Yes. Yes. and YES. She tells Kirk that logic is a "better way" Well, that's for her to decide for herself but Sarek gives her a command and she snaps to and obeys stating. "Of course. He's a Vulcan. I'm his wife." I do love watching Perrin put her hands of Sarek's face and yell" "Sarek, YOU WILL LISTEN!"She isn't a real person, and she can't "want" anything. What she was depicted as doing was a reflection of the writers, and what they wanted.
As much as I love Spock and his issues with his dual heritage, the portrayal of his human mother's heritage being less important than his father's heritage is very much a reflection of the 1960s view towards women. The movies did slightly better, and DISCO tried to say that she was sharing her heritage, too. But even in DISCO, she is so subservient to her husband that she allows him to completetely screw up a human child by trying to force it to be Vulcan.
At the end of the day, I'd take a full reboot of the relationship between Spock, his mother, and his father to better explain his issues beyond "all of Amanda's culture and heritage were suppressed by her husband and she was cool with that."
Some character needs to be invited to dinner in a Vulcan home after presenting her paper on Gorn physiology and genetics and get the scoop on Vulcan. Spock seems to be in a segment of society there that is ummmm Fundamentalist Surakian. Other Vulcans seem easier in their skin, one even commenting on all the ladies on the Enterprise. T'Pol's mother recognizes Trip's love yet Spock keeps claiming "Vulcans do not love!"
Sarek seems to have overreacted perhaps to Sybok and was determined to raise a perfect son.