I always struggle with people who can't get their heads wrapped around a character's actions which seem surprising to them.
The character DID what they did. People do it in life every single day. It's amazing how unpredictable and "out of character" real live people can be. Spock in particular is a very unpredictable fictional character and always has been.
So to your point, this minor element never took me out of the story.
Exactly. Spock's actions were always unpredictable. Plus I thought it was fan service acknowledging our favorite Vulcan's sex appeal to have Spock conversing with a woman like that (also seen with Zarabeth an ep or two later and with Jadzia admiring him over Kirk in DS9'S "Trials"). But that didn't even seem to work because Droxine was allegedly "vapid." I didn’t get that at all. I found Diana Ewing's performance charming.