I'm with you here. I do believe it's something the government should stay out of. Civil unions for everyone, if they must, and religious ceremonies and "marriage" as something with no legal recognition. It was my understanding that at least in the US, common-law doesn't apply in the vast majority of states. I could be wrong about that. The divorce system does favor women, particularly in custody matters. Then again you have people like my sister who got screwed over financially by her marriage and subsequent divorce, or couples like my husband and I where he was actually the one that wanted to get married.