Your Dream?
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A family member of mine had the first of six children at 42.
My Dream when I got out of H.S.... I always wanted to join the Air Force as a pilot or a technician (Thanks to Scotty!) and I did that (the technician part)..I did the American dream thing (wife 3 kids 2 dogs and some cats all in a house in the suburbs) till my first marriage fell apart..but I did and have seen mighty things! I'm now a remarried empty nester..going to other countries just about every year and learning as much as I can before I leave this mortal coil.. I have loved and lost, and lost someone irreplaceable to me..(some of you know about that).
I've not achieved everything I wanted to (figured we'd have tours on the Moon by now), but I do feel I've done the best with the cards I've been given.. and despite anything your political leaders would have you think, it's still a great friendly world out there..
as to children later in life..not for me..
I've not achieved everything I wanted to (figured we'd have tours on the Moon by now), but I do feel I've done the best with the cards I've been given.. and despite anything your political leaders would have you think, it's still a great friendly world out there..
as to children later in life..not for me..
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I probably wouldn't be in the club very long. For all of my frustration, sadness, and pain, I tend to bounce back. Deep, deep, deep down, I'm still an optimist, which means even when I'm at my very lowest, when all seems lost, that's when I usually get angry, and then I grab fortune by the balls and pull myself back up. I've had to do it before.
Really? Wow! Were they able to have fun with their kids, and see them grow up into adults? I mean, if you don't mind my asking.
I probably wouldn't be in the club very long. For all of my frustration, sadness, and pain, I tend to bounce back. Deep, deep, deep down, I'm still an optimist, which means even when I'm at my very lowest, when all seems lost, that's when I usually get angry, and then I grab fortune by the balls and pull myself back up. I've had to do it before.
That's what I adore about you.
Yes and yes! He passed away at 90.
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Maybe we should start a club!
I probably wouldn't be in the club very long. For all of my frustration, sadness, and pain, I tend to bounce back. Deep, deep, deep down, I'm still an optimist, which means even when I'm at my very lowest, when all seems lost, that's when I usually get angry, and then I grab fortune by the balls and pull myself back up. I've had to do it before.
That's what I adore about you.
That is astonishing. See, that's what I want. I want to have a family, to watch my kids grow up, to be a part of their lives. I want to see them off into the world, and then me and my partner can live our lives together, while we both cross our fingers waiting on grandbabies. It's something that is so indwelt within me, that I believe it's what truly generates my drive to push forward.
Honestly, this is not the a very PC thing to say, but having kids is one of the greatest things you can do. Stepkids, nieces and nephews, same deal.
Some day you'll be 70+ and who will be there? Not your career. Your family.
I'm not trying to make people feel bad who haven't managed that. I'm just trying to diss the dream=fail thing that happens in these threads when we all reflect on how we didn't become writers or astronauts. In my super humble opinion life is about relationships.
Some day you'll be 70+ and who will be there? Not your career. Your family.
I'm not trying to make people feel bad who haven't managed that. I'm just trying to diss the dream=fail thing that happens in these threads when we all reflect on how we didn't become writers or astronauts. In my super humble opinion life is about relationships.
Huzzah for your attitude and achievements! And, kids are not for everyone.
You are so riight! Relationships define us and much of what we do.
Well you could still get a job, get a family and become an amateur weather hound
Not to say you couldn't do the other things, just that a job and family are more readily in people's grasp. As someone said upthread, a lot of dreams end up as hobbies. And that's okay too.
It's certainly a possibility, though I do admit I am feeling a great deal of pressure (and significant panic) at this point.
For what it is worth, J , I was having similar feelings in my 40's and went back to school for Teaching. Lots of options now that do not involve years in school. For me, it was the best decision of my life. 57 and I am still going strong. The Planet needs good teachers. Consider joining us!
Look to James Doohan as a role model.
The membership would number in the billions. You're far from alone.Maybe we should start a club!
I remember.
I'm glad you included nieces and nephews-- that gets me off the hook.
OH yes, James Doohan 
Always a good one to remember !
Always a good one to remember !
I wanted to be a music producer. I started doing that in college, and ended up with just a "regular" music degree, then bounced around several different industries the last 10 years (pharmacy, food service, legal, retail, IT). My new "dream" is bookkeeping and accounting, and I'm taking a bookkeeping course right now to that end. I think what I've learned about myself is I have a short attention span and I have to be flexible!
Also had a plan in there about husband and kids, and while it took longer than I expected, I did manage to do that. So, doing pretty well on that part, and looking forward to adding another kid in a year or two.
Also had a plan in there about husband and kids, and while it took longer than I expected, I did manage to do that. So, doing pretty well on that part, and looking forward to adding another kid in a year or two.
^ Bacon-flavored scotch. There's your moneymaker.
To be the Supreme Overlord of the universe. Under my wise and benevolent rule, taxes would be abolished for all, except the rich. Politicians of either party would be subject to mandartory jail time once their terms were completed (length to be detemined at sentencing. I HATE politicians), including daily horse whippings. All the rest of you would get as much free ice cream (flavor of your choice) as you wanted every day.
I guess what I'm saying s, I want to be Q. I have no idea whatsoever how to go about that.
I guess what I'm saying s, I want to be Q. I have no idea whatsoever how to go about that.
^Hallucinogens.
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One of my grandmothers had all four of hers when she was in her 40's. She lived long enough to know all of her grandchildren.
Ten years out of high school, I have a college degree, a steady job, decent savings for a person my age, and my parents are doing fairly well. I don't have the digital projector I've wanted continuously since middle school, but I've had the means to buy one for years now; I've just been waiting for the ideal time and living situation to do so. I also don't have the large dog I've wanted for even longer than that, but though I could conceivably acquire one in the fairly near future, I'm better off waiting for better circumstances. As for having a vibrant social life and even a relationship... the latter is not looking feasible before 2016, nor do things look too hot for the former in said time frame, but, we'll see. 
For now, I'm in an isolated, small-time military base, just waiting for an honorable discharge 10 or 13 months down the line (I'm hoping 10), so I can use the Post-9/11 GI Bill to get a free master's degree, and use that to get a high-quality, high-paying job I enjoy to a reasonable extent, which will in turn pay for the large dog and a life that a cool geek woman might be interested in sharing. So, barring some unforeseeable freak event, my long-term prospects look good... even if the year ahead portends (another) ordeal of boredom. Dog-less, non-dating boredom. I am the tortoise, not the hare.
For now, I'm in an isolated, small-time military base, just waiting for an honorable discharge 10 or 13 months down the line (I'm hoping 10), so I can use the Post-9/11 GI Bill to get a free master's degree, and use that to get a high-quality, high-paying job I enjoy to a reasonable extent, which will in turn pay for the large dog and a life that a cool geek woman might be interested in sharing. So, barring some unforeseeable freak event, my long-term prospects look good... even if the year ahead portends (another) ordeal of boredom. Dog-less, non-dating boredom. I am the tortoise, not the hare.
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