...So tell me why the last two film don't show an optimistic future? The bads guys ( terrorists and military madmen) loose. Our heroes win.
For one, the heroes are part of the same organization as the bad guys. Some have accused Orci of building this story according to his alleged "truther" sympathies. It's not the most optimistic point of view.
Given the Roddenberry push of humanity bettering itself, I would say nuKirk demonstrates that idea of reaching for one's potential
That's a piece of work to invoke Roddenberry when I doubt he would have approved of a story about internal corruption in utopia - see above. I know his writers and fans disagree, asking how can you write a story without conflict? But the point remains that even the film's title diagnoses itself as "Darkness" - not a good word or story direction into war for something optimistic.
...Personally, Trek 09 inspired me to be a better father. So, why can't these films inspire people?
On the whole, and also as a father, I like what you're saying here, but how so? Is it how Pike became a father figure to Kirk? Is it what George Kirk did to save his wife, son and the crew? But just this instant I am flashing on how Abrams intentionally emulated Spielberg in "Super 8" right down to the broken home. I'm not sure what family model that is playing at, but while "Super 8" has a missing mother, a missing father (a la E.T.) isn't much of a role model. So I'm wondering where the inspiration comes from.