Why do women use crying to get their way?

[T J]

Honestly! What does whaling like a 3 year old get women? There is nothing worse than trying to have a conversation (albeit a little heated) when she starts blubbering like a toddler. Is it a defense mechanism? Is it their method of getting their way? I can have a heated conversation without devolving into a 3 year old. It's maddening! The only effect it has on me is I want to get away by any means necessary. Someone enlighten me, please!

 

[clint g]

Cause it works

 

[Canadave]

This is going to end well...

 

[T J]

Cause it works

Didn't last night.

 

[SeerSGB]

Doesn't work on me. My wife tried that when we first got married, 1 time. I just looked at her said "when you're ready to act like an adult let me know" and walked out of the room.

 

[Data Holmes]

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There's really nothing funny about domestic violence.

 

[WillsBabe]

Sometimes if a conversation is getting heated I feel like I am going to start crying. I find it humiliating and it adds to my anger. It's not a strategy to get my way. It's embarrassing and humiliating. Whether other people use it as a strategy to get their ways, I dunno. I do know that men think that's what's happening, but I can tell you that in my case, it really isn't.

 

[The Sneeze Police]

Altough I am rather laconic for a woman, I cry easily under certain circumstances...like parades or certain movies. I could see how some people might exhibit strong feelings during an argument by crying...I agree with WillsBabe and suspect it is a manifestation of stress and not manipulation...purely unintentional.

 

[Pingfah]

Well clearly everyone is different, I know plenty of women that would find the idea of bursting into tears to be ridiculous. Others probably do it because arguments upset them.

And still others, to echo another poster, do it because it works. We use whatever is in our arsenal. Due to our cultural expectations of each other, this particular weapon is not available to men since it would result in ridicule before anything else. However, i'm sure if it worked there'd be men that do it.

 

[Kestra]

Due to our cultural expectations of each other, this particular weapon is not available to men since it would result in ridicule before anything else. However, i'm sure if it worked there'd be men that do it.

Eh, since guys generally cry less, it has more impact.

 

[Pingfah]

Well, maybe you're more sympathetic than some, but I can just see how far i'd get in an argument with my partner were I to burst into tears, and that is not far. But then she'd know they couldn't possibly be for real as it is simply not within my range of ability to cry as a result of an argument.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

Cause it works

This.

 

[Kestra]

Well, maybe you're more sympathetic than some, but I can just see how far i'd get in a argument with my partner were I to burst into tears, and that is not far. But then she'd know they couldn't possibly be for real as it is simply not within my range of ability to cry as a result of an argument.

Oh yeah, I'd fall for tears from anyone. But I'm not speaking of just some random argument, I'm talking about women losing their resolve to break up with someone because the guy starts crying a bit. Kind of like saving it for the big fights, or something.

I cry all the time but it's not a manipulative thing. I'm really just that emotional. When I was little my dad used to tell me he'd have to get a second job just to pay for all the tissues I used from crying. That just made me cry more.

 

[Aurian]

I hate crying. It makes me look hidious. Whenever I cry I just want to hide away.

 

[Shatmandu]

Honestly! What does whaling like a 3 year old get women? There is nothing worse than trying to have a conversation (albeit a little heated) when she starts blubbering like a toddler. Is it a defense mechanism? Is it their method of getting their way? I can have a heated conversation without devolving into a 3 year old. It's maddening! The only effect it has on me is I want to get away by any means necessary. Someone enlighten me, please!

What you need to watch for is when she doesn't cry in a similar situation.

As soon as you're not worth spilling tears over any more, then you're done. So long.

Joe, been there

 

[Aurian]

Honestly! What does whaling like a 3 year old get women? There is nothing worse than trying to have a conversation (albeit a little heated) when she starts blubbering like a toddler. Is it a defense mechanism? Is it their method of getting their way? I can have a heated conversation without devolving into a 3 year old. It's maddening! The only effect it has on me is I want to get away by any means necessary. Someone enlighten me, please!

What you need to watch for is when she doesn't cry in a similar situation.

As soon as you're not worth spilling tears over any more, then you're done. So long.

Joe, been there

Oh yes. Very true.

 

[Ruby_Fiction]

I hate crying in front of people, I find it really embarassing unless there's a really good reason. I'd hate to cry in an argument- it's hard enough to keep your dignity as it is, let alone having puffy eyes and a runny nose!

 

[Robert Maxwell]

My wife finds yelling more effective than crying.

 

[SeerSGB]

Seriously guys, you want to win: Don't talk. Once they start yellling, start crying, whatever, just clam up, lean back and wait for them to be finished. Or, if you're going for extra piss off points, go outside work in the yard, and when she starts onto you about walking away just say you've already seen this play and it ends badly so you walked out of the show early.

 

[Ruby_Fiction]

I guess if someone's really upset that's a bit different but crying purely for manipulation and to win an argument isn't good and I wouldn't blame anyone for walking away from that.