It's a very nuanced question, the distinction between what is moral and what should be illegal. To me it's a question of objective harm to others vs subjective harm to others, but I'm not sure we can do this debate justice in this context.
I think you may be right there
It's not entirely Data's fault he's a 'social taker', I'm a bit of one myself.
Oh, there should be no confusion that I'm not anywhere near as good a person as most of them lol
People who don't have the best social skills and don't provide as much social benefit to others as people provide to them. A lot of 'social takers' are really trying and have the best of intentions but don't have the skills to do better. A lot of them are just people who have been raised in a way that puts the emphasis on their own feelings and not those of others. But the objective fact is, they gain more from their friendships than their friends do, whether it's their fault or not.
I just don't know if that applies to Data. Sure he imposes a lot on his social circle, from being naïve & socially under-skilled, but I feel like he also is so much more willing to be available to his social circle too
Take Data in
Descent, vs Geordi in
Interface. Two circumstances within a very short period of time during their friendship, where in
Descent, Data is confronted with a personal issue that he can only resolve by putting himself at risk (Disengaging the holodeck safeties) & Geordi refuses to help him. Now, conversely, in
Interface, Geordi is the one faced with a personal issue he feels he can only resolve by putting himself at risk, & despite his objections, Data decides to support his friend in it, rather than abandon him, in his moment of need.
In this case, Data is putting aside all of his own interests & thinking only of his friend, & how that friend would be worse off without his involvement. This kind of selflessness is a hallmark for him, even with strangers like the villagers in Thine Own Self, or the little girl in Pen Pals, & I honestly don't think that's just programming which is designed by its creator to favor the well being of others over Data, because you can literally hear him working it out, on a conscious level, in a situation like
Inheritance
Data said:
I find that I am having difficulty separating what would be best for her, from what would be best for me....
If she knew she were an android, she and I would have something to share. I would no longer be alone in the universe.
They bounce that around the table a bit with everyone weighing in, but in the end, Data makes the hard choice to be untruthful, to offer her something that's better for her than it is for him, & I don't even know if I fully agree with it, because I think she should know, but at the same time, that's what I think about what I would want, not what she would think about what she would want, & I think Data is actually weighing that, maybe better than me
Ultimately, it's hard to weigh, but I feel like Data is so much more a benefit to the people he knows, for having known him, than he is a burden. Like I said earlier, even his unskilled naivety tends to be an inspiration to people around him. Man, if I were Barclay or Geordi, & I saw Data taking a chance on a relationship with Jenna, even though it's most likely doomed, I'd totally find more courage to be doing that myself. Hell, if Data is willing to take those chances, what's stopping me? & I don't buy that it's because Data can't be hurt. That dude still thinks about Tasha, & frankly, the only reason they were intimate is because she wanted it, & he let it happen solely on those grounds. All he saw was a friend in need, & nothing else mattered