Who's on your list of five?

[sbk1234]

For no reason of any importance, except to see what people think and perhaps start some friendly conversation, who's on your list of five? You know what that is. It's the list of five people that you're allowed to be unfaithful with and get a pass from your significant other.
Let's keep it clean, but who did your wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/whoever tell you it's alright and guilt free to be with?

 

[auntiehill]

No one, because I would never be unfaithful and I wouldn't even joke about it.

 

[Miss Chicken]

I haven't have a significant other for over 20 years.

If I did have a SO I wouldn't be unfaithful, and I would not let my SO control who I should be allowed to be friends with.

 

[auntiehill]

^sbk1234 is not talking about being "friends." This is the old, fairly adolescent game of "Who could you shag with your spouse's permission" game.

I'm sorry but I just find the whole idea, game or not, to be really distasteful.

 

[USS Triumphant]

My wife is bi and we're polygynous (though our last girlfriend was back in 1999), so this "game" isn't really fair for me to play, I don't guess? My answer would be two of our exes that we're still on good terms with, and pretty much any other woman that we would both find attractive and want to live with us. There are a few in our mutual friends on Facebook that we flirt with and talk about (mostly, old school friends that either never married or have divorced), but honestly I think we got too old and too heartbroken with the last girlfriend for anything serious to happen in that direction again. Which suits me fine.

 

[Doom Shepherd]

I always understood the List of Five to be about celebrity crushes, therefore adding a level of "this is harmless because it will obviously happen just after I win the Powerball and am unanimously elected God-Emperor." Seems to me on the List of Things to be Outraged About, this ranks somewhere below "That time I stepped on a Lego 20 years ago."

 

[USS Triumphant]

Oh. Celebrities? Well, I guess my five would probably be Ciara, Amy Lee (from Evanescence), Anna Silk, Ksenia Solo, and Zoie Palmer. Provided my wife was there. Otherwise I'd be a dead man. Not because she'd be jealous of them, but because she'd be super jealous OF ME.

 

[Doom Shepherd]

Tori Amos, Natalie Portman, Rosario Dawson, Karen Gillan, and Dakota Skye.

And my wife's are Ron Perlman, Karl Urban, Vincent D'Onofrio, Jeff Goldblum, and... I think Adam Levine took the #5 spot a while back.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

Like Auntie's, my list is empty. I'm a strictly one guy girl.

 

[rRico]

Matt Smith, Sean Lockhart, Milo Yiannopoulos, Chris Colfer, Tom Welling

 

[USS Triumphant]

Like Auntie's, my list is empty. I'm a strictly one guy girl.

Me, too, honestly, these days - the celebrity list I put together above is actually women I've heard *my wife* comment on. Not that I'd kick any of 'em out of bed, exactly.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

LOL highly understandable. If Peter Wingfield ever got divorced...

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

Since I'm single, I feel free to answer this question, because I have no one to tell me otherwise.

1. Mindy Kaling
2 - 5. See #1

Not a real complicated list, innit?

 

[Miss Chicken]

I must have been born old or something. If I get a crush on a man it is for his mind not his looks.

 

[sttngfan1701d]

I'm single. If I wasn't, I'd never cheat on my S.O. no matter what. But since I'm single:

Jenna Coleman, Yami Gautam, Sonam Kapoor, Vaani Kapoor, Neha Sharma.

 

[Rincewiend]

Looks like someone has been re-watching Friends....

 

[ThankQ]

Sorry, I just can't bring myself to objectify women in this way. But I'll put Cool Eddie on my list. I'll objectify the fuck out of him!

 

[rRico]

Sorry, I just can't bring myself to objectify women in this way. But I'll put Cool Eddie on my list. I'll objectify the fuck out of him!

I wouldn't object them either. I'll take the rest of your list if you're not going to use it.

 

[Ensign]

Anyone, in principle, because we dont own eachother.

 

[USS Triumphant]

Sorry, I just can't bring myself to objectify women in this way.

It isn't necessarily objectifying a person to admire them physically and believe that you would enjoy having sex with them. I work with a good number of women, and some of them I find fairly attractive in that way, and others I do not, but that has not one single thing to do with whether or not I respect them as people or their abilities as a co-worker*. Nor would I ever comment about their attractiveness in the workplace, because that's unprofessional, aside from the very, very rare "you look very sharp today" if I can tell that someone has put extra effort into their appearance that day and I believe they would enjoy such a comment on it, or a reassurance that they are attractive if they've broached the subject in casual conversation and I honestly believe it (otherwise, I'd just keep my mouth shut about it). And even that, I would in such a way so as not to seem like I'm hitting on them, because that's unprofessional. It's called being an adult, but yes, I know not everyone seems to actually manage it - or even try all that hard.

*With the exception that I have found that losing a lot of respect for someone also tends to make them less physically attractive to me. Guess that's that whole suitability-as-a-mate thing, and a subconscious re-evaluation that they wouldn't be.