Christmas Day condundrum. FIL and SisterIL will have Christmas lunch at 1pm at FIL place. We are not invited to lunch but welcome to come up in the afternoon. Son will be working 'til 2/3am C. Eve. and probably not home until the very early hours, so we won't be having Christmas lunch until 3'ish ~ which will hopefully take a few hours. Obviously I want to spend Christmas Day with Son and be lazy as I'm working most of Christmas. Man feels he should spend afternoon with FIL and SIL. I feel obliged to go and see them ~ and the word is 'obliged'. So the logistics are off ~ options? 1) Miss my pressie opening in pj's, bucks fizz, lazy breakfast and go round before they have lunch? 2) Potter down to them later in the afternoon when we are all sleepy and miss the cheesy Christmas film. 3) Do something Boxing Day Why is it so difficult?