all will stay the same.

Well, as I said, he needs to work on his courage. It's tough though. But, that's what it comes down to. I might not happen until he hits rock bottom. Sometimes that's what it takes. Or, he might catch on early.

Mr Awe