Your Boyfriend Was In A Porn Movie

[JonathonWally]

So, we have the other thread with mostly men discussing their thoughts about women in porn. And, we'll let that discussion stay over there.

I'm curious to hear from the ladies and gay men of Trekbbs.

What would you do if you found out your boyfriend was in porn?

 

[Jetfire]

What would you do if you found out that the person you were currently dating had done porn?

I personally would find it upsetting...I don't know if it would be a dealbreaker, it is close though.

I was kinda tryin' to keep it open to everyone. The title does discourage women & gay men...I am sorry for that.

 

[JonathonWally]

But since that thread got hetero-male dominated pretty quickly, I wanted to start this thread to see the gender roles the other way and how people felt about it. Maybe the feelings expressed would be the same, maybe different.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

Let me be the first to mention in this thread my new favorite phrase, "consumed by the horny populous".

 

[JonathonWally]

Let me be the first to mention in this thread my new favorite phrase, "consumed by the horny populous".

Anything of actual value to add?

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

Let me be the first to mention in this thread my new favorite phrase, "consumed by the horny populous".

Anything of actual value to add?

No, just can't get that phrase out of my head. I think I have Danoz to thank for that...

 

[Kestra]

I'd probably be weirded out and react badly, at least at first. Maybe I'd eventually take the time to learn more about the guy and the porn industry before making any definitive judgments. I don't think I'd ever be happy about it? But I'd like to be able to move beyond a gut reaction and more at the situation as a whole.

 

[sidious618]

I'm straight but I might date a male porn star for a little while if he asked. It'd make a great story down the line. "Yeah, I saw this guy who was a porn star for a while but those days are in my past. I've some great tales for you, though! This one time I was on set..."

 

[Gryffindorian]

Let me be the first to mention in this thread my new favorite phrase, "consumed by the horny populous".

*Sigh* Isn't it supposed to be populace? Populous is an adjective meaning "numerous, densely populated. Populace is a noun meaning "masses, population."

EDIT:

To answer the question, however, from a gay/bi perspective, I would just make sure the guy was healthy or not infectious.

 

[TorontoTrekker]

So long as he was clean and disease-free, and no longer involved in the industry, I probably wouldn't be all that averse. Though I'd probably feel as though I were inadequate from time to time.

 

[AstroSmurf]

I wouldn't care really. I am open enough to know that it is just a job and means nothing. Having sex and being intimate are two completely different things. My only concern would be the health issue. Bareback would not be an option. I would also ask that they not kiss either. I have always been very careful and I would expect them to respect that and be truthful.

 

[Wil has a posse]

Talk about feeling inadequate! I'd prefer not to date someone that would compare me to the numerous hotties they were paid to boink over the years.

 

[Spot's Meow]

If they were currently doing porn or wanted to start up again while we were dating, I would probably break up with him. However, if it was all confined to his past, then I don't really know. It's one of those things that I would have to wait and see how I react at the time, especially since I can't imagine my science-nerd Star Trek watching boyfriend ever being in porn.

 

[trampledamage]

I think it would depend on whether he was still making porn movies or not. If it was something from his past then it wouldn't bother me - so long as he didn't want me to watch his movies, that would definitely make me feel uncomfortable!

If he was still making them? Not sure... that would be odd, for all that it's "just another job" it isn't really on a par with working in an office! Would depend on how much I liked the guy I guess.

 

[Caleuche]

In past and been tested clean then I think I could be fine. Still active, no, not a snowballs chance in hell. Being in an open relationship isn't something I could deal with, whether he was being paid for it or not.

 

[Crusher Disciple]

So long as he was clean and disease-free,

Yeah, the "disease free" part is what I would worry about.

 

[Tom Riley]

Ha! I've been through this! Sort of. My last boyfriend was asked to be in a porn movie while we were dating. I told him I didn't want him doing it. So he didn't.

I would not want to be dating someone who was currently making porn. I would not be able to stand the idea that my boyfriend was going off and doing someone else, regardless of whether it meant anything or not.

If it was in the past, I'd be fine with it. I wouldn't worry about him comparing me to the other guys he was with in porn because if he's with me now then there must be something about me that he likes. The only thing is that I'd want to be sure he was disease free.

 

[Bloodwhiner]

At least you know he was well endowed and could last.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

So, we have the other thread with mostly men discussing their thoughts about women in porn. And, we'll let that discussion stay over there.

I'm curious to hear from the ladies and gay men of Trekbbs.

What would you do if you found out your boyfriend was in porn?

I think i just came.

 

[Gryffindorian]

Elaborate.