I agree with the "hetero sexist bullshit" assertion of that storyline, of course.
Then again, that whole cortical inhibitor thing felt very retconn-y to me. Seven had always been portrayed as having emotions. She suppressed them at first, then later on let them show in controlled ways. I never doubted she had strog emotions, they were shown in subtle but clear ways, up to having tears in her eyes when particularly sad, touched, or similar. She just tried to keep them inside. So the whole "yeah, but she's always been unable to have REAL strong emotions, particularly, y'know, Chakotay-induced ORGASMS" angle felt... how shall I put it... forced. (Because those feelings would be stronger than, say, when she was sure she would die... sure, sure...)